What did you do today?

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-07-31T20:52:01+00:00

It's been an usual day for me. We've properly separated for pretty much a yeah, she moved out 8mo ago. Together 20yr, married 18mo.

Hit the gym in the AM, a new recent habit after getting the fittest I've ever been from lifting at home and seeing a PT.

Packed for my 2 week holiday. 1st week with family, 2nd week heading to Sri Lanka solo for a surf camp.

Also saw the STBXW as she dropped stuff off as she's staying at our house to look after the cat. After seeing a solicitor on Monday she's changed her tune and it's seeming likely asking for more money, even mentioning alimony (no kids although I was the breadwinner). She cried saying she didn't want to take more of my money from me but now needs to think about her future, not sure if they were to make me feel some sort of pity but felt none. Bit fucked off she gets to take a chunk of my hard earned wealth despite her saying our money was separate during the relationship after I wasn't happy she went part time while earning pittance. Lesson learnt I guess. Not getting married again that's for sure!

MorningStar360 · 2026-07-31T20:08:58+00:00

Entering month 8. Separated but not divorced yet, hopeful that process gets finalized in the coming months.

Today I took off work. I run my own business and I have an injury in my foot so I decided I’m just going to take it easy and try to let my foot heal over the weekend. In a few hours I have to pick up my three year old who stays with me over the weekend so rest was already off the table but I’ll take a morning and afternoon to get off my feet.

Texted a woman I started to see a few months back, talk about sexual healing. I wasn’t intimate with my ex maybe all but three occasions in the last three years since our son was born. Slight complications after the birth but nothing that was to last three years, maybe a few months. Sex was already probably the worst I’ve ever had, but hey she also was near the top of the list in terms of physical beauty but the sex was horrendous. Just another way for her to try to dominate and feed her narcissistic disorder.

Sex with new woman has been incredible. We have been going for hours, and just had a rendezvous yesterday. I’m feeling great.

So today, I was off my feet and soaking up the sun keeping my tan going. Got some administrative work stuff done, sent some invoices and I wait for some checks to come in. Got some work done on a nice car I bought this summer and am one more minor mechanic visit away from having a stellar AWD vehicle I can take up to the mountains. September is very light with work but I’ve saved up some good money so I’m going to spend very little and just spend as much time as I can by a river or up in the mountains.

Life is looking up. New woman is going through the same situation on her end, only it’s an abusive and out of control husband. We joked about trying to get my ex and her ex together, a pair of selfish narcissistic people sounds like quite the match. We got a good laugh. She has three kids, I have one and she just moved out two months ago but it’s going to be a slow and sporadic relationship but we’ve really been enjoying our time together and there seems to be a lot of potential and promise. My roommate, who has become like a brother to me, sees us together and told me the first time he met her he thinks I met my next wife. He might be onto something, but I’m going to enjoy taking things slow for once.

North-Resist-1072 · 2026-07-31T19:39:01+00:00

About 4.5 months post blindside. Been putting in a tremendous amount of individually work, so days are much easier better now.

Didn't do my regular pre-dawn run/bike, spending today filling a rolloff with the large junk that nobody wanted in asset division. Feels good to have home feel more like home than a storage locker. Even though its mostly empty.

Self care today is keeping my nutrition on point, Journaling, and praising the way I responded to all the BS. I'm a very kind person, but I've realizedI don't extend that inwardly. Also happy I am looking at sock day next week and feeling excitement and optimism vs negativity or grief.

Its not a perfect day, but by and large it's a good day.

Bermnerfs · 2026-07-31T12:34:42+00:00

Not today because it's only 8:30am where I am, but last night I hung out with some old friends that I haven't seen in years.

My birthday was last week and I had a lot of people reach out to me, so I used this as an opportunity to make plans with everyone. I am trying to keep myself busy, and rebuild the connections I lost after marriage and starting a family.

Instead of feeling down and hurt about my impending divorce, I am treating it like a new chapter in my life where I start to get out in the world and regain that excitement and optimism I used to have when I was younger.

Today I plan to go to the gym then take a long ride on the woods on my e-bike while listening to music. It's therapeutic for me.

123flocko · 2026-07-31T12:27:01+00:00

18 mos separated. Tried to reconcile, didn't work. 3 mos no contact. Mornings are very difficult. Until about 11AM I just go through the motions while questioning my existence and my future. She's still in my head. This has been the longest and most difficult period of my entire life.

Drobertsenator · 2026-07-31T12:26:00+00:00

I haven’t seen my kids in 4 months. But I’ve been fly fishing a lot. Good to hang with my doggies

mistake-number2 · 2026-07-31T12:19:16+00:00

Im 3 yrs from seperation/ 1 from divorce. My story is a little different than alot on here. It was hard, but i found ways to heal myself. Still a work in progress. I can only fix me, and i been learning to make myself a priority for once in my life. I made peace with where we ended. Made peace with her after 2 yrs of no contact except when it dealt with our dogs(kids). She moved back in as a roommate. There are reasons why. But we have always been best of friends. Neither of us tried to crucify each other and divorced fair for both of us.

Since then, i have gotten me a newer truck and bought a brand new camper. Got a new pup since my last 2 passed.

Now, i been out of work since may due to back injury. So im mending. So resting has been the priority. She has been an important part to it in keeping me from doing more damage.

Outside-Jicama-8468 · 2026-07-31T12:08:55+00:00

I sent a good morning message to a woman that I've been texting for the last 3 days. We talked over text the first day and the second day we ended the night with a 3-hour long phone call. Amazingly our values and our beliefs align in many ways and I feel like I found a great woman to spend time with.

After our phone call last night My kids said that I looked the happiest that I've ever been in the last year.

So amazingly I'm in a place now where I never thought I would be a year ago

JelloWeirdo · 2026-07-31T11:32:12+00:00

It was over like 2 weeks in for me. No need to medidate or keep myself busy to get over it. I just planned a date with a woman I am interested in and doing just fine

LaCathedrale · 2026-07-31T11:29:33+00:00

Today I went out for a run, and it was an easy 10k.

It's been over a year since I have been making positive changes for my health. At first it felt like just a desperate attempt to try to win her back, I hated it and myself for how fat, weak and slow I had gotten. How I my fear of the future and loss of comfort was the only thing that could push me back. I couldn't run more than a couple of km and hadn't seen the inside of a gym for years.

Now I'm 20kg down, fitter and faster than ever - I've blown past where I was when she and I met, and back close to my all-time lowest BW and performance. She's given up, but I still show up: sometimes it's quiet and I'm there with my headphones, sometimes it's all high-fives and nicknames (coaches there are calling me Wimbledon because I wear all white fitness gear) - but I have reintegrated it into my life well.

After the run I came back and bulk-cooked a bunch of healthy chile con carne to have throughout the week, and have planned a day out with my girls tomorrow, and will shortly be going for the closing stages of therapy.

Title	What did you do today?
Author	trainwreck1968
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	July 31, 2026 11:23 AM UTC (11 hours ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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