Some good advice

West-Cook · 2020-08-17T19:18:01+00:00

I don’t see a problem. If he turns abusive, then you have the money to get out. If he never turns abusive and you live a happy marriage until old age, you’ll have some extra money saved up to treat yourselves. Win win.

sexualfoodpantry · 2020-08-17T19:14:44+00:00

Only abusers are pathologically interested in what you do with your money. How you spend it, how you save it, etc.

A HVM will NEVER hold a secret savings account against you.

eyeahyabasic · 2020-08-17T19:27:25+00:00

A lot of people are pointing out that having an emergency account like this is also useful in the event that a spouse dies and the joint accounts are temporarily frozen.

eyeahyabasic · 2020-08-17T20:11:29+00:00

There's a post about this on AITA right now and you can immediately tell who is a woman or man based on the judgements. It's basically 'women who have been financially abused and had their lives ruined and advising all women to keep escape money' vs. 'males upset a woman won't risk her life and future on the chance he's a good guy and she is a big lying meany pants'.

PhoenixRisingAsap · 2020-08-17T20:17:20+00:00

Heard of so many married women who don’t even have their bank accounts. The most foolish thing you can do.

pascalines · 2020-08-17T21:33:47+00:00

Every woman needs a fuck off fund!

Prinnykin · 2020-08-17T21:39:03+00:00

When I was young, my dad told me to make sure I always have my own income, to never rely on a man for money, and to have a secret bank account.

My ex went through my mail once and found out how much money I have in my savings account. Make sure you never get paper statements!

NonRedittor · 2020-08-17T19:44:22+00:00

"Be weary at all times and take care of yourself" sounds too vague but this post summed it up perfectly

randomgirlimok · 2020-08-18T01:39:15+00:00

I agree with the OP, always have an exit strategy and never rely on anyone

lluuni · 2020-08-18T06:09:24+00:00

sexxxybae · 2020-08-18T03:11:35+00:00

I don't like discussing money with a man, but everyone is so open about it nowadays. And some men do seem interested in knowing how much you have in the bank. I wasn't sure if I was being stubborn or if it was a trait of mine, it just feels uncomfortable and like, why does it matter what i have? If a guy is talking about a future with you, like marriage and kids, does it make sense for him to know what you have in the bank? My ex, we are working on things, he asks me what i have in the bank and tells me what he has, what he makes, etc. I just don't know why men are concerned with women's money and what you spend it on.

NihilisticBuddhism · 2020-08-18T20:24:55+00:00

This is another reason why I think women should expect proper engagement/wedding rings (instead of some cheap shit).

When things get bad and they don’t have access to money, the ring will help them in an emergency for quick cash.

Title	Some good advice
Author	eyeahyabasic
Upvotes	227
Comments	33
Date	August 17, 2020 6:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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