Edit: FYI im a woman, if that’s not clear already but a comment didn’t think so.

I am seeing this guy, we have been on two dates - the first date was a few weeks ago and we ended up going for lunch and hanging, he invited me back to his place in the evening and we had sex (I initiated by telling him to take his top off, then take my top and then I went down on him).

The sex was good and he seemed very interested, we did many positions and he asked if he could eat me out and he did and I enjoyed it. He is very big (estimate 6-6.5 girth and 8 length) and I did act very shocked when I first saw it and kept talking about how big it was. The first suspect point was as I was slowly going down on him he seemed to rush me off and want to penetrate me even though I’d barely been sucking the tip for less than 30 seconds.

A few weeks passed and we had our second date which was meant to be at the cinema but I had a headache so he invited me over to chill at his place and watch some tv.

Got to his bed and he didn’t whip his laptop out and instead started massaging my ass and we quickly descended into sex. He was much rougher this time which I liked. When I tried to give him a BJ he said no I’m not letting you, and I did beg a little and he said no still and was pretty adamant. He didn’t eat me out this time either.

Why would he do this and withhold a BJ? A few moments before he said to me that he was going to ask me to give him a blowjob before we had sex but he couldn’t wait - this confused me but I was willing to give him one afterwards.

He also came inside the condom and drained it out on his hand for me to see (very big load), and I licked it off his hand which seemed to irritate him slightly.

Really confused why he wouldn’t want me to please him, my precious partners all loved it when I went down on them and it’s odd that’s it’s flipped that I’m begging rather than the inverse.