Fear and anxiety over future

Last-Researcher8796 · 2025-08-27T19:42:09+00:00

Try to keep busy. Obviously difficult come night time but anything to avoid having your head spinning. Good luck.

Schmetts · 2025-08-22T20:45:32+00:00

I am in roughly the same part of the process. Going from a secure future to an insecure future is absolutely brutal, far and away the hardest part of this for me. I can't stop my brain from moving a mile a minute. Humans are wired to want to problem-solve everything but some problems don't have any solutions except time, and that does not compute with how we see the world.

Beautiful-Ice-9172 · 2025-08-22T15:06:05+00:00

Can you get CBD oil where you live? Won't get you high. It helped me with panic attacks about this same stuff. I could go through a day without them then.

Excersisze. Exercising has been proven to reduce stress. You get a side benifit of getting healthier. Lift weights, run, body weight excersisze. Will cut your stress in half at least.

You are not weak bro. You are starting one of the most stressful things a man can go through. It's ok though. If I can make it through, you can too.

My unsolicited advice:

Work out

Every chance you can make the most of time with your children. Don't screw up visits

Work on improving yourself

Get hobbies, friends, a schedule.

Know that family courts are biased. Do not go in with your hopes up. Learn outcome independence.

Get a lawyer, ask around. Not all lawyers are equal.

TimelyResearch1702 · 2025-08-22T14:49:08+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. I've been having similar thoughts for long time but didn't launch the plan.

Get therapist if you don't have one, good one will do wonders. What you are asking - how to manage your mental state - is exactly what therapist is for. She'll teach you techniques and tools to do exactly that.

Have you consulted lawyers? Did they tell you about worse case scenarios and you are focused on them rather than the most likely scenarios? If so, we are similar. Again, therapist will point that out and give you advise how to change that thought pattern.

Wishing you strength.

Reflog1791 · 2025-08-22T13:44:39+00:00

Try light yoga and stretching with breathing exercises at 8pm sharp. Read a good book with a cup of tea until you zonk out at 9pm sharp. Wake up at 5am and go for a jog. Throw in a quick yoga stretch and work your way up to 50 push-ups in one go.

Develop some healthy habits and you will find yourself feeling great in 2 weeks. You just have to do it.

If you are feeling anxiety or on verge of a panic attack look for guided meditation on YouTube. Motivational speeches on YouTube when you don’t feel like getting out of bed and going on that jog.

Dance in the kitchen with music when you’re making coffee and breakfast. Be happy man!

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-08-22T13:32:21+00:00

Change is always scary, and this is a big change.

After a few years you are going to be way happier than you ever were. You will get 50/50 with your kid by default. You'll no longer be supporting your ex so you will have more money than ever. Get to the gym and you'll have no shortage of woman of all ages wanting to date you.

But that first year is going to be a total write off. Do not expect to be sharp or functioning normally. Every guy goes through this, you just have to accept you are going to be a basket case for a spell, and that is ok.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-08-22T11:05:20+00:00

Completely normal feelings to have. I had to get on some lite sleep meds that shut my brain off because like you, I was running a scenarios at night and could not sleep.

Maybe talk to you Doctor and see if you can get a prescription.

Freeman2be · 2025-08-22T09:36:40+00:00

As others have suggested, write it down (journal) and share here. Also, find a good therapist and a couple trustworthy friends/family members. Exercise - I cannot tell you how important this is (even if your not a gym guy, start taking daily walks - it's amazing how much better you will feel and the clarity it will begin to bring you). Eat healthy (or at least a little cleaner and healthier than you are now). Dial back the booze (especially when alone). Try melatonin or similar to help with sleep. Socialize - go out at least once a week with some buddies. Hang in there brother.

upvotersfortruth · 2025-08-22T08:26:01+00:00

Write it down. Post here. Stay away from substances. But without question there will be some impact. Talk to a friend and a therapist. You're not alone and our collective experience covers a lot of scenarios.

Title	Fear and anxiety over future
Author	Odd-Introductions
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Date	August 22, 2025 7:28 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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