How to handle the giddiness

Chemical-Eye-1828 · 2026-02-01T01:11:08+00:00

Why worry about what someone else thinks. Do the work on yourself and thrive. Perhaps you doing it will have a positive affect on your relationship with your wife and family even if it doesn’t work out. Stay happy and work hard on being your best self as a man.

Good luck

Neither-Impress4810 · 2026-01-31T22:38:44+00:00

Become a grey rock. No emotion. Just plain vanilla. No reaction, absolutely no sign of weakness, no outward expression of any feeling whatsoever. Get a small stone from outside and gaze at it. Imagine what it would be like to be that stone. That’s exactly how you should act while going through this process. Anything else can trigger her, and may be used as leverage against you.

Intrepid-Scarcity486 · 2026-01-31T15:24:18+00:00

Don’t contain your happiness bro, be happy. Fuck her you don’t need to protect her emotions anymore. You’ll be even more excited when she finally moves out

According-Designer15 · 2026-01-30T06:38:22+00:00

That relief is real, and it's a sign you're finally seeing clearly. But you're right to bottle it until you're out.

She's still watching. Any visible shift in your energy, especially calm or joy can trigger escalation. Keep your face neutral in shared spaces. Let her think she's still in your head.

Channel the giddiness into preparation. Document calmly. Organize your exit. Line up your own space. Let the energy fuel the work, not the reaction.

The freedom is coming. Don't give her a reason to delay it or blow things up right before the finish line.

Rinse-retrieve-123 · 2026-01-30T01:17:49+00:00

How could you be giddy still living in the same house? I say control yourself and focus on the divorce and getting out of there. A lot of bad things can still happen while you’re living together. One of you should really move out

Interesting-Visit350 · 2026-01-29T21:20:38+00:00

Similar situation here. We are selling our house and closing is scheduled for 3/12. We have 30 lease back after that. Our son and I will be moving out the following weekend and my STBXW was mad that we weren’t staying the extra days. I let her know this was her choice to separate, I was already just going through the motion for our son. Super excited to move on and start life with my son (14 years old). She is upset that I am happy. She will only have hers to be mad at now, due to she has alienated her friends.

Plastic_Efficiency35 · 2026-01-29T20:28:57+00:00

I am here to say—- FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS, bro!

I don’t care how evil, how vile, how obnoxious, how degrading, how disrespectful your wife/EX is.

Kids need you! Don’t let her corrupt the kids even more-with her toxic behavior.

Wish you the best

Empress1978 · 2026-01-29T19:24:29+00:00

Hey I was the same. Sad, but so excited to be free of the emotional abuse. Like the world is your oyster with myriad of possibilities for the future! I’m a year out and have been traveling, seeing friends and family, going out and doing things - seeing the country. Amazing apartment in my downtown near work. So freeing.

AssistantActive9529 · 2026-01-29T19:08:34+00:00

yea keep a straight face until the decree is done. gotta be a professional about it

LimJayee · 2026-01-29T19:03:47+00:00

Hey man nothing wrong with that shit, giddy to be away from it, cant beat that feeling

Title	How to handle the giddiness
Author	throwawayeffedperson
Upvotes	24
Comments	26
Date	January 29, 2026 6:58 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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