Getting a girl back

nothavingagoodthyme · 2025-08-02T19:24:12+00:00

Stop talking to her and move on. Some cognitive dissonance but that’s the only way.

Southern-Task1068 · 2025-08-02T18:45:34+00:00

You “need” her back? Yeah that’s desperation and unhealthy. Let her go.

No-Lobster-4646 · 2025-08-02T18:58:02+00:00

You don’t need to tell her anything. What you need to do is change if you want her back. And don’t just tell her you changed. Show her. This will require time because real change takes time.

UltraAirWolf · 2025-08-02T20:53:06+00:00

The only way this will ever work is to get her chasing you. Be nice, but don’t reach out. Make her jealous, but be very very subtle. If she knows what you’re doing the jig is up. Do not pursue her. Make what you want want you.

Sulla314 · 2025-08-02T18:41:56+00:00

Why did you break up with her? Has she been contacting you?

No_Plum_6409 · 2025-08-02T19:53:41+00:00

Desperation will only push her away. If you want her back you need to not "need" her.

srwat · 2025-08-02T23:32:58+00:00

Improve yourself and work on doing better for yourself for you. If she happens to return to your life in some shape or form after you're in a healthier headspace then so be it, but the best thing for you is to just push forward, become stronger and do you.

Don't have some mindset of "I'll get 6 pack abs and then she'll reconsider" because that is just gambling with massive RNG right there and your chances are literally random depending on why she left you and it'd be extremely mentally unhealthy for future you even if such tactics did work out.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-02T19:54:03+00:00

She is not ready for a relationship, so just because you love her a lot doesn't mean she becomes ready for a relationship. Seems like you struggle to understand that your feelings don't entitle you to have someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship. There is nothing you can tell her because it's not about convicing her or fighting to keep her.

If she is not ready, she is not ready. And contrary to what someone else said, it's not even about changing. Because not being ready means that it's irrelevant if you change or not. She just doesn't want to be in a relationship. Women have agency to not want something, no matter what you do. It's not in your control.

burncushlikewood · 2025-08-03T01:55:14+00:00

This just sounds sad my man, it's tough that you have feelings for her and it sounds like she doesn't reciprocate, maybe you're just falling for girls easily because of sex, but a relationship requires interest from both sides, give it up. My suggestion is to go out and actively pursue other girls, cause I'm sure she'll see other guys, and try and put this one past you, you haven't given us details about the relationship, maybe it's her fault, maybe it's yours who knows

FoggyDanto · 2025-08-03T09:04:56+00:00

You know when people date, they talk to many potentials, that is, people who they deem attractive, and out of them go with the one who also likes them too and is also ready for a relationship or the same thing they are looking for. That is, they talk to many girls until they find one who fits the description.

But for your case, you have given yourself a mission of winning over a certain girl, albeit one you were with in a relationship before. That's like telling a guy, I want you to go and try to date that girl over there with the red hair, and I will give you X amount.

You see how hard it is, coz it goes against the normal flow. You're fixating on a certain girl, and want to ensure you get her. Instead of the normal talking to many people and finding a person who wants you and wants the same thing as you.

I'd say you've given yourself a very hard almost impossible task.

If you want, you can have mercy on yourself, talk to many girls, and find one who wants you and wants the same thing as you.

You will realise when you get older, life is too short, especially your vibrant youth which you will never ever get back again, to waste it chasing over a girl who is lukewarm or giving mixed signals, or even doesn't want you.

Matter_Still · 2025-08-02T21:13:12+00:00

What’s wrong with this picture? SHE isn’t ready for a relationship so YOU end the relationship you have and, yes, if she’s your girlfriend you are in a have a relationship.

I’m the furthest thing from a Christian and yet Paul nailed it when he wrote, “Love is patient, love is kind.”

If you loved her “so much” why would you take your ball and go home because she wasn’t “ready” for whatever you demanded?

Why would you not say, “All right. I’m willing to wait. You’re worth it?”

Like I said, “What’s wrong with this picture?”

Ok_Investigator7568 · 2025-08-03T02:05:35+00:00

If you didnt breed her enough, yet, are on your knees now, let her go, son

ttdriver8j · 2025-08-03T11:14:01+00:00

Don't do it, not a good idea. I try years ago and it's a waste of time.

Dandys3107 · 2025-08-03T14:25:55+00:00

These are withdrawal symptoms of your hormonal high, pretty much the same like you would get of a substance addiction. It will pass with time, eat well, sleep well, work out to speed up the process. Woman can always leave you for whatever reason, you need to rely on your attractiveness value, not other person's mood or changing preferences.

Patronus100 · 2025-08-03T15:31:35+00:00

Tattoo her name across your heart so she'll be yours forever. Think about it man, she meant this much to you, so even if you don't get her in the flesh, you have her in spirit. This is the most important person in your life ever, so you need to symbolise her in ink. And who knows? She might notice this grand gesture ;-)

DoubleDownBear · 2025-08-04T03:04:03+00:00

Bro, I cut off a lot of girls in my life. You are the price to get, not her Just keep improving yourself

The first girl now is some fail tik tok girl always attempt tk get 200 likes 2nd girl working long hours shift to make it work.

While I am better off after this 8 years travelling and taking vacation with my family 2 to 3 times per year. They could have been the one.

Neat-Egg5659 · 2025-08-04T04:33:08+00:00

been there after I ended things with my girl. I thought i needed her back too. What helped: no contact for 2 months, hit the gym daily, started dating other people. either she comes back or you realize you dont actually need her. both outcomes are wins

Title	Getting a girl back
Author	Whole_Thanks_612
Upvotes	15
Comments	34
Date	August 2, 2025 6:33 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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