I used to be cool.....

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asholsandelbows
July 26, 2018
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Yep... that’s the bumper sticker my wife wants to put on our minivan. I thought it was pretty damn funny, until I realized it’s probably better suited stamped on my forehead. I’ve been married for 13 years,and for 13 years I went from having a awesome social status, all the toys I could ask for and pretty much freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted, on my terms.

Now I am 38. Got a nice home, three awesome kids, a kick ass job and a wife who cooks and cleans, does the laundry. What more could I ask for..... guess what fuckers, I’m tired of it!! I am the poster child for the word BETA!!

That’s right, I gave everything up for her. Why? I thought that what a great husband was supposed to do. That’s what happened when you get married. You both have to make sacrifices. If anyone believes this is true they are pretty fucked up in the head.

See, I gave her everything she wanted, a house, a couple cars, the dogs she wanted. I could go on and on. She is being treated like a queen..... meanwhile I am being treated like a slave. Yep, I do what she says, when she says. God forbid I say no to something. Don’t want to rock the boat. I just look at her, up on her pedestal and say... yes dear. And our sex life.... well let’s just say my right hand muscles are bigger than my left from all the jacking off I do.

But then I found a book. NMMNG. Changed my thinking a little. Found this subreddit. Devoured the sidebar books. Read post, after post after post. Guess what I learned. I am a fucking faggot! And it pisses me off. Sure in the past I would blame my wife for our debt, our lack of sex ect..... and she would just put me in my place. Now I realize the only person I have to blame is me! What a shitty fucking realization that is. I could have avoided a lot of this shit if I would have just put my big boy pants on and said the word NO!!!

Well, I have STFU for the past month. Watched her actions, not listened to her words. And I’ll be damned. Half the shit she does I have already read about. I now know I order to get back to being myself, the awesome fucker I used to be, I need to swallow the red pill. It’s intimidating as fuck. But I have absolutely no choice.

So there is my victim puke. One of the reason I wanted to post this is so I can look back in a year and just see how much of a beta, pushover, peice if shit I was. I now am willing to give up everything to get my balls back! Peace out. I’m going to go lift some shit!

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Title I used to be cool.....
Author asholsandelbows
Upvotes 16
Comments 30
Date 26 July 2018 06:01 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204160
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/924l8c/i_used_to_be_cool/
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Comments

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy

Hey your editing is fucked up. Fix it.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're allowed one victim puke for a reason.

No more excuses. Time to own your shit and get to work.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

When confronted with a relationship issue think back to the days before marriage and ask yourself “what would that guy do?”

Along with doing all the actual work (lift, sidebar, etc), making that small mental switch had the biggest impact for me. After all, that fucker is the guy she chose, not the beta loser she has (had) now.

She may complain that she hates the “new you” but the proof is in her actions. The asshole she complains about is the same jerk she’s blowing later that day.

For anyone that ever “had it” and just lost it, it’s really that simple. Be attractive, don’t be unattractive and just go back to unashamedly behaving like the man you used to be.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My wife thanked me the other day for 'coming back' to her.

It does help me to imagine what the fucker she married would do, that's the person she fell the fuck in love with.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This the part where you feel cathartic and don't do shit?

[–]asholsandelbows[S] 4 points5 points  (9 children) | Copy

There ya go. Better editing.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine10 points11 points  (8 children) | Copy

Good. Now I can read it.

Husband is expected You both have to make sacrifices.

Yep, we all believed the lie we have been fed.

“My better half”, “ happy wife = happy life” “Communication is key”, “never go to bed mad”, “I need to ask the boss”. Fuck that shit.

I found this place after I jacked off on my 10 year wedding anniversary - because she was “so tired” that night after date night and picking up the kids at the sitter. That’s the day i turned it all around. Found mmslp that night. Holy fuck.

Women will always try to keep men beta-tized for one reason: to secure their provider (you) for the duration.

Blue pill mainstream marriage advice creates fat fucking retarded beta men to Ensure he is so unattractive, no other woman would want to fuck him and Wives are programmed to keep you down by lowering your self esteem so that you have no chance of fucking another side chick.

That way, You have no choice but to keep providing your time, commitment and resources ($) to her. She wins. You lose. It’s just the way it is when you get married. Fuck that.

Feelz that anger? Realizing the bullshit you were living?

Rage against the machine faggot. Start lifting like a mother fucker and start acting like an alpha male. Learn Game. Be happy that you woke up at 38 years old. You still have 2 decades of Gaming like a mother fucker. You are lucky.

Read.It.All ===>

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your last paragraph reminds me of the line in the poem:

“Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

It’s never too late to go out fighting. Even on deaths door. Every day is one day closer to that day. Memento mori. You’re already dead, you just don’t know it yet. Every man should be raging against the dying of the light with every single waking moment.

You’re dead on, 38 is still decades left to improve oneself. I only wish I had found MRP at 38 instead of 40....would have been 2 less years wasted.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Awesome.

When I hear that poem I immediately think of Back to School with Rodney dangerfield. Ha.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

He never got any respect...and he’s no Carlin.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

But he was banging that eccentric English teacher and got nasa to do his homework....

[–]DeepReindeer0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

>Blue pill mainstream marriage advice creates fat fucking retarded beta men to Ensure he is so unattractive, no other woman would want to fuck him and Wives are programmed to keep you down by lowering your self esteem so that you have no chance of fucking another side chick.

Truth. My wife told me the other day that she doesn't like complimenting me on how good I look because she's worried it will make me even more confident (sexy) and I might get even more women after me. She tells me I lift too much. Says I don't need to be in THIS good of shape. LOL, silly hamster, I don't lift for you, I lift because I love it.

OP -just be prepared for this as you get better. Ignore her words. Pay attention to her actions.

Read the sidebar, MAP if you need to (probably do). Book of Pook is art. Don't go RAMBO, you have a long journey ahead and while you are killing the inner chump (it's a slow choking process) you'll need to soften the anger phase with lifting. You're wife sounds like a decent woman. She can't help that you are a bitch. That's on you. Fix it.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yes, mine used to guilt me for driving home during the workday to workout during my lunch time - wasting money on gas.. I only live 15 miles from my work ha. Also used to bake me brownies and shit late at night. And the ole “I love you the way you are” bullshit.

Anything to derail your progress.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I have had to tell me wife several times to stop fucking buying me chocolate.

[–]turbospeedsc2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

mine did that same thing, suddenly it was snack night every night, but after a few weeks, she started to tell i felt firmer, and boy i went for a ride, sex just like and in some cases better than when we just started dating, after the second month i have been receiving some of the most awesome blowjobs on a daily basis, made her rim me and now everytime we fuck she wants to lick my ass, but careful, if you slip you back to the place you started.

Last couple of weeks have been crazy at work, had my daugther for 28 days in a row, so i decided to skip the gym last week, and we went from daily sex to 3-4 times and so so performance.

Sidenote: whe we were peaking, she asked me in a scale on 1 to 10 how good was our sex life, just for hamster sake i decided to tell her 9, that night, she played hard to get for, but after getting her defenses down, we had an amazing session, and when we were fucking she started to tell me she was ready to add another pussy to the mix, so she can get a perfect 10, and because AWALT, she also told me why just a pussy and not another dick, instead of deering or any weak behavior i could have done before, just told her because i don't share my bitch, and proceed to pound her into submission, subject has never come after that.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

“One of the reason I wanted to post this is so I can look back in a year...”

Why wait an entire year?

Look in the mirror right now faggot.

[–]TheLanternFlame3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think he meant to look at this post after a year to see how far he has gone. Just like a before and after of a body workout, you want to see the changes (incremental changes) that help you along the way. Shit will happen now, and he'll be able to get back his manhood by then.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of the best things I did when I unplugged was to literally take a long, hard look in the mirror. It's corny, it's cliche, what the fuck ever...that fat son of a bitch in the mirror showed me everything I needed to know about the source of all of my problems and what was required to fix them. 6 months later, I am gaining mad respect for that guy in the mirror.

[–]asholsandelbows[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Good point! Not liking what I’m seeing. Got a shit ton of work to do!!

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If only there was a place where men who drove themselves into the shitpit could go and swap notes.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You'll be fine, you have the blueprint : you 20 years ago.

[–]bear_helper_171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The consensus i have seen on this sub is to give your turnaround and improvement "one month for each year of marriage". Don't go Rambo. Look up the concept of Rambo in this sub. Look up the "anger phase" that happens when you first unplug.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I didn't read one thing in this post about your fitness journey and you said you read the sidebar?

Go to the gym you pussy.

Think about your next move between sets.

well, I have STFU for the past month.

And you missed a month of lifting you tool.

Welcome to the party.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just remember Rambo:

You are not hunting her. She is hunting you.

I did not come to rescue the wives from Rambo...I came to rescue you......

[–]WolfofAllStreetz-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learn how to post properly to reddit first, I'm not a web developer.

[–]weakandsensitive-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Midlife crisis.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Cool. No one cares.



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