I've started to recognize shit tests which had kept me from proceeding through the stages of dread as confidently as I should and had hindered my ability to swallow the Red Pill. My wife is simply far too polite and far too much of a ninja to use the language that is commonly found here.
I notice any complaint from my wife that begins with "I feel ..." always precedes a shit test. It is a overt verbal cue that she is about to explain to me one of her needs, and that I am not meeting it (or it is not being met otherwise and she would like me to meet it).
I have been successfully able to turn around these tests by asking her to explain why she FEELS this way and listen to her explanation and getting a much deeper and more fundamental understanding of the complaint. This is useful because it allows you to:
- brace for impact. Decide weather to STFU or move to a more advances response.
- touches her FEELS by allowing her to voice her complaints. This is nothing less than emotional masturbation.
- potentially solve a critical thinking problem for her. This is extremely attractive to a woman.
Another use for this is to turn it on yourself. If you are ever explaining anything and you use the word "feels" you know you found something that keys into your resistance to stoicism and a true IDGAF attitude. Use it to search yourself for potential character flaws or other areas for personal growth.
Obviously you can use it on other people besides your wife or yourself.
*edited for formatting