What does MRP think about porn use?

mrpCamper · 2015-10-09T12:35:25+00:00

It's one of those things where it's not a problem until it is a problem. Most likely, if you're wondering if it's a problem you've crossed that threshold. For me, I don't really use porn and limit masturbation. I know that if I release myself I will have a prolonged time before I feel like initiating. And that is a problem for me. For everyone else that threshold is different.

irateMD · 2015-10-09T13:23:13+00:00

Video games, porn, and other time wasters distract you and take time away from your self improvement journey. One week with regular use of porn means you missed a PR in the gym that could strengthen your body, a non-fiction book that could strengthen your mind, or a personal/social/work experience that could strengthen your SMV.

If you can't get yourself off without porn then you've either gotten lazy or you weren't as horny as you thought you were. If you're jerking off because she rejected you then you're in her frame.

The illimitable man has written about this quite a bit. Don't retreat into fantasy.

jerry_rigger · 2015-10-09T15:31:07+00:00

Moderation, motherfucker, can you handle it?

Seriously though, I used to watch way too much porn and jerk off compulsively.

Ever get chapped-dick?

Friction burn on your foreskin?

Anyways I went cold turkey and blocked porn on electronic devices.

If you can't break the compulsion, replace the compulsion.

Do something productive when you get the urge to jerk the gherkin.

It took about 6 months to break the addiction.

But now I'm at a point where my wife and I can browse BDSM pics together looking for ideas and it has no negative effects like it did pre-RP.

marxistbacon · 2015-10-09T14:07:34+00:00

I used to consume a lot, but it was all coming from wrong places in my head - pedestalization (wrong belief), fantasy (these women were hotter than anything I could get in real life), the secret shame (shouldn't be watching this), and insecurity (belief that the only way to get great sex would be with a pro/stripper/actress, imagining the control and power vicariously). And of course, the fact that since I wasn't getting any, I needed the release. After findin TRP and changing a LOT of the ways I view myself and women, and getting a satisfying real life sex life, a lot of those reasons just plain disappeared. The pedestalization is gone. The idea that I can't ask for what I really want is gone. The shame is gone. I still find myself flipping through once in a while (maybe total of ten minutes over a month). I mean, I still like a good looking chick, of course! But seriously haven't felt the need to jerk it in close to two years. I never in a million years would have seen myself going from a twice-a-day habit and as much as I can watch for decades, to an actually fulfilled guy, but it happened.

Redneck001 · 2015-10-09T15:23:07+00:00

It's my dick and I'll wash it as fast as I want.

It's a habit, dude. Decide if YOU want to break the habit.

Trekneck · 2015-10-09T16:45:53+00:00

It's not a problem unless it becomes a problem. If you want to watch porn, watch porn. If you want to jack off, jack off. There are only two real reasons not to watch porn: 1, it becomes a replacement for your wife and you either turn her down for sex or become disinterested in it and 2, you are doing it compulsively, as in all the time, for no real reason.

In my case, I could watch porn while my wife is in the shower, then take her to bed and go to town (although it does mean it's gonna take twice as long to cum again). If that situation were to reverse and I was jacking off instead of trying to fuck my wife, then it would be a major problem.

ThatOtherMarriedGuy · 2015-10-09T18:12:09+00:00

My goal is to limit porn/fapping to once per week. That's a recommendation in NMMNG or MMSL, I forget which. I think it's a good compromise between beating it every night when I don't get some and wanting to murder everyone because I haven't cum in 2 months.

itstartstoday123 · 2015-10-10T04:16:38+00:00

Ask any yourself this. Why do I run to porn when my wife rejects me?

Why do people pull a cigarette out when someone makes them Angry or they get stressed out?

Why do children run to mom or dad when scared?

These(and many more) are all signs that people lack the emotional development or control over there own mind to confront these things. It's less about the problem and more about the lack of development in your personality. You can't overcome allot of these things until you either remove the trigger or develop better ways to deal with it. When you cease to see it as a problem the coping mechanism goes away because it's no longer needed. Outcome independance.

"When I became a man I put childish things behind me."

It's your safety blanket.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-10-10T13:27:17+00:00

When I have shit to do, and just need it out of my system. If I get a hard no sometimes and need to get it out of my system (usually before bed, not playing dread right now, I want sleep)

but usually if I'm getting it every 3 days or more, I just don't want to. It's a problem if you're ignoring her for it, but thats the same with everything. Have you turned down sex to go rub one out?

dandar4600 · 2015-10-09T12:50:02+00:00

MMSLP suggests to stop using porn and if you must get off just get off without porn. Once you have regular sex life it's easy to ditch fapping alltogether.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-10-09T13:02:47+00:00

Watch it with your wife.

NevrEndr · 2015-10-09T13:33:03+00:00

The problem I have is that with my high libido if I don't jerk off on a night where sex is off the table I will last like 5 minutes before popping off the next night. I don't like that so my remedy is to spank it whenever I'm faced with a hard no or I'm too exhausted to initiate. It happens. If I don't ejaculate for even one day I get ridiculously horny. Two days and I'm gaming all the cute girls in the office. That's not a bad thing of course, but I can't for the life of me last during sex in this state.

It's a double edged sword because I don't feel good about watching porn but I want to be able to enjoy doggy style with my hot wife and fuck her hard in different positions until she's completely spent. Not get an intense 2 minute blow job and have to stop her so I don't pop and then use all my concentration to not cum within the first 5 minutes of sex.

throwaway783487387 · 2015-10-09T19:11:21+00:00

After long period of lifting I realized I no longer like video games. OK, they need to go, cool.

How about porn?

I saw a porn flick few weeks ago.

The girl? I didn't see a girl. I saw a female human being fighting for survival by selling her body in exchange for food and shelter, that's what I saw. She was UGLY.

The dude, on the other hand, was pretty well built, low body fat and such, guy must have exercised. BTW, no homo.

Stuff that they did had NO relation to the real world, choosing sexual positions for the sake of camera close-up would never work.

Why would I watch something like this? What for?

Masturbation, on the other hand... sometimes, I masturbate. One day I woke up, saw my boner, started touching myself, but thought "no way, let's see how I act without release". That day I cold-approached a girl in broad daylight for the first time in my life AND got a n-close. Any comments?

If you did what you did before, you will get the same results you got before.

If you change something, you're in for a surprise.

You choose.

Title	What does MRP think about porn use?
Author	mrpnoob9718
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Comments	29
Date	October 9, 2015 12:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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