Does anyone else's SO do this?

Numeromancer · 2015-04-13T16:28:32+00:00

Pretend you heard something else, and answer that:

"No, you can't take a shower with me. I want to shower alone."

Countpudyoola · 2015-04-13T16:39:09+00:00

Ignore is good.

But, you know, there's no one stopping you from having fun with it, and I'd see as an area where amused mastery could help curb a bad behavior pattern.

So you might also laugh and say "Ah , there's my narration goblin! I'm going to have to shit in a few hours, so I'll be back so you can tell me to shit like it's your idea." Then the rest of the day if she's still being a troll when you have to interact (which I'd minimize) I'd just refer to her as The Narrator Goblin.

An hour later you walk past her and she says "Yeah you just keep walking."

Out loud you say "The Narrator Goblin saw her prey walking and told him to keep walking thus stealing his walking juice." So you amp up the ridiculousness by narrating the narration goblin.

You have to do it like it's giving you the biggest kick and having a big laugh at her bad behavior. Any direct talking confrontation attempts you ignore, just keep up the David Attenborough.

Take the air out of it.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-04-13T18:46:30+00:00

She's telling you what to do in the hopes that you'll fall into her frame. She's hoping to get a rise out of you. She is trying to be the one "in control".

Now, I have to ask you: If you ARE the one in control, then would YOU say something like that? She knows she's not in control, and by behaving this way, she's ceding that she agrees that you are the one in control. Let that settle in. You are the one in control. Is that something to let irritate you? Focus your mind on what comes next (after the shower). Are you going to lift, get dressed and go out?

Does it revolve around your wife, or does it revolve around you?

rpthay · 2015-04-13T16:04:53+00:00

Response:

snort "Yes ma'am!/Of course mistress, right away mistress" / any other sarcastic remark.

Then chuckle to yourself.

En_sigma · 2015-04-13T13:07:15+00:00

That is an old tactic used by women without a lot of brain power. The idea is to tell you to do something that you have already decided to do in order to condition you to do what she says without thinking about it in the future. It is that simple.

You have the average AWALT at home. Congrats.

The prescription (as in most situations) is dread. Silence. Go dark. No conversations until she figures out how to talk to you - which is quite enjoyable. The world can be an interesting place when you have free time.

TrainingTheBrain · 2015-04-13T13:15:54+00:00

Except now I'm irritated with you

Don't let this petty shit phase you. Go take the shower and when you're done take off. She wants to drop some snarky ass remarks you can drop some efficient dread. Leave for the sake of leaving so her Hamster can get a workout, even if you just leave to a park and read, just go.

I'm also under the assumption that you are in shape and working to get in even better shape. Dread works for those who are attractive, if you're a fat slob, she won't really care where you go and not have any dread that other woman will be enjoying your time and attention (your best asset).

Counter by being the adult and not letting it phase you. Then take away the time, attention, and energy you've been giving her. Do not 'Reward Failure'.

marxistbacon · 2015-04-13T13:56:01+00:00

Except now I'm irritated with you

Yeah, it's hard not to be. But they're just words. Why would you give some shrew the power over you that she can fuck up your whole afternoon with something trivial like "go have a shower"? They're just words. They only mean what you choose to let them mean.

One stoic approach to insults is to consider where they come from and what they say. If it's truth - why should it be an insult? If it's from someone you respect who has more knowledge and judgement and skills than you, perhaps there's something to learn from a negative comment, so why be upset? But if it's from someone who's petty, less than you, and warped, then why would you allow their judgement of you affect you? In fact, to get insults from someone who sees wrong as right and right as wrong is probably actually a compliment, because it means you're probably doing something right.

TooPrettyToDie · 2015-04-14T00:27:56+00:00

In a cheery voice "thanks love" and a wave!

theultmatecad · 2015-04-14T10:53:26+00:00

Just laugh at her and say ok

The idea is to be unaffected. Not take her serious

NiftyDolphin · 2015-04-14T14:07:57+00:00

When a woman finds that you are successfully utilizing a tactic against her, she will attack the use of that tactic.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-04-14T15:15:13+00:00

Ignore it. The rules of Psychological Extinction require her behavior to increase in volume and frequency before it slowly declines.

abdada · 2015-04-13T13:00:24+00:00

"I'll shower, after a workout"

Then sex, or hit the gym.

CaptainWasHere · 2015-04-13T15:30:45+00:00

Mine does not do this. If she did, I would quickly squash it as immature and disrespectful communication that will not be tolerated. But you have to earn the leadership position in order to make demands.

Title	Does anyone else's SO do this?
Author	JustCameToTroll
Upvotes	5
Comments	21
Date	April 13, 2015 12:56 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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