She just walked out...

Gman777 · 2015-01-19T02:36:35+00:00

dude. You know very well that she's not leaving you because you had a beer and were a little loud at a sports event.

There's a lot more going on, and she's the only one that knows. My guess would be that she's found someone else, but there could be other reasons.

Unless she has somewhere else to go, she'll be back soon enough. Maintain your frame, tell her you want to listen, and just let her talk. that will be your start.

Good luck man.

roe_ · 2015-01-19T06:25:23+00:00

Wait, she came in the bar, had a beer with you and your friends, and then got angry in the car?

Something about this is not hanging together.

So, what's the elephant in the room?

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-01-19T03:16:57+00:00

I ingested TRP about a year ago. I've read thousands of posts and comments on infidelity, both male and female.

This fight was constructed out of thin air for the purpose of making you into the bad guy to excuse her subsequent cheating behavior. If she returns in a day or two, DNA test her underwear (seriously, you can get tests for like $50. Google it.). I've seen many, many stories and accounts of women picking fights for no reason so they'd have an excuse to leave - either temporarily or permanently - so they'd be out from under supervision so they could snag some new dick.

Call a lawyer. I bet you she comes back, and I bet you if you test her underwear, you find some strange jizz in it.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-01-19T04:49:32+00:00

You can only control what you do. You have almost no control over what she does. The only tiny bit of control over what she does that you might have is for you to increase your value as a man. That cannot be your goal, however.

After this, I think the Red Pill way is to go full no contact until she contacts you. There are 2 possibilities:

She has found a new branch and is swinging or she has checked out of the relationship. In the former case Athol Kay talks about affair busting in MMSL. Basically, don't let them get together because they will make a beeline and AWALT.
She is mentally ill. In which case why do you want to be married to this?

You have no control over either of them insofar as she has packed a bag and moved out. You need Outcome Independence in this. The worst possible thing you can do is appear to be devastated by her moving out when you see her or talk to her. This will significantly lower your value so don't do it. If you let her know the "I'm scared" stuff I promise that you are screwed.

The best bet is that she created this argument out of straw and pixie dust so she could run off and fuck somebody else: ACWALT (All Cheating Women Are Like That).

jessalon · 2015-01-19T10:24:59+00:00

Dude get your shit together and work on your own weak,excuses about your life. Stop drinking, hit the gym, find some life purpose and you'll be a lot happier.

slimcoat · 2015-01-19T15:36:01+00:00

Based on your previous thread, I believe you're at fault here. We're not getting the whole story, so we have to fill in the gaps. Last we heard from you, you were lying to your wife and staying up late to play video games. She called you out on it and you thought it was a shit test. Something tells me you're still acting like a child and instead of wielding RP like a carefully skilled toolset, you're swinging it down like a hammer.

It also sounds like you abandoned your wife at home since she wasn't quite ready to go. Not cool. Unless this has been a habit of hers, you didn't need to cut out so quickly. I could be misunderstanding that paragraph, but that's what it sounds like.

Of course I could be entirely wrong and she's overreacting to small problems. Either way, you need to take the advice given in this forum -- hit the gym, stop texting her, and get your shit together before you speak to her again.

some_pill · 2015-01-19T03:02:27+00:00

She found the man of the century.

UEMcGill · 2015-01-19T14:05:05+00:00

AWALT, dude. AWALT.

Get your shit together like is being said here. You need to go into stealth mode and gather info. She may be cheating, she may not be, but you'll never know unless you ask the question. You also need to prepare yourself legally if that's the case. A redpill man always knows his options.

Read this thread: standard evidence

Stop communicating with her. Like a child throwing a temper tantrum don't reward attention seeking behavior.

Gman777 · 2015-01-19T08:56:35+00:00

Update?

Countpudyoola · 2015-01-19T15:01:08+00:00

This is bad news. I haven't seen where you've mentioned kids or your age (which to me is relevant). But you really need to go no contact and get your shit together. Change your locks. There's a lot to be said for trying to salvage something when you're the problem and kids are involved. But if you start to self-improve, she goes batshit, and no kids? No contest. Help her pack.

You also may be bending back and forth which could be eliciting a lot of her uncertainty and bringing out the worst she has to offer. So seriously stop that and calcify into a rock.

screaming, yelling, throwing her wedding ring at me

Nice.

hate your family, you're terrible in bed

triple nice... textbook gas-lighting. The ever popular new phrase that everyone now seems to know and use, but is demonstrably accurate with regards to those statements.

And with regards to the cheating, you really don't know at this point. When things go this haywire you need to be cautious. But really. No kids? Does she shit rainbows normally?

Dev_on · 2015-01-19T16:18:46+00:00

I have a feeling context is important.

DO you have your own house in order? If not, chances are something there has driven her here, and it's not out of the blue...

If you do, is there anything in her past that would lead her to conclude something out of your behaviour? a drunk abusive dad might be why she doesn't like you loud and drunk.

Beyond that, then theres somethign she has done, and she shifting blame to you. I would make sure of the first two before going there. Nothing wrong with due diligence.

Either way, she threw the ring at you, the question at this point is... do you want to condone this behaviour, or not. Personally, I'd hold her to her word at this point, and start covering your bases. Money, lawyers, etc... Don't expect an amicable reaction at this point, she's out for blood, and you're behind in the race, stop posting on reddit and start setting up meetings. Cut off contact, no good will come of it.

Don't think of it as losing something valuable at this point, think of it as cutting your lossses

acrylicblood · 2015-01-20T07:23:40+00:00

Sounds like she had an awful time out, and she got upset that you didn't bother acknowledging it. Being treated with disregard like that can hurt a lot. It's easy to not think straight when you feel like you're not being treated right, especially when it's by your husband.

I think you should talk to her when she calms down. For one, you'd be calming her down by showing the consideration you didn't show while out. For two, you can discuss solutions and maybe meet at a middle ground.

Going "no contact" is going to make matters worse. The purpose is to cause her anxiety in order to manipulate her, which is emotional abuse. Even if it gets you what you want in the short run (as emotional abuse often does) it will ruin you in the long run. Eventually, she'll either get smart and leave you, or she'll stay and be miserable and make you miserable because of it (TRP prophecies are amazingly self-fullfilling).

So maybe you can't be as loud as you want, or drink as much as you want... but you're living this woman; if either one of you is miserable with the other, you both will be. Getting your way is never going to make you happy: short-term rewards don't solve long-term problems. When the game's done you still have to return to her, and you'll be unhappy together until you either split or work things out.

I don't think you're a bad dude, but I do feel like you're being misled. Having a good time is not gonna do your homework, it's not gonna pay your taxes, and it's not gonna make amends to your wife. Eventually, you have to address your problems or everything goes to shit-- you fail your class, you lose your house, or you lose your wife. Being a little more considerate--- especially to your wife-- shouldn't take a great amount of effort. The solution is easy: it just takes a little bit of altruism.

Good luck man. I hope everything works out for the best.

Chuckit_ · 2015-01-19T08:39:46+00:00

There's not much to go on here. I don't think it was all beer and skittles before this.

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fasterpussycatdie · 2015-01-20T16:21:18+00:00

Sounds like your wife is a typical entitled pain in the ass.

Once, when we were very young my wife threw her wedding ring at me. I picked it up and put it in my pocket.

When things cooled down she asked where the ring was. I told her it's in a safe place until she can respect it. Every day for a month she asked where it was. When I finally gave it back to her I told her if she ever threw it at me again in anger it will get pawned and she will never get it back.

She never threw it at me again, no matter how mad she got.

TheYoungPatriarch · 2015-01-22T18:54:00+00:00

Its called a Nuke Shit Test.

Happened to me before. I just shrugged and carried on with my life as usual. Actually, I made an effort to do some extremely awesome things that I didn't have time to do before because I was expected to spend time with her.

Ignore her ass. Carry on with your life. Prepare for a showdown.

(She will be back with either a vengeance or an apology)

The Showdown is the most crucial part! When she comes back, do not demand an apology, do not get pulled into an emotional argument, do not get mad!

Tell her if she continues to act in that manner, if she continues to try and domineer you (You are a grown ass man) SHE CAN STAY GONE. Throwing a tantrum like that is what children do. YOU WILL NOT TOLERATE IT.

It doesn't matter if you mean it or not. Stick to it.

Guess what will happen? She'll say: Wow, this guy has grown a backbone maybe I will reconsider why I thought he was a chump to begin with.

Or you may have been such a chump for so long, letting your wife run your life that she doesn't believe you. At which case, you are on the fast track to divorce anyway, might as well cut it off on your own terms.

Don't be scared about some crap like this. Don't be scared about loosing a woman ever.

The cheaper to keep her mentality is FALSE.

The I won't be able to find another like her is FALSE.

The I need her mentality is FALSE!!! And if you think like that you need some help, bro. Do you even lift?

P.S. My wife came back, apologized and we had hard and vigorous make-up sex because I would not condone her bullshit tantrums.

P.P.S. If you put a NSFW tab on a post conspicuously missing dick-hardening details about sexual debauchery ONE MORE TIME, I will find you and punch you in the dick.

Jesus_balls · 2015-03-05T12:12:02+00:00

I tell her around 8, "are you ready to go?" she says no, so I says I'm going great to the bar with her friend's husband.

You sound like a very stupid person whose wife gets embarrassed every time she's seen with you.

derpderp3200 · 2015-01-19T02:29:00+00:00

This is something to discuss with a psychologist. Regardless of who was at fault, that sounds like a really shitty event.

Manofthedecade · 2015-01-19T03:48:20+00:00

I sincerely doubt it's another dude. I could go into reasons, but it's just not. Of the million red flags, there's just not a single one.

But I'm scared. She's being crazy. She left, the texts asking her to come home and telling her this whole thing is stupid are just met with a fuck you. It's one of those blow up fights where we both said shitty things. But she's never packed a bag and left. I'm scared.

Title	She just walked out...
Author	Manofthedecade
Upvotes	8
Comments	52
Date	January 19, 2015 2:24 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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