I know I will get downvoted because this is a new account with no history. I don't care.
How many people saw an immediate and lasting change with their wife once they got to DL10? I told SAHM wife I want to end the marriage. I've retained an attorney. I am ready to move on. This was not an ultimatum.
The next day it's like all the shitty things in our relationship from over the past several years were reversed. People warned me about hysterical bonding on here and it is 100% true. Things that were way off limits are now not. Things immediately went from dead bedroom to kinky. She enrolled in a tantric sex program. Lots of stuff. She is suddenly the nice and caring.
I'm skeptical of how legit this is. The reason I hired an attorney is because I'm ready to move on. I have options from catch & release over the last several months and I've realized I'm the prize. I'm a much better man than I was 18 months ago.
I've fully embraced the idea that I can't change her. And now that I'm ready to leave she does a complete 180, but it's also very short term. If she adds value to my life like she has started to over the last week I don't need to move on. There are many reasons for this - she may legit care, losing out on her lifestyle, and a lot of external validation from her friends who know about our situation.
Of course my work isn't done and I don't view MRP as a short-term fix.
I wasn't trying to use an attorney/divorce to change her. It has changed her, at least in the short term, but who knows if it will last. That's out of my control.
What have others learned going through a similar experience?