Role of money in attraction

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-09-29T18:36:44+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-09-24T04:58:10+00:00

It's a complicated question. Sure, money helps a guy get dates. But you also have to factor if she actually likes you or is just enamored by the potential of a lavish lifestyle. I live in the LA area where there are a lot of really rich people. I felt like one of the poorest people in Santa Monica. There are so many multi-millionaires and obviously not all are from the entertainment industries.

The guys I know who earn say over $750k/yr tend to either date other women with money or they'll downplay their wealth early on. They may avoid taking her back to the house until they get good vibes that she's not just chasing money.

RepulsivePlastic2139 · 2025-09-24T06:10:07+00:00

Key pont here is that you said "attract the right woman". If we were talking quantity, having a lot of money will get you tons of girls, no question about it. 100k a year in cheap countries will get you a lot of girls. Maybe 500k a year in the US will get you the same. But what you'll get is women who want someone to provide for them and give them the lifestyle they want. They will give you sex in exchange for money, and will not love you. But if you want quality women, a woman who loves you, then you need ENOUGH. And it's not only about money, but what comes with it. Let's be honest, if you are poor as a man chances are: 1. You're not in good shape and health because you can't afford a gym or healthy food, and don't have time to exercise because you have to work 2. You have low self esteem 3. Most of the times less intelligent. This is caused by poor nutrition, less access to good education and poor, less attention from parents to nurture curiosity and such.

So that's part 1 of the effects of money in attraction. Lack of money for basic living makes you objectively less attractive.

Part 2 is that relationships, like plants, need good soil to grow in. A relationship will fail if you have a lot of fights about who pays for what, if you both have 2 jobs and barely see each other, if the difference in income and lifestyle between them is high, if they can't afford to go on dates, if they get a chance to a better future without you (a rich partner, a job opportunity abroad, etc). So enough money for a basic lifestyle will increase your chances.

I'm not from the US but from what I've seen, in the US you could live well with 70-100k in most states. That should remove all the disadvantages given above and put you on a good spot for attraction. The rest depends on you.

eablokker · 2025-09-24T05:18:19+00:00

Money can have some role to play, in so far is it sparks the emotion of desire. Think of it this way, why do women wear jewelry? Pretty things spark the emotion of desire. We see the pretty jewelry, we feel desire, and that feeling of desire gets transferred onto the woman, therefore we desire the woman. Unless you're a thief who just wants to steal the jewelry. The emotion of desire can drive you to take actions to obtain the thing you desire.

Same thing with money. In general people desire money. When you display money, that feeling of desire gets transferred onto you. Except when a woman just wants to steal your money. But when that feeling of desire becomes linked to you, then a woman may take actions to obtain you because the emotion of desire has driven her to do it.

In third world countries, where people are struggling and worrying about money constantly, just a little bit of money will spark a lot of desire. But in western countries, where women are more financially independent and can get money on their own, it takes a lot more money to spark desire in her. The exact amount depends on her personal financial situation and financial past. A woman who grew up poor may be perfectly content with a modest income. A woman who is addicted to instagram and tiktok may be having her desire for riches sparked constantly by influencers, and therefore a modest income may not spark desire in her like those social media posts do.

The only amount of money that you really need is enough to finance going out, going on dates, and having free time to pursue women. Anything above that is not strictly necessary.

When you use game, you can spark the emotion of desire directly without having to use any external or material props. You awaken the emotion of desire in her, you see the desire being acted out and expressed in her behavior towards you. If you don't know how to do that, then money is a crutch you can lean on.

New_Banana3858 · 2025-09-24T10:48:13+00:00

A woman won't fall in love with a man who has a lot of money.

she falls in love with a man's character and demeanor...

Yes infact you can be broke AF, homeless...
but if you have a internal mindset that you havn't lost.
Women will still find you, attractive.

this is exactly why there are so many single mothers.... who Hopped on the wrong Dick. Externally... but their internal world was that they are still the champion: Despite being in rags and destroyed clothes.

Yes; a lot of men out there havn't cultivated this.... ''which is to be unreactive of the world around you and be the one that sets the frame.'' which is the most attractive quality you can have around women.

Reasoning why this doesn't get teached in school... because it's a part of being a ''charismatic leader''
and yep yep society, definetly doesn't want people understanding how much power they, have too influence other's.

Suspicious_Scale4243 · 2025-09-24T06:09:08+00:00

Money doesnt matters until you are too poor to even afford to wear a decent good lookin outfit.

MacDwest · 2025-09-24T05:26:13+00:00

Money can serve as an instant qualifier, as does social status (fame).

With either of these, or combination of, less game/skill is needed. LESS game not NO game.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-09-24T05:43:30+00:00

I got laid plenty when I was broke, and I do now that I'm middle class. Money was never an obstacle.

Women don't care about that stuff nearly as much as you think

Severe-Doughnut4065 · 2025-09-24T05:49:44+00:00

Money ain’t going to attract high value girls. Money is what makes life easier and with an easier life keeping a girl is a lot easier. Here’s some examples being able to afford to go out and eat or make a nice meal at home, having a home or apartment that is not barebones cost money, experiences cost money, not working a lot of overtime because you need that money because more time with girl, not working a job that breaks down you body because you need a job for money. No girl wants to stay with a broke guy because how will he provide for her and I’m not talking provide 100%

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-24T06:02:00+00:00

You don't need to have all three: money looks and game.

You usually only need one of them. Money, looks, OR game. And it's enough to have success. Sometimes you can even have success without any of them. No money, ugly, and no game - and still some women will like you.

Your premise is that there's a magical number X amount of dollars in a given location that will help a man have success with women. That premise is wrong.

It's a gradual slope where more money = more success. There's not a yes/no cut-off or line in the sand at a specified dollar amount.

So your premise is flawed. You need to think different about money. See it as a slope, not a cut-off line. This goes for looks and game too. There is no cut-off line in the sand minimal level to have success. It's always a slope where a little is better than nothing. And gradually more and more is better and improves your chances at success...

These things improve your chances. That's all. They aren't deterministic. They don't cause success directly. They improve your odds. There's always a lot of randomness and luck at play.

Money-Gur-2022 · 2025-09-24T06:36:30+00:00

I dont think women/men would never mind getting smacked by a wad of cash.

forever420oz · 2025-09-24T07:08:13+00:00

pretty sure it doesn’t matter that much unless you are literally starving

Glacier_Sama · 2025-09-24T10:14:01+00:00

I saw a tweet that said "women in NYC will pretend you don't exist, but then find out you make $500k and forcefully weave themselves into your social fabric" 😂

Idk though, I never used money to get with women. However I have had some girls who could see that I was obviously doing well and I think they pretended to like me a bit more than they actually did.

prince_of_whales_ · 2025-09-24T10:33:01+00:00

Very simple, money is an advantage only if you're in the top 1%-5% earners for your country (% range depends on the country), everything else is qualified as not having good money by women.

That might not be an issue for most women, all I'm saying is that women who ARE attracted to money and the lifestyle money brings are looking for that top ~1% earners.

epimpstyle · 2025-09-24T12:42:54+00:00

A guy who’s 45 and hasn’t had a date likely has a mix of internal blockers, personality, attitude, mindset. Money can give him more chances to meet new people, but if he stays home or filters too hard, it won’t help.

Now how much money will help him attract women

In short: more than she has. Most of the time, a healthy man is automatically assumed to be rich. Add sharp clothes and good grooming, and you’ve got someone who looks wealthy, even if he isn’t. What matters is the perception. He may not be rich, but he looks like he is and that’s enough to trigger interest.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-09-24T16:20:42+00:00

Personally you're too hung up on cash.

So it's not the money itself that attracts then it's like....what you had to come to get there typically and the ACCESS it provides.

However....make no mistake....men with more money aren't always less secure or have more or better habits than men with less money.

It's genuinely more about the access and other things the money opens up.

TYPICALLY but not always, it can mean you're less financially stressed or worried. It can maybe mean more trips our outings or cash for extracurricular things....etc.

Money sure isn't everything but I'd look at more in ranges in what's okay or not.

For reference Ive gone for 30k to over 100k in the last ten years and have read up on game and such over the last 20 and run in a lot of entrepreneurial and startup circles.

More money isn't always better unless you know to USE IT optimally.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-09-24T19:01:13+00:00

Don't mention money, mention being a leader of other men. Don't mention money, mention being passionate about your life. Don't mention money, mention your social status. Don't mention money, mention your social accomplishments.

If you don't want a golddigger, don't mention money. It's not important for casual dating.

VirtualOutsideTravel · 2025-09-25T06:04:56+00:00

Yes it helps immensely. definitely have some money that you are prepared to lose on a date. spend some extra on personal hygiene and clothing.

Red_clawww · 2025-09-25T09:07:51+00:00

Personally I think if a woman is attracted to you just because of your money I think it says a lot about the woman. You become just a show off piece to her with no intrinsic value and hell of a easy rich ride.

SensitiveBridge7513 · 2025-09-25T19:29:04+00:00

I live in LA and commonly date women who make 2-3x more than me. It doesn’t really matter IMO unless you want to date the Kardashian types.

Maleficent_Newt_5247 · 2025-09-29T18:23:30+00:00

There is no number of money. It literally boils down to how you are with your finances. You can make 33K a year, but if you are responsible and live a minimal lifestyle be a catch. Money is subjective.

purpleshoesamurai · 2025-09-24T05:44:29+00:00

you don't need any money to get a date or get laid, that's you bro. but you need to at least be able to afford your own place and be able to afford to provide for children if you want her to take you seriously for a long term relationship. there are women who will date long term you if you're broke, but you don't want them, they're trashy party girls and single moms and drug addicts.

having a decent amount of money also solves a lot of things seduction related, can't pay for dates? get some money. having a decent amount of money allows you to get a nice haircut, pay for nice clothes, pay for nice dates without worrying about the cost, pay for premium subscriptions on dating apps to get more matches, pay for a photographer to boost your matches in online dating, pay for a dating coach to correct you on your cold approach. pay for laser eye surgery or contact lens to look more attractive. all of this costs money and will improve your chances in dating, but you don't have to be rich to afford these things either.

Title	Role of money in attraction
Author	Study_Queasy
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Date	September 24, 2025 4:39 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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