"Let's work on the relationship" : What does it really mean?

MrPurplePoison · 2018-10-31T22:59:32+00:00

It is a long mindfuck.

You are being asked to sit for hours and be lectured on why she is upset. With hints that you should change or she will be "unhappy" and might leave.

During this long lecture she will be picking your brain and updating the list of weaknesses that you have. She will poke at your boundaries and figure out just how far she can push you, what buttons to push, what cuts really deep.

Let's work on the relationship is information gathering and training. Do not engage.

[deleted] · 2018-11-01T13:00:13+00:00

Depends on the woman or her mood...

Here's a list of things I don't like
Things I want you to do...
I'm bored , so this conversation is your reward
You've been quite beta and accommodating lately...lets see how much more I can milk it... and by the way, since I can , you're kinda being gross so I'm going to treat you more like a little beta and while we have this conversation I'll think of more things to rake you over the coals about.

You hear this opener and just realize you've earned it for some reason (or it's just time to test your frame again). So take a breath, reset and find something else to do while you sort out your mistakes.

RedPillCoach · 2018-11-01T17:25:09+00:00

I know what it means.

simbarlion · 2018-10-31T23:39:22+00:00

it is a contract renegotiation. She feels what she is giving is not worth it. Buyers remorse.

Eyeswideopend · 2018-10-31T23:00:20+00:00

It really means working on you.

bowhunter6 · 2018-11-01T03:54:42+00:00

Men don't work on relationships. We work on fucking your brains out, taking you along for fun times, or getting shit done. Let your bitch work on the relationship on her own time; you have more important shit to do.

A simple "Nah, I'm good" and then doing whatever it is you were going to do would do you well here.

Reach180 · 2018-11-01T13:13:32+00:00

The key word being "Let's".....how much work does she intend to be doing?

470_2_700_nm · 2018-11-01T01:29:34+00:00

I usually have my dick represent me in these cir-cum-stances.

Mkay?

The_Litz · 2018-11-01T06:06:15+00:00

She wants to gauge how much control she still has in said relationship.

It is not all bad though, I have learnt that there must be some degree of discomfort in a relationship to keep BOTH of you sharp.

Take it as a sign that your changes are being noticed. Expect a little comfort testing, a little shit testing and overall sharing of feelz. Not a bad thing, she needs to share the feelz, it is part of being married.

Worst case, as outlined by my fellow posters, she is hell bent on forcing you back under her thumb.

So it depends on the woman that is uttering these words.

johneyapocalypse · 2018-11-02T00:20:16+00:00

Caution urged in being so jaded. That phrase need not mean:

You're an asshole.
I want to fuck the local bouncer.
You are pathetic.

It depends greatly on the people involved, the relationship, and the dynamic at play.

In my case - that phrase - initiated both by me and by my wife - was genuinely shared on multiple occasions - in the spirit of positivity and growth. We wanted to improve. We wanted to grow (together). We wanted to be happy.

Granted we, together, went through such a hellish and bizarre set of circumstances it likely doesn't apply to most here - but still - the general principle was real and very much applies.

Don't be so jaded, asshole.

Just because so many here say "toughen up" or "fuck your wife" or "do what you want" or "pretend anything she says is a whore's lie" doesn't mean it's true.

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-04T01:28:36+00:00

One thing you could do is to remove her clothes immediately, and go for a fuck, acting as if you thought all along that that is what she had in mind. If she gives you shit, say
"If THAT'S not working on a relationship, I don't know what is!"

Frosteecat · 2018-11-01T00:35:02+00:00

I’d pull a Lebowski. “That’s just like your opinion, man.”

Canttakethewhyfromme · 2018-11-01T00:24:10+00:00

Always be prepared to separate. Have a list of your own demands.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2018-10-31T23:07:34+00:00

Hamster. Yawn.

InChargeMan · 2018-11-02T15:17:13+00:00

"Sorry, I can't hear you, speak into my microphone."

Title	"Let's work on the relationship" : What does it really mean?
Author	Downtowndex72
Upvotes	21
Comments	26
Date	October 31, 2018 10:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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