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Not exactly shit tests - a little help?

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September 22, 2018
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Newly unplugging, Dread 1/2, last OYS post is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9gsz6v/own_your_shit_weekly_september_18_2018/e67i4nl?utm_source=reddit-android

My wife has recently started this thing where she sort of gushes over me - my body, my mental state, my career, etc. I'm doing fine, fellas, but this is a bit much.

I know these aren't exactly shit tests, but they are something. I don't know how to handle these so I usually smirk and STFU, make a stupid joke, or launch into a marginally related anecdote.

What are these? Any thoughts on how to handle them?


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Title Not exactly shit tests - a little help?
Author IRunYourRiver
Upvotes 11
Comments 22
Date 22 September 2018 06:34 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203990
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9i1xuf/not_exactly_shit_tests_a_little_help/
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[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy

She’s happy, asshole. Like a cat when they rub up on you and purs...

Women are most happy when they are getting fucked hard and led by a strong dominate man.

Called Sexual Polarity. Meaning, you’re finally being a Man, which in-return, allows her to be a sweet woman again. You probably forgot what that looked like.

Let her gush. Double down on cocky asshole Game.

[–]IRunYourRiver[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's that simple? I'm hardly starting with this.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck me, I read your background and it was cringe worthy. You suck at Game and full of beta nice guy tendencies. She isnt happy -I was wrong- she’s definitely fucking Chad.

She either wants an expensive vacation or another kid like /u/healthyteacher4 said.

She’s playing you for the beta faggot that you are.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck me, I am so confused. And unmotivated to figure out if your first or second post is the one that is real.

[–]hystericalbonding5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

She is looking for the same kind of feedback. It's a hint that she'll respond well to it. Look for opportunities to reward desired behavior.

Think of it like mirroring in PUA, but on a much larger scale.

That being said, rapport breaks are still very important.

[–]IRunYourRiver[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Right. This is what it seems like to me. It's a sort of dominance test wrapped in a compliment. She may want something back from me, but my sense is that the worst thing I could do is accept the compliment on its face. Usually I'm STFU, but there's got to be another way to play it off.

I really thought this thread was going to be mostly made up of people saying I should slap her on the ass and say something cool and slightly sexual. By my Dread level alone you can probably tell I'm not there.

[–]hystericalbonding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

say something cool and slightly sexual

Forget about trying to find the right words. This is a big issue for introverts. Read The Book of Pook and then devour as much PUA material as you can handle. Your internal game needs work.

[–]helaughsinhidden3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

It is a form of comfort test. She is testing the waters too see if you like her attention still or if she is gonna get nexted or being cheated on.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

Yeah maybe a mild comfort test.. good call.

Edit: No fucking way.

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

In light of new evidence..... She might be mocking you. However keep improving your frame. You just started 2 months ago, so you have 15 more months before she will full believe you and completely trust your leadership.

[–]IRunYourRiver[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Mocking me? Hmm. I have to think about that. There are some other associated recent changes that make me think this isn't so, but you may be right.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Well the lads here have offered up explanation s from all corners here.

Just take it as a compliment. Maybe on of her girlfriends said you looked like you had your shit together.

It doesn't matter, but it is a good measure of progress as it happens more.

Now get back to work faggot.

[–]IRunYourRiver[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

There's so much up-is-downism when you're first starting this stuff that you begin to question even simple things like compliments. If nothing else it'll make good fodder for the next anti-RP article in Vox or wherever.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. It's a long game.

Shes responding. Take the win, plenty of hits to come.

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Give less fucks about she's responding. Your journey is about you and you alone.

You have only one judge and jury... The Mirror.

[–]IRunYourRiver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Okay, I don't think it's "mocking" per se, but it might be like when I tell my kids they're good at a musical instrument or something. There's this understanding that I'm impressed with their progress, but they're still the kid. I wouldn't tell LeBron James that he's a good basketball player. Of course he is.

At any rate, maintaining AM or at least STFU seems to be the way to go. The ship is moving even if the 1000 ft rope isn't taut.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might want a kid.

[–]runnowxxx1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

i don”t understand. why are you concerned? is it a red flag in the relationship? if she pays u compliments just enjoy it? does it even matter whether it”s genuine or not?

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

this post sucks dick. it's spectacularly lazy. don't act surprised that every comment in this post is taking the piss because you have truly earned this.

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's either

  • encouraging you because she likes the changes, or

  • flirting with you, or

  • she's feeling a bit of Dread, but is trying to retain your attention and commitment by giving you validation rather than sex (as she would with a beta orbiter).

For the first, the classic cocky Han-Solo-style "I know" and variations is good.

For both the second and third cases, sexualizing and escalating in a fun, cocky way is good, as it will either escalate the flirt or call her bluff: "Yeah, my body's so awesome it makes me horny, too; to the bedroom with you right now!" I'd recommend that you try this type of response regularly; just realize that in the third case, it'll likely shut off the compliments (IMO a good thing; you shouldn't allow yourself to be bought by cheap validation).

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her she is a good girl. Then pat her on the head and scratch her behind the ears when she is good.

Triple down on asshole game.

"Wife gushes."

You: "Of course" or "I know." Cocky smile. Then bring her in for the back and ear scratch and a kiss.



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