I've had a variety of shit tests come my way, and one type that I'm sure I'm not handling correctly involves her telling me how I her make her "feel." Guilty, bad, sad, angry, etc.
I've been much more productive since being introduced to RP (up at 5:30 am, lifting 6x per week, keeping house spotless without saying a word, putting phone away at home, working outside the house on a schedule instead of at home), and I'm definitely not looking for praise from her, but these accusations are throwing me off each time they are lobbed at me while being productive.
I finished NMMNG and am halfway through WISNIFG. I've been doing some fogging with these accusations "I can see how you might feel that way" and as I write this, I think I could do some more negative inquiry "I have been talking less and listening more. What is about this that makes you feel bad?"
I wonder if there is a way to handle these tests that prompt her to consider how she's the master of her feelings. I recognize RP is not about "she" it's about "I" and just interested to get your take on how to handle this.
Most of these interactions end up with me getting called a jerk at the end (not always a bad thing, I know) -- I'd like to know how to occasionally get a smile out of her instead and help her laugh about it or at the very least recognize the immaturity in blaming bad feelings on another person.