Main event coming up; confronting lying

druganswer · 2016-12-01T23:11:35+00:00

this doesn't sound like a main event at all. it sounds like you are in a marriage that is almost done with.

you don't even know she is lying, so i don't know what to tell you there. if you know she is lying so that you aren't on her insurance I would divorce her. isn't that the direction she is heading? what value does she bring to this "relationship"?

do you have your divorce stuff all prepped with your own lawyer? this should have been done, like yesterday.

gym, lawyer, bust your ass at work. be prepared to be on your own.

deadsandsushi · 2016-12-02T02:31:51+00:00

She told you more than once that she wants a divorce, and purposely didn't put you on her health plan. She'd rather go on Obummercare than be your dependent on your plan.

She's checked out. What makes you think your show of "disappointment" means shit to her?

Your SMV might be higher on the market but she doesn't care. Give her the divorce. If you're as in shape as you claim, you can spin plates.

Nymdox · 2016-12-01T23:10:34+00:00

FWIW, the enrollment deadline for most US companies really was the 30th, but man that is the least of the issues here.

Her house, her daughter, her insurance... what part of your life is yours?

BobbyPeru · 2016-12-01T23:28:25+00:00

She's running your shit like a three ring circus. You need to get some frame and some balls. So she lets you back in the house and you make a move and she rejects you, and now she's been sleeping in another room. Dude, the writing is on the wall. Read it.

UEMcGill · 2016-12-02T16:56:14+00:00

Why the fuck do you keep talking after she says, "I want a divorce"?

"You got it" should be your only answer.

There's no conspiracy here. She's done! Fuck man.

PurpleVeteran · 2016-12-02T02:24:11+00:00

Had a big falling out last month. I maintained frame. Got good results--sex.

Ugh, how often do we hear this from the newbies? "We fought, I stood up, got sex!" When you're thirsty, just getting a drink is a win!

So congrats, you got your dick wet and took your eyes off the ball.

logger1234 · 2016-12-01T22:59:53+00:00

How old is the daughter?

"Her" Daughter - you married someone and are help raising someone else's kid? Unlike some here, I won't judge, I just want to understand.

How old are you? How old is she? height, weight, SMV, body fat percentage? Do you lift? Read sidebar? How long since you came to the pill?

logger1234 · 2016-12-01T23:03:48+00:00

Ps:

re: Confront lying.

Oh my gosh it so doesn't matter. Maybe she did lie because of some stupid plan - what does it impact you? Ignore it.

The fact that you're overly worried about this worries me. Of course, it is POSSIBLE I don't understand.

FireTempered · 2016-12-02T03:30:32+00:00

But what is the most effective way to register my disappointment with her lying to me about this issue?

Press her to file for divorce. Tell her you aren't getting any younger. Start living like a single man.

I remember your first post. This marriage is DOA.

You are one of the few that I would say - End this sad excuse for a marriage!

Nyquil-Junkie · 2016-12-02T04:51:49+00:00

Sounds like a great deal of bother. Life is short.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-12-02T15:24:13+00:00

What have you done to improve? You are an amorphous blue pill blob.

sunthas · 2016-12-02T16:25:43+00:00

My business got insurance this year, and I compared with hers. Hers was a little better. So I wanted to stay on hers. She is pissed and says I should go on mine. I say put me on yours and we will continue the same way.

off topic, my company (I thought because of obama care) doesn't let me add my wife to my health insurance plan if she has one available through her work, I would have thought it to be the same for everyone.

LewisCross · 2016-12-02T19:32:04+00:00

A wife saying "I want a divorce" is not a main event. It is a wife saying that she is done with the marriage.

In my opinion when a woman outright says she wants a divorce, sleeps separately for three days, won't talk to you for three days, and is making heavy financial demands including changing the previous financial arrangement that had been working fine for the both of you, it's pretty much over.

what u/druganswer said. Lawyer. Now. Get to work. Prepare to split.

bogeyd6 · 2016-12-05T15:04:21+00:00

Oh boy. She is checked out and you are trying to save her. Problem is she does not want to be saved. She wants to leave and she wants you to take the steps to do it? Why? Most likely she will tell everyone you filed for divorce and she is the hapless victim. The past guys and baby daddies weren't her fault either, they all left her. She is just playing out her life script. Wouldn't worry too much on it. Just file divorce and spend some time working on you.

InChargeMan · 2016-12-05T21:29:45+00:00

This sounds like a fucking mess. Why are you pushing to stay married? Clearly one or both of you are incapable of a healthy relationship.

screechhater · 2016-12-02T00:57:46+00:00

1- captain save a ho - you is not

2- 50/50 on the bills. Or a joint account. If there is no trust in the money - I'm sorry, you are fucked. Get the fuck out and find some peace and joy

3- threatening to file is of low value She is displaying this

4- if she is of no value added to you ...... then what the fuck are you doing ?

Main event. A clear break in time of shift in control of the relationship. You may actually be headed into one and all this testing before she decides she will relent and follow.

Step aside and be cautious not to fall into her frame and remain vigilant in your growth and direction. The ultimate shit storm may be coming and this could just be the precursor. AKA calm before the storm.

5'8" ??? Know one gives a fuck. Height means nothing to me. My nephews are all 5'6" to 5'10 and all three punished the Taliban. My best friend is 5'7".

Keep reading. Glad to hear you are lifting.

Title	Main event coming up; confronting lying
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Date	December 1, 2016 10:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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