Most Men that struggle with Women compare Dating to Sports where its just linear "just be better then your competition and you win" that logic only partially works in Dating.

IgorXY · 2025-12-01T21:02:49+00:00

Most Men are by base very analytical, and they transfer that Approach to Dating.

Proceed to make a point by comparing two imaginary men pulled from nowhere to prove a point.

I have a Girlfriend and i never struggled with Women

You are 25, so I assume you met someone in uni and stayed together through covid, am I right? Why don't you write a book on dating?

Just-Path-5838 · 2025-12-01T21:20:15+00:00

I don't know if you have a good point here, but your examples are pretty poor for illustrating the point you're trying to make.

Both men are very attractive, but man 1 meets more women, I don't see anything complex about that. Make man 1 5'5 or something and I assume your perception of who would do better would switch, which just shows the opposite of what you're saying, stats can pretty much explain who does better.

BlueberryAccording45 · 2025-12-01T20:50:50+00:00

No women wants to date shorter men, when you analyze height differences you realize you might have little to no options

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-12-01T20:58:13+00:00

People use sports analogies because it’s something that a lot of young men understand and care about so it’s an easily reliable source of examples.

I’m not going to explain it’s a complicated and nuanced but creative expression like being in a professional level jazz group, because people aren’t into jazz nowadays, let alone at the level where the analogies and expressions

As for “analytical value?”

Bruh, men chase a nice ass or great tits cause they see them and it makes our dicks hard. And then go by “what we think saw on Tv/movies” to try and “act” like what some UMC white guy screen writer from Harvard wrote about what women like.

UnarmedRespite · 2025-12-01T21:25:22+00:00

“Meeting more women is useful” is basically like saying “perfect practice makes perfect”

The_WankingBuddha · 2025-12-01T21:32:24+00:00

"just be better then your competition and you win" that logic only partially works in Dating.

Correct.

Most men don't realise that once you defeat the competition and 'become better', the race might have ended but what they assumed to be the prize - the woman - now becomes the player in a 1v1 chess.

Most men think the game ends once they beat the other men. They don't realize that you have to beat the woman as well.

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Training-Cook3507 · 2025-12-01T20:57:42+00:00

Dating is certainly complex and involves many quantifiable and non quantifiable factors like social skills, confidence, humor, ability to deal with conflict, etc. Since dating has come easy to you, I am honestly not sure that you are in the best position to give advice because whatever dating requires... you were born with it. You never had to struggle to understand what you were doing right or wrong, and experiment.

And honestly, I know plenty of women who would not prefer the 6'6 guy because that's entirely too tall for practical purposes.

lesliecarbone · 2025-12-01T21:01:01+00:00

"If i get my bodyfat down by 4%, i grind harder and i get a mercedes, and i improve my Clothing, i will be dominant."

How would dominance be a function of body fat, the relative hardness of one's "grind", car choice,
and clothing?

bondepart · 2025-12-01T21:09:00+00:00

Treating dating like a sport has to be one of the most gross things men do. It’s not competitive, women are not a trophy to be won. Thinking about it like this is antagonistic to making real human connections.

jay10033 · 2025-12-01T21:26:45+00:00

Why are random words capitalized?

TheOneWhoThinketh · 2025-12-01T21:28:50+00:00

Most men that use analysis like that are autistic.

The real goal should be to understand what women want. These men are unable to do so because they mistakenly assume that women want the same things that they do or will otherwise express what they actually want directly.

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