Was thinking about a comment my wife made to me last night.....

mrpCamper · 2015-10-07T19:23:36+00:00

Your choices were to STFU or make an immediate AA or AM response. An example would be, "You're probably right, I do have a nice ass." That would let her hamster chew on what you think of her ass.

Bringing it up after the fact was ridiculous. What about it wasn't cool? It was verbal banter and you couldn't keep up. All you demonstrated afterward is that your you are easily wounded with minor comments and you are insecure with your masculinity.

bogeyd6 · 2015-10-07T19:17:11+00:00

Your physique/strength is low as shit in her eyes. She talks over you because she views herself to be the Dominant in the relationship.

Yes, women's solipsistic nature always puts their self at the center of the world, but in her case she's not only the center but the leader in your relationship.

I think she is right. Your need to have her clarify her prison comment shows just how weak and invested in her you are.

Fuck her opinion, unless she was right, which she probably was, which is the real problem here.

Your wife thinks your weak and that isn't sitting well. Read books to discipline/strengthen your mind and attend service at the Iron Temple with HEAVY compound movements.

Acta, Non Verba

trp-grasshopper · 2015-10-07T21:06:58+00:00

Later, I pressed her about it. I couldn't help it. I just told her that that comment wasn't cool. She starts laughing and says "omg, I was joking!" I just continued to read my book in bed until i fell asleep.

She thinks you area weak and you proved it to her by telling her she hurt your Feelz.

An appropriate response should have been to STFU.
truly, OMFG she was joking with you!

Also , you can now look to your wife for AA and AM responses Congrats. I used something along the lines of "lets practice, bend over" that went over very well

next time you think she is judging your manhood, understand that she : 1. Already judged it 2. Since you are questioning it yourself, you might as well not have manhood

Next time, STFU and kiss the poor girl. She just wanted to flirt with your dumb ass.

FearDearg2015 · 2015-10-07T19:51:30+00:00

A shit test, by definition, is a test or probe of your masculinity. "are you man enough to handle my shit".

Getting butt hurt is the definition of failing a shit test.

itsgavinc · 2015-10-07T20:32:52+00:00

Last night my wife and I had a little disagreement. Long story short, she didn't get her way and was a little pouty afterward. I paid it no attention. Just did my own thing for a few hours after that. She goes to take a shower and i hop in with her a few minutes after. No biggie

You missed a great opportunity to build some frame and unleash yourself from her vagina. Remember MMSL on the sidebar? Hop in the shower, quickly wash up like everything is normal, then hop out. Don't mention sex, don't play with her boobs, just on with your day.

Then get ready for the smoke coming from her hamster as she hamster, hamster, hamsters.

So i started joking around. I said "see, your supposed to try to get me back. You wouldn't make it in prison"

My problem with all of this is that you simply said too much. It isn't a funny joke, and you probably should have STFU. Many problems are solved because they aren't created by STFU. Remember, when you start to overtly communicate women don't understand it. You can't get any positive points, you can only dig yourself a hole.

rob_bass · 2015-10-07T20:19:01+00:00

Well, doesn't take much to lose frame with you, does it...

Ffs, want cookies and milk?

Sadbeary · 2015-10-08T00:35:09+00:00

She thinks you're weak, you have to show her you are not. Words can never prove you are not weak so don't waste your time discussing it with her. As Tywin Lannister said in Game of Thrones: "Anyone that has to tell people 'I am the King' isn't".

If my wife said that to me I'd hope to shoot back "Being someone's bitch doesn't mean you've 'made it' in prison you know" ;)

soonerguy9782 · 2015-10-08T01:36:36+00:00

I'm taking an alternate position than the top commenters on this. Based on the prison comment, get over it. My guess is she was trying to poke a little fun at you and wanting you to return in kind, probably because she was getting wet from somewhere besides the shower head. When you didn't, she saw it as a demonstration of low value. That's why she's now talking over you. She's probably ovulating right now...and you're missing it being butt hurt.

My take, lighten up and have more fun.

Edit: letters

BluepillProfessor · 2015-10-08T02:02:02+00:00

"Yes I would, i'd probably do better than you"

Actually she WOULD do better. Women's prisons are characterized by "Role Playing" and "Fake Families" (seriously, look it up) while men's prisons are characterized by butt rapes and shanks.

I'm also under the impression that when angered, their personal attacks reveal their true feelings toward the person.

Pretty sure that is not correct.

Your wife is reacting to YOU. YOU are the one who was butthurt- to the point you have brought it up repeatedly and posted a thread on it. Do you think your wife hasn't noticed?

Or maybe I'm over thinking.

If only this had been your last line- a fitting conclusion.

Are all shit test created equal?

I am not sure this was even a Shit test. This was friendly banter. Unless you a REALLY small guy or somebody known to get his ass kicked regularly I don't get why you reacted so negatively to her jab.

You are correct beyond doubt that you have lost ground. What can you do to make it up?

TLDR: Bro, do you even lift?

Redneck001 · 2015-10-08T02:12:15+00:00

You teased your wife, she teased you back. You can A&A it, AM it, or STFU. Doesn't really matter.

Bringing it up later was bad, but just put it behind you, no pun intended.

Her talking over you? Women love to talk, they hear almost nothing you say because they are thinking of what they are going to say and/or can't wait to blurt it out. When my wife does that, I go silent. Or if I'm feeling froggy, I'll stop her and remind her I was talking. When she talks over me, then wants to revisit what I was saying, I'll just STFU. She will almost always apologize, but I won't repeat what I was saying. Or I'll make up something goofy, unrelated to what I was saying. She had her chance, she doesn't get a mulligan.

Or call her out on it. Really depends on the situation. Sometimes I STFU, other times I call an audible.

That's a lot of sports metaphors, and I'm mixing sports, so I'll stop now.

But it wasn't a big deal, IMO, until you made it one. Stay out of her frame, pull her into yours.

She teased you back, you were distraught. Don't do that.

Edit: And fuck her the next time you're in the shower and she elbows you and teases you. That's not even RP, that's common sense.

hva_vet · 2015-10-08T16:28:35+00:00

Proper response: "bend over and I'll show you how it's done in the big house."

If this type of verbal banter doesn't end with her calling you some sort of asshole then you are doing it wrong. You are over thinking. Leave that overthinking shit to the wife.

[deleted] · 2015-10-08T17:06:14+00:00

Dude you're a bitch. If my wife legit zings me like that I have to laugh about it and pat her on the head. Because it's like one of my kids zinging me. It's funny and I know the statement is ridiculous. She revealed an insecurity about your fragile sense of masculinity and instead of working through it you came here to cry about it and get validation.

Mediocre.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-10-08T20:46:34+00:00

Chalk it up as a failed attempt, learn from it and move on.

You're dwelling on it too much, and you're not focusing on what is coming next.

[deleted] · 2015-10-09T18:01:57+00:00

Had this shit before. I responded with "You're probably right cause my milkshake brings all the boys to the prison yard". And did a lil gay snap/ bob head thing.

She tried to come back with something but couldn't because she was laughing.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T17:15:39+00:00

I've had a few situations where I've called my wife out on a comment of hers when an AA or AM response would have been better.

What catches me off guard is that she sucks at humor and banter. Her skills are so low in this area that it just comes off as disrespectful and not the joke she was attempting.

My take is your wife has a lot of pride and made that comment as an attempt to regain equal footing with you.

throwaway783487387 · 2015-10-07T19:12:09+00:00

Later, I pressed her about it. I couldn't help it.

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. WHY.

Also VICTIM THINKING, aren't you in control of what comes out of your mouth?

When's the last time you've been lifting?

Are you T-levels negative? How much body fat are you?

thisisme0007 · 2015-10-07T20:16:48+00:00

Yes I would, i'd probably do better than you

you are supposed to say: "Drop the soap and lets find out!" and then initiate

Later, I pressed her about it

This was dumb. How much of the course prerequisites have you actually read?

I couldn't help it

fucking bullshit you dumb ass pussy you could help it if you weren't so weak now what are you going to do about it?

edit: I just noticed your history commenting in red pill goes back over a year. How the fuck is it you come out of your frame so easily this far into it?

bogeyd6 · 2015-10-07T19:34:24+00:00

Well here we go friends. Another low quality post by a beginner. Coming here to leach off of the true warriors who live this life everyday. However, I will throw you a bone.

You failed every test she threw at you horribly, then you went full beta. Saddled up to her hoping to cure your hurt feelz. Validating your masculinity through a woman. Never go FULL BETA. Now that she didnt validate and help your feelz, you come to marriedredpill hoping to get them validated. You won't find that here. You need to learn to stop taking her seriously, AND GET YOUR DAMNED MANHOOD in check son. A simple prison joke has sent you reeling. Reality check.

the_Zambony · 2015-10-08T12:48:37+00:00

"i'd probably do better than you"

She believes her SMV is higher than yours.

I pressed her about it.

Bad. You know this already, but refrain.

"omg, I was joking!"

She framed it as a joke, but the underling issue is not.

when i was talking she'd try to talk over me by raising her voice

Disrespect. Or just bad manners, but more likely lack of respect.

I feel like i lost some ground with her here.

You gave her an opening, she took it. Overall this is minor compaired to the underlining problems; respect, frame, and smv.

Title	Was thinking about a comment my wife made to me last night.....
Author	rob_bass
Upvotes	2
Comments	46
Date	October 7, 2015 7:05 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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