Dont know whats wrong with me... Kinda feeling like ending it all

Themane22 · 2019-01-26T21:45:52+00:00

Hit the gym and clean up your diet. Also always be escalating

bruiser18 · 2019-01-26T22:15:49+00:00

Stop watching porn, stop playing with your dick, stop playing video games, stop lazing around, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Start going to the gym, start meal prepping, start a hobby, start setting goals, start reading, start meditating.

OneBrowUp · 2019-01-26T22:26:21+00:00

I've read the whole thing and I understand what you're going through. First of all you need to realize that you need to go beyond your comfort zone with women. To do so, you must stop thinking that sex is some special magical thing because it is not. It's almost like with the video games you used to play, some of them are good, some are bad. And having sex is like completing a side quest on your way to the endgame which is becoming a better man. So stop obsessing over sex. If you feel like you're stuck just use a good quality escort to ease your mind and then take it from there without pressure. It's better than fapping anyway. Apart from that limit and then gradually drop porn completely, invest in some good quality protein and BCAA for muscle gain, get rid of glasses and use contact lenses, start saving money to fix your teeth and you're golden.

paul_ernst · 2019-01-26T22:20:44+00:00

So what you're feeling right now is one-itis. Which of course you know. I'd suggest to find a local RSD community and start going out with them. You'll find out that most RSD communities are actually packed with guys in your situation, but they all help each other to stay positive and keep going out. And that's key, honestly.

Look, if you're in the negative spiral of thoughts you are right now, even sex would barely save you. You'd have sex and think: "I was terrible, I didn't last long enough, I wasn't confident...." bla bla blah.

If you say " I never look at a girl sexually I look at them as a normal human being. ", I really want you to know 2 things: 1, Most people spend an enormous amount of time daily trying to be normal. No one is normal ok. What you perceive to be normal is just people accepting their own weirdness. And 2, everyone looks at girls sexually. And if you really don't, which I highly doubt, then get your head out of your ass, because girls want to be looked at sexually. Why do you think their tits "happen" to be in every selfie they put on Instagram? Girls want sex ok, they want it bad. But they really aren't gonna spell it out for you. My girl friends admit that that is in fact the most easy selection strategy out there. If a guy hasn't figured that out, he's insecure and not worth their time. It's a fucked up spiral for guys in it, I know for I've been there. And I can tell you, getting good with girls will in fact fundamentally change and improve your life. You'll actually shift to a default state of being content with who you are. It's possible. I promise. Learn the ways, friend.

Edit: (update) I'd also recommend going back to the basics. Start with cold stone outer-game. I always suggest to beginners in game to read "The Mystery Method". The basic blueprint of game (Attraction, Comfort, Seduction) is something you really need to understand before any ideology (inner game frameworks) like TRP are going to start helping you.

FereallyRed · 2019-01-26T22:19:57+00:00

"I never approached a girl"

Wonder what could be the issue?

DiosJ · 2019-01-26T21:46:08+00:00

Why u didn't hit the gym in those 2 years?

barn3r · 2019-01-26T22:35:41+00:00

You were born a man so you are ENOUGH. Even if some fag boys or dumb bitches tell you or act as if you are otherwise. You need that irrational narcissistic high level of confidence. Tell yourself you’re the shit everyday even if you don’t think so. Eventually you’ll internalize this to the point you start believing it. It’s psychology; if you’re called a piece of shit enough times you’ll start believing it.

Keep improving yourself socially, mentally and physically especially lifting. If a girl comes over to your place to “Netflix and chill” they’re going to get fucked so don’t disappoint and be a man and fuck. This is arguably your whole point of existence as a human from a scientific standpoint. So fuck, literally.

wobbleelbbow · 2019-01-26T23:57:04+00:00

You do not wait for IOI you fucking GO FOR IT like a man. That's what differentiates a pussy from a man. Pussy waits for girl to show signs. A man just goes for it and accepts either success or rejection. Read sidebar since you whine too much and pity yourself. When the only thing you have to do and be is assertive asshole who doesn't give a fuck

edit:typo

Pajca · 2019-01-26T23:59:06+00:00

I'm in the same fucking situation.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-27T00:50:36+00:00

Put everything in perspective, and STOP beating the fuck out of yourself.

You've come far in 2 years. You have all the knowledge. It's a journey. It feels shitty right now, but it will pass.

Get out of the pity party and have some gratitude, for everything in your life. Are you dying? Sick? Homeless? In domestic violence? No

Get up, march on and move forward. There is simply some more stuff to apply.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-01-27T01:19:57+00:00

You haven’t learned game or made any effort to practice it. Knowing what you need to do isn’t enough, you actually have to do it or you’re a blue pulled guy with trp knowledge.

No one said this was going to be easy man, but if you put in the effort now and start approaching/lifting you’ll only reap the rewards —literally all you have ahead of you are good times

If you’ve come this far, you can give a little more.

We’re all going down in the end, literally nothing anyone says to you should mean anything. Push past it, you can do this chief

alleyteris · 2019-01-27T03:25:20+00:00

Start lifting regularly, and hire an escord to fuck. Sex is not something you want your life to revolve around because this will make you unhapppy . Find your goal in life is whats inportand

fds_1 · 2019-01-27T07:06:46+00:00

Stopped reading at "I have girl friends". Girls have guys that they fuck and they have girl friends. There is no male-female friendship, you my friend are a beta orbiter to all of those girls. If girls aren't responding to your KINO that's because you're not attractive enough. Hit the gym.

GGrub8 · 2019-01-27T07:48:00+00:00

Notice how on any other board most of the responses you'd get would be "Oh no please don't kill yourself! Please keep extending your miserable life as much as possible! Validate my fake sympathy and total lack of helpful advice!" while here you have people who are not even addressing the suicide part while giving you real advice.

This is the mindset you need to fix your current situation.

bucSlayer · 2019-01-27T11:04:59+00:00

Fuck “big IOIs”. she’s on a date with you, just try to kiss the girl on the FIRST DATE and see where it goes. second date you try to fuck her.

Hit the gym or martial arts.

There’s guys who are fucking many girls, and there’s guys who are 29 and virgins, you found the TRP at 19, calm the fuck down.

alpha-zach · 2019-01-27T17:59:25+00:00

Wtf.

TLDR

Dude. Get out of your head and just go for it. Jesus. You’re so afraid of rejection you end up getting rejected.

alpha-zach · 2019-01-27T18:04:08+00:00

Tldr

Wtf dude. Get out of your head. When you didn’t have style, how did you get it? You just tried something. It prob didn’t work. But then you tried again. And again and again. And eventually you figured it out. You weren’t afraid of rejection. Had you been, you’d have never gotten to where you are.

You’re so afraid of rejection, that you won’t make a move on a woman you’ve been on 30 dates with. And now you’ve been rejected. Self fulfilling prophecy.

Try something. You’re gonna fuck up. But you’ll learn from it. Then try something else. Learn from each fuck up, enjoy the successes along the way. Eventually you be just as good with women as you are with style. But you have to stop being afraid.

Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results is insanity.

DarkRedLens · 2019-01-27T18:24:37+00:00

I've probably been rejected more than 100 times. From not giving me a number, to not answering my texts, to flaking on the first date, to ghosting me after the first date, to telling me she's not into me after having sex with me once.

You need to get rejected more often, you need to push your boundries and make mistakes. For example let's say you approach a girl in a club and you make a fool of yourself. So what!? She thinks you're a creepy douche. You didn't calibrate properly and scared the shit out of her. I think you're not trying enough. Let's say on date one you put her hand on her leg and looked her in the eyes for 5 seconds in the first 30 minutes of the date and you blow it because it wasn't the right timing? So what!? You've got to make mistakes to learn how to properly calibrate your game.

For example, when I started gaming I was reading a lot of yareally and he can have a very direct way of texting and gaming. I was inspired by him while I was texting a girl. I had got her number a few days beforehand but hadn't met her for the first date. I started getting sexual by message, something like: 'I'm good, thinking of what you look like naked.' I miscalibrated the social interaction and blew it because I lost frame after. Now I rarely get sexual by text before I get sexual in person. It's just my style of game. But I had to overshoot and learn from that interaction what personally fits my game.

The point is get rejected more often. Take more shots and give yourself a break man you are twenty one, give yourself 5 years to get good at game, play longterm, don't be setback by short term failures. Consistency is the answer!

Edit: Spelling

Kommanderdude · 2019-01-27T03:41:22+00:00

Well... Bye....

Title	Dont know whats wrong with me... Kinda feeling like ending it all
Author	PotatoWatt
Upvotes	7
Comments	90
Date	January 26, 2019 9:23 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ak58bv/dont_know_whats_wrong_with_me_kinda_feeling_like/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/dont-know-whats-wrong-with-me-kinda-feeling-like.203623 https://theredarchive.com/post/203623

Comments