What to do with tired wife? (May contain traces of puke)

cholomite · 2017-12-02T14:27:52+00:00

You're in her frame and she doesn't like it. She knows that what she does (sex or no sex) will effect you and she is turned off that she had that much control over you.

Be outcome independent, stop bringing up sex and trying to get a solid yes or no. Those are worthless anyway. Instead just initiate when you want to, and if she gives you a hard no, give her a kiss on the forehead, stay happy and go do something else or just go to sleep.

Stop letting her have control over you through sex.

snatch_haggis · 2017-12-02T17:57:48+00:00

Not getting sex for a week is not gonna kill you. In reality it's not even gonna cause you any discomfort.

What's actually causing you this pain is not sex, but the fact that you need sex for validation of your attractiveness. And that's what makes you so unattractive. Funny how it works, isn't it?

Get past that, and stop living in her frame, as others have said.

beta_no_mo · 2017-12-02T22:54:11+00:00

JFC this is the most pathetic thing I've seen on here yet.

"I've waited a whole week to get my boom boom" stomps feet and sucks on lollipop

"When is mommy going to give me my boom boom?" pouting as he goes to his room

My suggestion: get a nanny to help with the kids in the house. Maybe she'll touch your peepee while she changes your diaper.

[deleted] · 2017-12-02T17:57:01+00:00

The insecurity is you not having confidence in yourself and in the process. So you're waiting around for reinforcement to happen. Dont. Go do what you want to do. Never wait for sex. Any sex that you are purposefully made to wait or 'pay' for, ultimately isn't worth the wait or price.

2ndal · 2017-12-02T14:03:38+00:00

Sex should not be your sole mission. What is your mission? Focus on that.

red-sfpplus · 2017-12-03T00:23:18+00:00

I am so confused...

Well, I know one thing for sure...you are a faggot.

Beyond that, I have no idea if your wife is tired, sick or whatever because you provide no real information in your OP.

People get sick. People get tired. Is she working extra hours because of a deadline of sorts?

Ya, know...never-mind I have already put more effort into my reply than you did your OP.

so I don't know what to do

Go back to the gym and lift again. I lifted twice yesterday. Felt damn good son.

because she's not in shape to take care of the kids

So take the kids with you, you autistic fuck. Jesus.

Advice and or support appreciated.

You will get no support from me. My advice is above, and one more parting piece for you:

On your way out the door, see if you can find your balls - they are somewhere in your wives purse. Take em with you.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2017-12-02T13:45:06+00:00

And God I hate this insecurity of not knowing the whole god damn day. Am I waiting for something that will happen or not? Now she anyway said something along the lines of that she will go to bed early and "we have to wait until she is more rested". It's true that she hasn't slept much at all last week, she is genuinely tired, but I still don't know really.

Promises of sex are worthless. Don't get yourself hyped up over it, probably won't happen. It's a delay tactic, nothing more.

Have already been to the gym today lifting

Hooray for that. How is your diet?

DeplorableRay · 2017-12-02T17:54:27+00:00

It’s not that’s she’s too tired, it’s that you aren’t attractive. Women will walk in the rain for five miles to chads house.

Fix yourself.

Senor_Martillo · 2017-12-02T15:40:37+00:00

Fuck her in the morning. Next!

wekacuck · 2017-12-02T21:07:13+00:00

What would you do if you were certain she would say "no" tonight?

rebbit_reddit · 2017-12-02T23:10:54+00:00

She’s tired because of a lack of sleep last week. Is that because she was unwell/working/other legitimate reason? Or because of too much Netflix/partying/Candy Crush?

If it’s for a legitimate reason, look after your FO. Tell her “I’ve got this, babe. Get some sleep” and take the kids out for an afternoon so she can have a nap.

When she wakes up feeling refreshed and comes to thank you say “You know how to thank me” and smirk/smack ass/grab her right in the pussy

rocknrollchuck · 2017-12-02T15:29:31+00:00

if I go away, well I can't really because she's not in shape to take care of the kids.

Why not? It's not like she's going to sleep in the middle of the day, right? You're around the house too much, she knows you're hovering over her just waiting for her to say yes.

I have held frame the whole week waiting for her to recover.

That's unattractive.

Don't you have ANY legitimate reason to get out, away from her, and do something? No friends you can visit? No home repairs that need to be done? Car need to be washed? Find something and get out of the house for a while.

ice_walker · 2017-12-02T16:46:37+00:00

Thanks for answers everyone. Now some update. Held frame as good as I could. Not good enough though cause I am WAF at the moment. We were talking a bit, she said something jokingly about "last week we had sex like we weren't married". That was like getting a punch right in the face. Because the occasion she was referring to was actually the first time in forever were we had sex like I think it should be (nothing spectacular, we just had sex like we both really meant it), and it was after a couple of weeks separation (physical separation, that is, not legal).

So when I hear her saying that this is how sex is outside the marriage, well, I didn't know what to feel anymore. I started to think about if this is how she had sex with her ONS:s before we met (which it probably was), and if she sees this as an exception that won't likely happen again between us etc. She also mentioned something about that it was better because she could relax because she was not yet sucked into the daily routines and logistics and all the problems. Talked a bit more later, she said she thought the last 6 months had been the best ever for us, I didn't agree since she mentioned divorce several times during this period, and also because the sex was mostly starfish sex, without passion and kissing. I actually explained this a bit, probably a stupid move but I fell out of frame here. She said she was hurt and asked if I didnt love her anymore and if I wanted someone else instead.

Stupid as I am I couldnt completely STFU so I mention this along the lines of "If this is how you see it, like if you are a person that think sex is better outside a relation we might have to reconsider some things". I think I'm over my fear of loosing her, at least some progress there.

[deleted] · 2017-12-03T00:16:09+00:00

Jack off or go bust a nut in a hooker (yes I am serious).

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-12-03T02:18:29+00:00

I have two words for you: OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE!

Get your act together, lead like you were born to, and get the hell out of her Frame. Be independent of the outcomes, and stop being butthurt or getting wrapped up in whether or not you have sex.

screechhater · 2017-12-03T05:36:08+00:00

Usually when I’m tired, I can lay down a take a nap, get some rest and move forward.

My father, a Vietnam vet, taught me a deep breathing technique that I have also taught to my children. It’s helped them with sports and their traveling teams. The oldest now naps while on his rotation at work when at lunch

I know how important my sleep is to me, because juggling my own business, my kids, home repairs and truly taking care of me, sleep is in there somewhere.

My wife’s sleep is something else though That’s on her.

I have the ability to walk into the laundry room and see shit needs to be washed or folded, that’s not all in her, nor is all the cooking, groceries whatever. I know my kids pediatricians name, their DOB, etc.

I used to get caught up in her sleep deprivation crap, now I just laugh at her.

In your case, she is tired of just everything, including your non attractiveness. So, the delayed promises are a stall technique and the non fuck is well, a non fuck at the end of the night.

There is a list of books to read and I suggest lifting.

Just in case you don’t understand what we are trying to say is take care if you and your shit and watch her take care of hers.

Any questions ?

JimboNumberz · 2017-12-02T14:15:59+00:00

Dont let it go and ‘just be nice’

Hold frame and say “Your man is going to take care of you. What’s something I can do that takes something off your plate to allow you more energy for later?”

She’ll know you mean sex. You can be the captain and make her life easier without being beta or just a caretaker.

Then get back to running the house, self improvement.

Check in once “How else can your man be your hero today?” She won’t likely have anything in mind so should be something small

Earlier than normal bed time “Let’s get you to bed”. Take her by the hand Put the moves on her

Title	What to do with tired wife? (May contain traces of puke)
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