One Year Later

mdh5326 · 2026-05-01T18:36:31+00:00

18 months today. Still have bad days — even bad weeks. Like you said: emptiness and pain.

So yeah I think it’s common.

Plastic_Canary_6637 · 2026-05-01T03:56:24+00:00

Grieving is a process, some days you feel good others not so much, all normal. Just try to have more good days this month than you had last month

jarnock · 2026-04-30T16:55:15+00:00

I just hit my 1 year divorce anniversary, I won’t say there aren’t times I think or miss my ex, I would say there are far less times I miss my ex and it doesn’t carry the emotional baggage with it. Also the crazy texts I get and stories from my kids reminds of how I made the right decision.

EndAutomatic9186 · 2026-04-29T17:33:17+00:00

I think this comes in waves. Just ride out the wave and things will steadily go back to getting better.

EmbarrassedAge7612 · 2026-04-29T14:47:33+00:00

Totally normal. It’s part of grieving. My father passed away a year after my divorce was final to the day. 10 years later I still get a little emotional when that day approaches. I also still struggle with a certain holiday because that’s when we decided to separate.

Over time it hurts less but it will be something that you will remember for a long time.

karemlore · 2026-04-29T14:24:36+00:00

When someone dies, it hurts...a lot....then the pain subsides as your life continues. Every now and then, you think about the person that died and it can be fleeting, or it can stay with you a while.

This is grieving, and is normal for death of close family and for splitting with an ex.

Accept if for what it is, and know that it happens and may happen again.

CherryEuphoric3557 · 2026-04-29T13:48:50+00:00

I'm just riding the waves about 4 months out. My ex asked for a divorce a week before Thanksgiving so I went through Thanksgiving, picking out a Christmas tree, Christmas, then New Year's (on my own with my kids at our house, she went out with a friend) all while knowing it was ending. Guess what I'm doing for the holidays this year? None of that bullshit!

I'm still experiencing the pain too, but man, when I think back on when she asked and what those holidays were like...glad to be on my own instead.

TheDavenessPhD · 2026-04-29T11:16:06+00:00

Grief is not linear, man. Those aftershocks and waves still keep coming years later. I'm three years in, and every now and then one just knocks me on the side of the head without warning.
Keep going, you've got this.

Title	One Year Later
Author	Responsible_Mud_394
Upvotes	5
Comments	22
Date	April 29, 2026 10:30 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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