Can I just get a BREAK from these emotional blows?

MarkAylward13 · 2026-05-06T16:41:00+00:00

I found some practices that saved me from this. Of course time is your best friend. This too shall pass. I found (re-found) Church, yoga, meditation, breathwork, journaling, exercise, whole foods, sunshine...and a wonderful woman who I've been with for 7 years now. My point is...occupy your time with good work and do the inner work as well. All my "practices" are either free or very inexpensive, they take small amounts of time and they are all enjoyable. Small incremental consistent steps over long periods of time. Movement and momentum. Start some and don't "look in the mirror" for at least 90 days. If I can help further, reach out. It's what I've dedicated the rest of my life to. Mine was a train wreck and me and the kids are fine now

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2026-05-06T14:54:28+00:00

This is why you never take them back after they leave once. It's a manipulation tactic, when guys still think in aspects of "love". Every man needs to read your story.

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2026-05-05T21:17:38+00:00

That’s a lot of stuff she “forced” you to do. You’re giving her way too much power. She doesn’t care about you, and it’s time for you to take ownership of your own wellbeing, starting with contact only relating to kids or divorce logistics.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-05-05T18:56:35+00:00

You'll find peace once you accept the relationship is over and you go no contact except for logistics regarding your kiddos.

If you entertain hope she will come back you are in for a world of pain.

Once a woman mentions divorce it is over and you cannot change their mind. Do not fall for the phone calls begging for another chance, these are just games to get your validation she has no interest in you as a romantic partner.

Time to let go of that previous romantic relationship and move on to a life without her in it (other than pickups/dropoffs for the kids, and if you're smart you will schedule that around school so you will never have to see her again).

Terrible_Lift · 2026-05-05T18:50:07+00:00

10 months ago is when you should have taken her at her word and made arrangements for yourself to protect your mental peace

soupsandwich00 · 2026-05-05T17:39:50+00:00

When they want "freedom and independence" there is almost always another dude in the picture. This may not be what you want to hear, but that dude has been piping your wife long before she even brought up divorce. Cut your losses bro, she's gone and you're not getting her back. Lawyer up time now and protect yourself and get the ball rolling so that you can start the process of healing. Get into therapy as well because being alone while riding the emotional rollercoaster fucks us men up bad and will send you to a dark place. Also, get into the gym and start hitting the iron, that shit will do wonders for not only your self-esteem but also your mental health.

krazykanuck · 2026-05-05T17:32:58+00:00

I know you were being rhetorical, but yes, you can. You can make a decision to remove yourself, to disengage. You have power here as well. Stop being passive and start making a plan where you no longer have to deal with these emotional blows.

RunPeaceRun · 2026-05-05T17:30:37+00:00

All these signs show that she is not the same person you fall in love. She felt and realized it is hard to replace your love and care. I feel like all these attempts are because of that empty feeling. Focus your life man.

Title	Can I just get a BREAK from these emotional blows?
Author	LaCathedrale
Upvotes	37
Comments	25
Date	May 5, 2026 5:27 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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