The aha moment

justpickanyusername · 2018-10-08T14:29:55+00:00

The fact that this is still bothering you means she is right. If you truly were masculine you wouldn’t give two shits about that comment and would have known how to make her tingle by your response or lack thereof depending on the scenario.

Good. Use it as fuel. You now know you are a faggot. What are you going to do about it? Hint: lift, sidebar, and STFU.

UEMcGill · 2018-10-08T15:18:49+00:00

The fact that you care is bad enough. The fact that you are analyzing it means you have no frame or map yet. Get on it.

And you're breaking some cardinal rules of listening to words instead of actions and giving entirely too many fucks.

I would wager... that your b.i.l. doesn't give a single fuck about much, which, if it mattered (which it doesn't) may be the only point you should take from this.

A woman saddled with a beta weak sauce could compare him to a lamp and he'll spend the next week autisting about it.

I mean really this would have been an easy ngaf a.m. /a.a. situation.

My brother is more of a man than you.

"Gross, you're attracted to your brother?"

I mean in the broader sense that he's more...

<keep laughing> "Uh, that have support groups for that. But I'm telling you, I ain't calling you 'sis' next time in bed.."

You're disgusting...absolutely not wh...

"I'm just pulling your leg. Sister." <chuckle>

And again. If you realize you're in some shit test that you find yourself caring too much about, can't a.a. successfully then walk off.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-10-08T14:34:44+00:00

But it's clear I have no respect from my wife

This is all you need to take from that comment.

Put your hurt feelings aside and get back to work improving yourself before it's too late.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-08T14:51:04+00:00

“The little phrase, which was said innocently enough”

Sure about that?

Have you considered it was truth hidden in plain site? A cry for help. A shot across the bow..

Basically, calling you out as a pussy in the nicest possible way. Something she could never tell you in a serious conversation.

Be glad she had the courage to “joke around” with you faggot..

Women crave an unapologetic high-value man to take them to pound town.

Reach180 · 2018-10-08T15:34:18+00:00

What she said might ring true to RP aware men. I don't care. You should never, ever believe that what women say with their mouths. And especially don't believe what they tell you about you.

RedPillCoach · 2018-10-08T15:52:28+00:00

is it because the jobs he manages to get are in construction?

Nope but it probably doesn't hurt.

Because he goes hunting?

Nope, but it probably helps.

then I get angry

Nobody cares.

I pay our bills. I am a good father to our baby. I have been a dedicated partner and husband. I keep our house in order.

None of that is "Masculine." Who told you that it was?

Yet this fucking skid is more masculine than me. What I heard was, he's more of a man than me. And it's frying me.

Nobody cares.

Your wife described a BEHAVIOR and an ATTITUDE. She is not describing how you do the dishes and pick up the house. She is describing how this guy doesn't give a fuck. He operates in his own frame. He is his own center of origin. He doesn't sit up at night saying: ""Oh, maybe I can be more masculine if I smoke weed." He decides what he wants and then he does it. He doesn't people please. He doesn't pick up the house to please his wife or make her happy. If he picks up the house he does it because HE wants it picked up, not because mommy told him to pick it up.

Sepean · 2018-10-08T14:28:54+00:00

And then I get angry and think I pay our bills. I am a good father to our baby. I have been a dedicated partner and husband. I keep our house in order. Yet this fucking skid is more masculine than me. What I heard was, he's more of a man than me. And it's frying me.

It’s pretty fucking telling that all the stuff you mention about yourself is beta. This is for you https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/20/alpha/

IRunYourRiver · 2018-10-08T16:38:27+00:00

She's obviously fucking him.

RPWolf · 2018-10-08T14:26:10+00:00

You know how man prisons have alphas in them? All of them and lots of them.

You haven't read any of the sidebar or even the suggested posts here. Do the work and your questions will be answered.

IsThisNameAvailable8 · 2018-10-08T15:27:35+00:00

The fact it’s bugging you is proof she’s right.

DeplorableRay · 2018-10-08T23:04:20+00:00

Hypergamy gives no fucks about how good of a husband or how good of a father you are.

Get the fuck to work already.

juliusstreicher · 2018-10-09T00:17:12+00:00

Bend him over a table and fuck him in the ass in front of her. When you're done, ask her who is more masculine now.

screechhater · 2018-10-09T02:39:44+00:00

So I’ll throw you a crying towel. Wipe away the tears.

So let’s get to it.

You lifting ?

Who gives a fuck if you are dedicated husband, father and got your shit together with the bills ?

In the grand scheme of things, shouldn’t you be good at those things ? Seriously. You actually think that shit takes masculinity ?

Hands. You rake, do chores with gloves ? Lift with gloves ? Well, fucking don’t.

You complain about work ? Bad drivers ? Stop.

You try to listen to her every word and carefully tread not to break the eggshells in a sensible, friendly don’t rock the boat manner ? Or, yah that dress looks good on you ? When in fact it looks like shit ?

Masculinity comes from deep down. Bring true to yourself and telling the truth no matter what the backlash is. It’s a no holes barred attitude of this is my life, I’m true to me, and god damn it, I’ll admit I’m wrong but fuck you if you are going to rub my nose in it type attitude

Ignore what she said and reread NMMNG, then pick up the 16 Comandments of Poon,

Get some bro friends and get the fuck out of the house a lot more.

Dread. Each step. Slowly. Ratchet it up.

Did I mention you need to lift. ??

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-08T14:30:10+00:00

Yep, you should be pissed.

Doing all those things are great for comfort - and you should be doing them as a Man, but they don’t make her wet.

A poor broke dumb ass construction worker in ripped jeans with his biceps showing just happens to knock on the door to say they will be repairing the street today.. can give her the tingles^ tm .

Attraction triggers.

Asshole Game hits several of them at one time.

Sepean · 2018-10-08T16:07:38+00:00

About the hunting.

There's a reason that hunting was a rite of passage for boys to become men in most pre-industrial societies. Thes days I might sound like a psychopath when I try to explain it, but fuck it... this is the locker room.

Finding your prey takes focus and patience. It requires drive to ignore discomfort, boredom, and difficulty. If you hunt with other men, it takes cooperation in a shared mission. These are masculine traits that women, however technically accomplished, fundamentally aren't evolved for.

Have you ever had the power of life or death over another living creature? It definitely changes your perspective. Pulling the trigger, or loosing your arrow, to kill a creature is an expression of power.

Have you ever eaten something you've killed? (Fishing barely counts, especially if you count more empty beer cans than fish.) Then you can feed your clan. You can survive. There's a primal aspect to hunting.

When you go lift, the iron moves or it doesn't. "Feelings" don't come into it.

When you hunt, you eat or you don't. Again, "feelings" don't come into it.

juliusstreicher · 2018-10-09T10:17:57+00:00

When you start pumping iron, if she asks or mocks you for doing it because of what she said, just say"Oh, that? I thought you were just talking dirty."

IsThisNameAvailable8 · 2018-10-08T15:43:35+00:00

The fact it’s bugging you is proof she’s right.

innominating · 2018-10-09T17:28:09+00:00

You say you’ve read everything, so you should know that paying the bills and taking care of babies aren’t masculine things to do.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t do those things, I’m just saying you shouldn’t use those things to distinguish yourself from your brother-in-law when determining who is more masculine. Honestly you shouldn’t compare yourself to your brother-in-law at all.

Title	The aha moment
Author	Bencousinwater
Upvotes	17
Comments	47
Date	08 October 2018 02:15 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/203922
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