I went out yesterday (and it had been over 2 years since I’ve been to a bar) and I confirmed that bars are not the ideal pickup scene for me. I just find the bar scene a bit strange…there’s music playing but no one’s dancing; everyone’s just huddled up staring at the DJ booth. It’s far too loud to hold a conversation and the bright lights and crowdedness of the bar makes it difficult to concentrate. Last night I managed to get one woman’s socials, but I felt like shouting over the music for most of the conversation takes away the charm for awkwardness. It doesn’t help that I don’t drink either, so the whole bar scene is a pretty distracting environment for me.

I have mainly found pretty consistent success through striking conversation in public, dating apps, and meeting people through mutual friends. Am I shooting down the bar scene too quickly? Also, even smaller sit-down bars I’ve been to have fairly loud music. I honestly prefer places where I just don’t have to strain my vocal cords or repeat myself 4 times.