Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!!

Few-Ant-5425 · 2025-07-03T21:19:52+00:00

Men just don’t like makeup when it’s caked on/excessive. If it’s light/natural they generally don’t take issue with it

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-07-03T21:19:06+00:00

Tattoos seem to be a big one people don't talk about. Obviously, some guys love them, but I read a post once where a guy had Photoshopped his girlfriend's tattoos away and he couldn't get past how much more attractive he'd found her, even though he was the guy who liked tattoos. Overall, I'd suggest women do what they like, but keep in mind whether or not it attracts the men they like.

Technical_Cupcake597 · 2025-07-04T12:21:37+00:00

This is so true! And there’s another comment above that said women need to consider if what they do/wear/say attracts the men THEY LIKE.

For instance, if I kept wearing a certain perfume, I might attract a lot of bees. I might be allergic to bees or just not prefer them. I cannot get mad at the bees! I have to change my strategy if I want to attract butterflies. Yes ladies, it really is that simple. No, they won’t just “like you for you”, men like to look at, smell, touch, what they like. Women have to accept that men are men. They are who they are.

Consistent-Citron513 · 2025-07-03T23:07:31+00:00

It kind of goes without saying that we should not expect people, men or women, to be attracted to everything just because it may be something we do or like. Women can wear what they want and also shouldn't be offended over a matter of preference. I've never liked nail polish on guys (it has been a trend before). I also don't like tattoos or piercings of anything other than the ear (and no gauges). I don't like excessive chest/body hair. We've all got our things.

serene_brutality · 2025-07-04T02:41:29+00:00

I think the gut reaction is “I put so much effort into…” and kinda get their feelings hurt when it’s not appreciated.

The feeling is kind of childish when you think about it. On some level we really want everyone to like us, but when we don’t like someone it should be no big deal and most people are at least a little bit like that. It’s part of the reason why both sexes sometimes react harshly when rejected “you’re fat anyway/what are you gay?” Type stuff.

Typical_Elderberry10 · 2025-07-07T14:54:13+00:00

When I was a teen and my mother taught me how to put on makeup, she told me that if people notice the makeup more than your beautiful face, you’re doing it wrong. She taught me it should accentuate your natural features, and look somewhat natural. Blending and blotting is key. My husband hates heavy makeup. When we see those young ladies who wear big fake eyelashes and tons of makeup, he always comments that they look “like clowns”. And the only men I have seen wearing nail polish are gay men. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anonymous_fiend · 2025-07-04T00:04:29+00:00

Most men DO like well applied makeup that lightly enhances. However most trendy makeup isn’t that as it is too “makeupy”. If you notice the makeup before too much you’re doing it wrong.(exceptions- nights out or any occasion that would require to dress in cocktail attire or above). While you shouldn’t dress in frumpy clothes it’s also odd to wear a prom dress around town. Same with makeup. The best clothes and makeup shouldn’t be to attention grabbing as it can detract from your natural beauty. It’s overpowering for people who don’t have very dramatic facial features. And that’s even well done makeup that matches the outfit. A full glam look wearing jeans and a tee clashes. A warm toned person wearing cool toned makeup and warm toned clothes will look worse than if they wore a natural neutral makeup look. Heavy eyes shouldn’t be worn with heavy lip.

They seem to be big fans of soft girl, latte, and “no makeup” makeup. These styles can actually be a full face of makeup and not just a quick 5 min look. So it’s not the amount of makeup it’s the style and technique. As for technique poorly blended and not understanding how/where/amount to apply will create an unflattering look. Mixing warm and cool shades can be unharmonious. Having a good base is necessary. And a lot of makeup isn’t meant to look good irl it’s meant for photography and certain lighting. Daylight in person looks vs night/studio looks are very different. Men really hated 2016 makeup as it was night glam worn daily.

hangun_ · 2025-07-05T18:16:05+00:00

Except when they let their little daughters do it to them lol. It's like, peak masculinity for me lol. **swoon**

Nice-Awareness-5827 · 2025-07-20T05:28:53+00:00

Hot take, but I think really any makeup (besides mascara and chapstick) in guys’ eyes ages you when you’re older than early twenties. I think the makeup can often age women and they don’t look as fresh.

Ok_Pomegranate7730 · 2025-07-04T04:49:48+00:00

I have a straight ( has a gf) male colleague at work who started doing nail polish. I don’t like and try to ignore it, but I think it more has to do that in my head it’s coded as female I wouldn’t say anything to him, he does what he wants, it’s just my knee-jerk reaction to look away

My husbands hates very visible obvious makeup because he’s very touchy with my face

But believe when I do a very good makeup that gives me a fresher look he sure loves it

I just learned with him he likes foundation that is well buffed in Barely visible good makeup takes years or practice. And a full glam makeup that he still would find likable is really lots of effort. I try to put more effort in my skin. You don’t need candy foundation with good skin

Werevulvi · 2025-07-04T08:21:51+00:00

There are plenty of things that both genders do that the opposite gender doesn't like. Although women's complaints is mostly in regards to men's clothing, a lot of women also have issues with various facial hair choices men make, and I think that's the closest equivalent to makeup on women.

But men in general are usually more incentiviced to do things with their appearance that women find attractive, and are more likely to take an "x looks bad on you" as advice on how to do better. Likely because men generally have a harder time in the dating market.

But women are instead more likely to take it as an offense if a man doesn't like something she does with her appearance. Women are generally more invested in having the freedom to look however they want, because we don't have to compete as hard for men in the dating market. We're more incentiviced to find the men who like us for however we choose to look, because we theoretically have that luxuary.

I think that's why when men tell women their makeup looks bad, they're more likely to just get annoyed by this man's bold opinion. Because we don't have a lot to lose on rejecting men who don't approve of our makeup choices. While when women tell men that for ex their facial hair looks bad, men are more likely to just shave instead. Because they do have a lot to lose on not doing what pleases the woman. They may not get another date again, for all they know.

But yeah, I don't think men hate most makeup women wear. It seems to only be very heavy makeup, and alternative makeup. Like cakey foundation, heavy eyeliner and blue lipstick. Never heard a man complain about a dash of mascara, some blush or a BB cream. Red lipstick is kinda the exception though. It's the one bold and obvious kinda makeup that men generally seem to like. Probably because it looks seductive, and leaving red kiss marks on a man is quite sexualized. But smudging heavy foundation on a man just doesn't have that same romantic/erotic effect.

Ok_Investigator7568 · 2025-07-04T03:09:17+00:00

You were an NPC but now you are 1% awake

alis_adventureland · 2025-07-23T01:36:25+00:00

I don't think anyone expects men, in general, to like their makeup. Everyone, men and women, have differing opinions on what is "attractive". What some men find over the top, another finds hot and sexy. Wear and present yourself with the energy you want to attract.

Valuable-Ease5411 · 2025-07-27T19:02:51+00:00

I’ve noticed that when I watch these girls on instagram doing their makeup… I always think they’re way more beautiful before. Gives a lot of perspective.

prostheticaxxx · 2025-07-06T22:01:07+00:00

Women aren't all trying to be attractive to men or to that particular men, it's said out of entitlement and sexism. Next question dumbass subreddit

AutoModerator · 2025-07-03T20:48:37+00:00

Title: Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!!

Author GlitterMcSprinkle

Full text: I would get offended by statements like this or think "they just don't get it. Women can wear what they want" etc. And it's true, anyone can wear what they want – but it's not fair to also expect men to like it or be attracted to it.

What opened my eyes: hand nail polish on men. I don't like it at all 😭😩 I've really tried because I know it's become trendier and trendier but I hate it. Oddly, I think painted toes would be kinda cute lolll but when I see a man with their hands painted it's hateeee it

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