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Does she actually enjoy giving BJs?

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March 27, 2016
13 upvotes

This comes off as a stupid question, but I'm honestly not sure how to measure this.

She is awesome lately. Submissive, touching me, swolling me, sex is up. I'm more attractive, so I understand that, but she's also giving me BJs. Even initiating them!!!

She does the fun stuff with it too. I just melt when she looks up at me or gobs all over, something she would never do, even when I'd ask. Hell she even chokes on it with tears and running eye liner, which is a new thing that absolutely blows my mind...

Honest. This is not bragging, honest. She appears to enjoy it but to what extent is it simple "mate retention"?

Thanks for all the angles.


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Title Does she actually enjoy giving BJs?
Author fakefalse
Upvotes 13
Comments 26
Date 27 March 2016 04:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207557
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4c66dt/does_she_actually_enjoy_giving_bjs/
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[–]SepeanRed Beret9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

Well I'm sure she wouldn't do it on her own with a dildo. She likes that you like it. You never did some hard work that was well worth it because it made someone you liked happy?

[–]fakefalse[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I like this answer. I guess a part of me forgot that women are capable of empathy.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You might have forgotten that women like dicks too.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Guys get gushy when their kids eyes light up at christmas over the new thing.

It's not empathy, it's accomplishment. I did this for important thing in my life.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Quit overanalyzing it and enjoy the BJ.
 
Right now you've got the same mentality that people in deadbedrooms have after having "the talk."
 
Is she just fucking me because of the talk, or because she wants to?
 
It's a no-win scenario.
 
Are you having frequent, enthusiastic, mutually enjoyable sexual activity? Yes? Then keep improving yourself and enjoy your happier life and emptier balls.

[–]Trekneck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

But I NEED to know that she FEELS great about doing it!

[–]ClubLowlow5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

This post brings up an interesting point. Remember when you were a sniveling beta and did something you didn't want to do just to try to impress your Oneitis, and it made you feel bad?

I think OP is wondering if the same thing could be happening inside her, and that would be a bad thing.

Maybe it only feels bad for the beta because he is a man and therefore shouldn't be engaging in that kind of activity. Maybe women actually enjoy it, due to their more caretaking/nurturing nature?

[–]fakefalse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh man. This is perfect juxtaposition.

[–]cj_aubreyRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You remember when you were 16 and you looked at the hottest girl in high school and you were like "I'd totally lick her until she screamed, even if we didn't do anything else, it would still be awesome cause she's so hot." That's cause that hot girl had a much higher SMV than you. MRP should help you to be the man your wife feels the same way about, and when that's the case, performing sexual acts just to please you will then be natural and enjoyable for your wife.

[–]6TimesDown7TimesUp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not being snarky but who cares?

Watch what they do, not what they say. If you're getting the behaviors you want then you're probably doing the right things on some level.

Chad wouldn't be worried about whether on not she wanted to give him a blowie or was just doing it because feelz or whatever. He'd just be enjoying it.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

You know what fakefalse? I've been following your posts since you put up the one about your 16 year old daughter saying something mean about you when you took away her phone.

Now your wife is, literally, gagging for it and you're still not satisfied.

You should consider getting a pencil and a piece of paper to take some notes on while you re-read everything you've posted. Your way forward will be immediately clear.

Good luck dude, you need it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nice research!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol. It's true I have been following them. Message comes through loud and clear.

BTW. I went to an Easter dinner last night and happened to meet some Canadians there. They told me they LOVE your new PM and that it's clear that he's going to be great for the country. The husband cited as evidence that the dollar has gone up .03 cents. The wife cited his great hair. Shit you not. True as I'm sitting here. Lol.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah, I'm skeptical, but hopeful. canada is largely a status-quo country with politics, it's very hard to change things quickly, and a few of his ministers seem to be well thought out choices.

But the complete lack of introspection over:

  • nepotism (he's kennedy Jr)
  • taking american concepts, slapping a canada logo on them and enjoying our substandard product (obama: canadian edition)
  • His wife needing to keep her crazy mouth shut
  • cult of personality... (this wouldn't work if his last name was Anderson, or if his smile wasn't rainbows, his brother is a good example of that.)

I hope whomever is prepping the dullard (most who know him say he isn't the brightest one) is good at what they do. His budget proposal was pretty brutal. the CAF especially got fucked, a military funding cut disguised as a 'delay' didn't go over too well. So glad I got out. At least with harper, he ran his ship with an iron fist, and you knew he was the brains behind the operation.

I hated Harper with a passion, and Trudeau isn't exactly filling me with pride either.

Though I liked your last line, it really has an RP truth to it.

Man - dollar went up 3c. (silly, but at least grounded in benefit)
Woman - I like his hair

My spouse last election just told me to tell her who to vote for, she doesn't know any difference. Sufferage indeed. Extra voting power for those who can retain a mate lol.

[–]SOAADDICT2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your real question here is does this woman just like a dick in her mouth, or have I inspired her to like my dick in her mouth?

You didn't ask the question you really wanted to because you probably recognize that it's a stupid, insecure question. It sounds like she enjoys BJs a lot more than you do, because she's focused on slobbering on lil falsefake while you're lamenting over how she might hypothetically treat imaginary other dicks.

[–]the_Zambony1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My chick sheepishly explained (unsolicited) it this way,

"It is something I know you like and it's fun."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is like the free will conversation.

You have no choice in what you do, so just assume free will and keep going. If there is no free will, nothing will matter anyways

Whether it causes a psychological, or physical pleasure doesn't matter.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The thing to ponder : do you like receiving them?

And if one must rationalize (why lord, why): There are a billion and a half things we do back and forth for our spouses that are for their benefit only. So even if she doesn't there's some equivalent or combined equivalent gestures you do that come out in the wash.

Once you stop thinking about these things as occurring in an isolated vacuum: the easier it is to jettison a lot of the ingrained queasiness you may encounter if you think too much with your big brain while receiving an act only your little brain has reason to be invested in.

If you like them and she likes giving them : great.

If you like them and she doesn't care: great.

If you like them and she doesn't like giving them...well I'm sure it balances out with going to see that Romcom + hanging out with her parents + adding a trip to Bed Bath and Beyond when you really just needed to go to Lowes.

Mate retention comes with wanting to be a mate.

And for fuck's sake, if you give her oral, then this shouldn't EVEN be a question unless somehow you've let a blue haired sjw convince you somehow one act is different than the other. No.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I am a woman who likes making my guy happy like this. But then, he's never accused me of not being capable of empathy. That's just ridiculous.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Women have empathy- just not for a man's pain. For that they turn off completely. However, you are right. Women have lot's of empathy for men when the are in mate retention mode and fear losing their meal ticket. OP wants to know if it is real passion and my answer is: What's the difference?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have your opinion; I have mine. I've supported my husband through his job loss, his depression, and we have a special needs child (which leads to discussions about our feelings and worries about him.). I have no reason to "fear losing my meal ticket" since he's a man and keeps his commitments. I very much do have real passion for him. The difference is that I feel great during and after. He loves that I honestly enjoy myself during.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Who cares if she "enjoys" it. Grab her by the ears and throat fuck her. Do you really "enjoy" swabbing a sweaty gash with your tongue? Not really, but the way it makes her moan makes it worth it.

You can be sure of one thing: SHE is not thinking about whether you enjoy eating pussy while moaning. She is just feeling.

[–]Trekneck1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're getting enthusiastic blowjobs... why in the world are you hamstering about it?

[–]TheRedStoic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Couldn't care less.

If it's enthusiastic and often, you're doing it right and she's trusting you as a captain.

That alone says she's happy overall, regardless of the mechanical minutia.

For example, do you have to enjoy doing your oil change and alignment to enjoy your ride?

No.

But you enjoy your fucking ride. (also, I still use spontaneous enthusiastic blowjobs as a measurement for how much she's into me) hasnt failed me yet!



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