What is the appeal of being each gender socially and romantically? Pros and cons?

TheGloriousEv0lution · 2025-08-25T01:04:51+00:00

There’s a clear ‘women are wonderful’ effect in our society, and dating is easy mode for women but I’m sure women here will say otherwise for obvious reasons. Biggest con is definitely the bigger risk to sexual violence and that’s a very valid concern that women face

Men don’t have to experience periods or pregnancy which is really nice. The period cramps stories I hear from my girl sound miserable. Probably the biggest con is being considered more expendable by society, and that idea trickles down in a lot of unfortunate ways

Both genders have their own unique struggles that’s hard for the other to properly understand

Gravel_Roads · 2025-08-25T01:03:23+00:00

This is entirely dependent on your individual personality.

There are rich people who are still miserable - rich famous actors commit suicide, while dirt poor losers living in a trailer park might love every minute of their simple life.

As a queer man, there were a lot of "downsides" in my life - gay marriage wasn't even legalized for the first half of my life, and I was surrounded by religious people who were hostile and judgemental of my existence.

But I love my life, because I am able to see how hardship has made me tougher and more able to bounce back from set-backs. I went through a lot, so now I know what to do in a lot of really complicated situations, which has helped me in my work as a counselor, as I can relate to things someone else with a more sheltered life would struggle with.

There are men and women who have charmed, sheltered, comfortable lives and they're miserable. Many will blame their misery on their gender - "I can't succeed, my gender holds me back!"

Meanwhile, there are men who go through nursing school in spite of how hard it is to be a nurse as a man. There are women who go into STEM in spite of how hostile some STEM fields are to women. And they are probably happier than people who just have things handed to them, because the secret is adversity teaches resilience if you let it, and after you learn how to become resilient, it can feel like a superpower against all the people who completely melt down every time a mishap comes their way.

Vast-Release-545 · 2025-08-25T01:27:52+00:00

Women Pro: More options, more attention. if they want they can get hookups whenever they want.

Women cons: Getting played, lead on by fuck boy types, much higher risk of sexual assault.

Men pro: Rape and sexual violence is much less likely.

Men con: Worry about being perceived as creepy or as a potential sex offender, potentially catching an accusation even if it's false. Feeling like your the one who has to pursue, and make all the moves.

A bit biased cause I'm only speaking from the side that I know.

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ResponsibilityAny217 · 2025-08-25T02:18:03+00:00

Women PRO

- dating is more passive

-Lower Libido

- dating is more fun

- Dating saves you money vs singleness

- Carry the instruments of childbearing/life

- Easier for people to rest with us

- u can enjoy a woman's prime and a mans prime (as traditionally stated)

-multiple orgasm

-clothes & makeup

- no maternity fraud

-more birth control

-easier to get multiple boyfriends

- kids will probably love u more

-avg man is easier to replace than avg woman

-emotions

Women Cons

- Dating has a larger potential to be violent

-vetting is extremely important but annoying task

-Burden of childbearing

-Bigger Burden/share of Childrearing

-lots of birth control is often 24/7 jacking up ur hormones or come with side effects

- expectations that u do the majority of chores at home

Men Pros

- Usually the picker/hunters

- fatherhood is considered 50% of parent hood even though they usually do less than 50% of parenting.

- save money single vs dating

- Low looks threshold

- no pregnancy so they don't risk their life but still get a kid

- easy birth control

- less expectation of chores

-easier time being introverted

-strong

-easier to get fit

- safer while dating

-easier time orgasming (especially in PIV sex)

- can reproduce longer

Men Cons

- hard time attracting opposite sex compared to women

-high libido

- paternity fraud

- emotionally repressed often this contributes to a lot of dangerous outlets(drugs, drinking, violence, suicide)

-dating is expensive

so far that's what I have

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-08-25T02:32:29+00:00

My perspective, or other men’s perspectives? I’ll go by mine:

Pros:

I can be left alone whenever I want with just headphones
Lots of women have decent jobs now, and are still up to do lots of housework
I wake up pretty. My hair needs no styling. I need no makeup. 99% of my maintenance is just hygiene.
I’m a stereotypical top in nearly every way. This makes life simple
No woman has ever been violent with me, even if they can sometimes be emotionally manipulative, grope me, or push my boundaries
Men can be psychos. This lowers the behavioral bar for other men, to an extent. Women have to compete with the behavior of other women, which has a higher baseline.

Cons:

I’m expendable. I’m expected by society to “figure things out”. Thankfully I can make my own luck, but some people can’t, and I can get stressed figuring things out sometimes
I have to deal with women taking up a ton of space & time with makeup, styling, etc. I don’t really want lipstick all over myself, but sometimes I don’t get a say
Any woman I date will get hit on a lot and be able to cheat on me at any time, with virtually no evidence
Very few women have high libidos all year every year. I might as well be single in that regard.
Women tend to clam up if they have niche preferences. They can also fake getting off. I can be as understanding as I want, and some are still embarrassed to tell me what they’re into.
Women tend to blab a lot to their friends about their partners in bed, and sometimes I have to be around those friends. I don’t care whether she says compliments or insults, it’s weird, and women are gossipy
I tend to hear a lot about women’s previous partners in bed unprovoked
Men are expected to have more approaching skills, but women don’t really have to do anything to make up for this (In the happy scenario that’s my entire life’s point of view. In the bad scenario, women can get harassed by angry men)
Fewer women want hookups than men, and more want monogamous relationships. Pick your poison
Society at large expects men to come built in with a switch to “feel nothing”. Many men have this. If every man were drafted for the military, a double digit percentage would probably be able to serve in violent situations. It comes with downsides, though, and men on average probably tend to have less empathy than women (which is the more useful trait in 99% of situations)

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-08-25T08:02:10+00:00

I only know the female pros....

We get to feel a little baby inside of us tapping and kicking. It is a surreal experience to carry and birth life.

The cons is we have to be scared of our safety. Violent men with bad intentions.

PattayaVagabond · 2025-08-25T17:53:33+00:00

Women have it easier until age 33 then it reverses.

ThatBitchA · 2025-08-25T01:29:14+00:00

I'm not really attracted to the gender of men.

Just some men.

Socially, men are fun to hang out with and discuss things with. Or enjoy mutual hobbies or interests.

Title	What is the appeal of being each gender socially and romantically? Pros and cons?
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Date	August 25, 2025 12:41 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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