Been following this sub for more than 6 months.
Physically turned myself around a 180.
Wife and I have had a bad relationship, always hanging on a thread.
But I realized that was because I was seeking validation from her. If I ask her for it, it means she is dating down. Highly unattractive pussy desert storm.
As I started improving myself on this journey, the validation I was seeking from wife was replaced by validation I (naturally) received from other women, friends, family, at work, with gym buddies, hobby-mates and last but not the least, the validation I receive on my social media accounts.
Whenever I feel validated by the world, I feel like a king, but a king without an ego, an abundant giver, a patriarch. I feel good. And this reflects in my relationship with wife. She is happier, at peace and there is more intimacy. The problem is I can't keep at this mindset all the time because I definitely don't get validated all the time. I need validation from someplace more dependable to feel like this.
Internal validation/ Self validation should be the answer to this.
My question to you is how do some of you generate internal validation?
If I could get internal validation that would solve my problem. I want to be in this strong abundance mindset all the time, that's what I want. And that's what my MAP needs right now.
Some of the ways I am internally validating myself are:
- Lift. Breaking through plateus, and making PRs.
- Eat healthy food. Being disciplined is a huge internal validator.
- Tight finances. Creating my portfolio and diversifying my funds. The sense of relief from financial misery is a huge internal validator. Fuck you money is already being stashed.
But I need more, more ways for internal validation. More actions.
I am so close to getting it, I feel, and any help from you guys would be great.