I had casual sex for the first time ever after a night out and got a really weird feeling right after.

Archwinger · 2014-05-23T10:59:48+00:00

You barely had to work to have sex with this woman. You didn't really earn it, so the fact that she let you fuck her wasn't very validating. She probably fucks everybody, a different guy each night. You found the sex and the woman worthless because you used her solely as a source of friction for your dick and an eventual cum receptacle.

Sluts are what they are. The disgust you feel is toward yourself for having no standards whatsoever, and you're projecting it on the slut you fucked. If you don't connect with a woman, don't find anything you can enjoy out of the exchange, and just use her as friction despite her not meeting your standards, that's your issue.

Regnuvium · 2014-05-23T11:18:39+00:00

She was hot when we were talking at the club, but now she looked worthless in my eyes.

They always look uglier after you smash. It's normal.

veggie_girl · 2014-05-23T09:52:03+00:00

You probably will feel like this if you continue viewing women and relationships the way you are now.

I don't feel this way. When I have a one night stand, I treat it like a short but fun friendship. I don't feel any hatred or distaste for the woman - with some luck I like her enough that I enjoy spending the night with her. I don't think I'm the only person who finds a cuddly person in my bed pleasant, let alone morning sex and possibly a breakfast companion. As a result, I suspect I enjoy my one night stands a lot more than you enjoyed yours.

So I'd suggest next time, try not to view her as your "enemy" or view sex as somehow reducing her value. Rather than blaming her for not being something different, focus on how you can get more enjoyment out of who she is.

chill_geddy · 2014-05-28T01:07:34+00:00

P.N.S. post nut syndrome

Exactly_what_I_think · 2014-05-23T09:16:57+00:00

Yes. She is a slut.

Hatred is because before this you thought all women lived up to a certain standard. In realty they don't.

Treat a slut like a slut and don't confuse them with women.

physicalchemistry · 2014-05-23T10:46:23+00:00

you felt the moment she lost all value in your eyes. It is something that will always occur, save for women who have other qualities to offer except her pussy (and pussy is not a quality. )

Stop showing your hatred, if the only thing that seperates consensual sex from rape is a change of mind, be aware how she perceives you.

anttyk47 · 2014-05-23T15:59:48+00:00

Same feeling as after masturbating?

2014-05-23T17:43:21+00:00

"To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem—a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion."

Sorry, bro, you just found a momentary illusion with your choice.

Toof · 2014-05-23T09:35:57+00:00

I rarely get it right after, because I am typically in a high mood. Usually about 30 minutes after, if I wasn't THAT into the girl, I try to get rid of her.

The worst thing in the world, to me, is sleeping in the same bed with someone I could give two shits about. There is a difference between sleeping and passing out in the same bed, obviously.

SkorchZang · 2014-05-23T17:52:08+00:00

Now you know how girls feel when they're somehow tricked into sex with a low value male.

File rape charges.

Aalewis__ · 2014-05-23T09:11:42+00:00

I do, but then again it doesn't really bother me.

bama79rolltide · 2014-05-23T18:23:37+00:00

You aren't alone. I immediately want them gone. No intimacy, no cuddling, nothing. Get out of here, and I dont care how you do it.

danweL · 2014-05-23T18:35:26+00:00

Yeah, bc if they put out right away they are useless and they'll let a lot of dudes do that to them

JupiterDeusMaximus · 2014-05-23T22:32:46+00:00

I've had numerous one night stands, and this is the universal response I've had to them.

Personally, a fling lasting a few weeks is the most fun

Night--Writer · 2014-05-24T01:56:56+00:00

After you eat a buffet does the food still look appetizing?

suscitare · 2014-05-23T09:26:09+00:00

I think this feeling is normal unless she is a unicorn.

lorrylorry · 2014-05-23T09:25:37+00:00

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soulracer · 2014-05-23T22:55:24+00:00

Surely they lose value and attraction after, because you've accomplished your goal of delivering your seed. It's psycho-sexual. What you described seems like a bit more and I can understand what you mean. It sounds like you had unrealistic expectations of your first time with a ONS. It's not like someone you know where there's a more interesting connection and dynamics to play with, and sex is just one part of the sexual relationship. It doesn't have to be as bad as you felt, but you need to expect it to be just about the sex and you need to just focus and expect that. Why should you think of her as worthless, since you also just fucked a random slut. You're just as worthless and un-selective as her. If you can't have a minimal level of respect for a easy girl which is what you were seeking and at least enjoy having this intimacy with a stranger for a bit, stick to masturbating.

2014-05-24T02:15:17+00:00

Because you just played a game where your buddy insisted that you use the cheat codes.

Challenge is fun. When everything gets handed to you on a silver platter, it's not.

Sex ain't everything, and if by the end of the night all she could demonstrate she had to offer you were a group of organs she has by merit of being female, that's like saying you get bread with your fucking sandwich.

UrNameIsToby · 2014-05-23T17:36:39+00:00

So my question is am I going to feel like this everytime I sleep with a woman I just met?

You tell me dude, you know your psyche and opinion a hell of a lot better than random strangers.

Pesonally, I don't hook up with women I just meet. I think it's kind of gross. I'm liberal when it comes to sex, but jesus christ, she must expose herself to a lot of disease, and she must have some sexual issues to be into doing that.

If you didn't enjoy having casual sex with some easy woman you just met, don't do it. Why would you if you don't like it? What does this have to do with RP?

Title	I had casual sex for the first time ever after a night out and got a really weird feeling right after.
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Date	May 23, 2014 8:52 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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