After Divorce, dealing w EW

CB33isGMC · 2025-10-23T05:21:22+00:00

Block that chick.

There’s nothing to really talk about as both parties know what needs to be done.

I had to block my ex from the very beginning because I’d be doing well and then get these floods of emotional or abusive texts out of nowhere. I couldn’t progress.

While we were still parenting she dropped the kids in my driveway and I dropped them at hers.

Literally haven’t spoken to her in five years.

Frito_P3ndejo · 2025-10-21T21:56:24+00:00

Mine gets one of 4 words ….yes, no, maybe, ok

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-10-21T17:45:38+00:00

In short, yes.

You will feel joy times 1 billion when you send her ass to ignore.

Pullout66 · 2025-10-21T16:42:03+00:00

One word answers.

Accurate-Pilot-5666 · 2025-10-21T14:43:14+00:00

A friend of mine has a lovely way of treating people he despises. He's polite. He's not kind, authentic, friendly, or open. If he hates you, he's polite.

mrwizard65 · 2025-10-21T14:13:41+00:00

Do not get dismissive and hostile. Not because your ex doesn’t deserve it, but because being that way affects you as well. You need to learn to be a grey rock, meaning someone who is unemotional and doesn’t engage emotionally. This is for you and especially your kids.

It’s harder to do than I make it sound but it’s possible. Work on yourself and in doing that you will create armor to all her attacks. In particular, catch and release this anger. Release it at the gym, replay those conversations or communications in your head and describe how you would like to have responded (but don’t). Observe your mental state and thoughts and ask yourself why this person is living in your head, controlling your emotions.

Mangrove43 · 2025-10-21T00:16:13+00:00

Go as little contact as possible. Don't respond to everything or fast, unless the kid is in danger. NO is a complete sentence. Keep records. And if she is being ridiculous tell her to pound sand and take you to court

RemarkableDonut2676 · 2025-10-20T23:33:36+00:00

I am new to all of this, but you can really get a DV order just from condescending texts?

Title	After Divorce, dealing w EW
Author	Boglehead101
Upvotes	9
Comments	11
Date	October 20, 2025 10:40 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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