LTR has low sex drive. Ending it. Would like to hear from men who have experience with this.

blowmelongblowmehard · 2015-09-29T01:23:55+00:00

She was devastated but changed nothing.

What did you change? Why would she change, she's perfectly happy.

She doesn't offer blowjobs. She doesn't offer handjobs. I don't ask her or tell her to give them. Asking/telling is beneath me.

But

I have always been the Captain.

No, you've never been the Captain, the Captain gives orders, the Captain doesn't blame the crew for his mistakes, the Captain doesn't take shit from anyone.

I'm trying to get the point across that she needs to come up with some plan in the future or she risks only being kept by a man who will cheat on her.

You're mistaken. She's destined to find a man that fucks her like a caveman. You, on the other hand, are destined to find a woman who will pretend to like sex as much as you do until she gets a ring on her finger. Shortly thereafter, the sex will stop, the bitching will start, and half of your stuff will belong to her, while she finds Chad Thundercock who will fuck her like she wishes you had, probably in your house and your bed.

Read the MRP sidebar, lift, stop being such a pussy.

thisisme0007 · 2015-09-29T01:07:40+00:00

How many times per week do you lift?

itstartstoday123 · 2015-09-29T01:34:05+00:00

Experienced RP man here.

Well see.

I want mature male opinions that factor mature male goals into the situation.

Snowflake

My LTR has a low sex drive.

Only with you

We have a very healthy red-pill dynamic.

Minus the sex of course

I have always been the Captain.

Not Good enough to get what you want evidently.

She idolizes me.

Not enough apparently.

About four months ago there was a decline in sex. We never really had much sex, even from the start. From month six to month eight we had sex once a month. After ignoring the issue for those two months I told her that long-term, the sexual situation would not work for me. She was devastated but changed nothing. We carried on for two more months in the same manner.

Good. Your following through. At least you got that. Acta non verba

We're breaking up because of it. I'm already starting to resent her, but I've done my damndest to be stoic about it. I've done a pretty good job of masking my frustration.

Stoic about failure. Good for you.

What really gets me, however, is that she doesn't seem to register the fact that nearly all men need more than this.

It's your job to make it register. You have to be a man that she wants to fuck. You're not.

She doesn't offer blowjobs. She doesn't offer handjobs. I don't ask her or tell her to give them. Asking/telling is beneath me.

It's beneath you to tell her your needs?

I'm trying to get the point across that she needs to come up with some plan in the future or she risks only being kept by a man who will cheat on her. The other option is to find a man who also has a very low sex drive, but she seems to think that she is within the range of normal. She seems to think she can find a man who will be happy with this without making it a real point to find a man who will be happy with this.

Sounds like she is more interested in a low sex drive man than you.

You are using logic. She is acting(or not) on her feelings. Unfortunately that means she doesn't have the feeling to meet your need for sex.

What are your thoughts on the percentage of men who, in their mid to late twenties, consider sex once a month adequate? How much sex have you men needed as a minimum at this age?

It doesn't matter what I need. Or even /u/bluepillprofessor. What do you need? My needs have no bearing in relation to yours. SeX is a need. If she is not giving you sex, then she is not meeting your need. And frankly doesn't seem interested in doing so.

Wrap up: your experienced RP ways need polishing in relation to sex.

Plus: lift? Side bar material? What level of dread do you constantly maintain?

FearDearg2015 · 2015-09-29T06:02:35+00:00

You don't sound very RP to me. You sound like a guy who learned PUA, got a girl, managed to kill the bedroom in ten months, and somehow still has oneitis about her.

Dude. You have not swallowed the pill. They say married red pill is red pill on hard mode. Since you are not married, you should absolutely next her, or at best, make her a plate. You are not constrained by the reality of Marriage 2.0. You are not gonna get divorce raped. You are young, the relationship is young.

mrpCamper · 2015-09-29T02:04:17+00:00

A lot of good advice here. So, I'm just going to answer your question.

What are your thoughts on the percentage of men who, in their mid to late twenties, consider sex once a month adequate?

I'm not sure about the percentage but I would hazard to guess that guys with no game, fat out of shape , etc. would consider this an adequate amount of sex. If you were wondering through the sexual dessert and the oasis of once a month sex came around you would consider yourself saved.

In my opinion, once a month is inadequate. I was getting sex more often than that after 15 years of marriage and came here to correct that and increase how often I have sex. When I was dating my wife in my late 20s it was MUCH higher than that. Every 3 or 4 days probably and I traveled a lot for work then.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-09-29T02:32:02+00:00

So you TALKED to your SO and the sex didn't change and now you think that is all you can do and now is the time to end it?

Think again.

Try doing something different instead of just talking and making vague threats. If you follow the levels of Dread it takes you to a place where you are more desirable to other women and then you can make the decision to call it quits AFTER you have raised your value when you can get a better woman.

Why wouldn't you wait until you are in a place to upgrade before you dump somebody? Might be cold logic but the fact is this: You never quit a job until the next one is lined up.

Trekneck · 2015-09-29T13:44:14+00:00

Life is not only about sex.

Am I the only one who noticed that he prefaced the entire story by saying how unimportant sex is, and then continued on to explain how lack of sex is what ended his relationship?

2015-09-29T16:26:35+00:00

I am very confused here RP man.

" SHE SHE SHE"

in what ways have you led her to have more sex with you? Specify please

2015-09-29T18:57:58+00:00

I hope you're not expecting to be treated any nicer.

You've failed as a leader, and you're failing in your SMV work. You look at her, and detest her, as a reflection of your failures. Instead of owning them, you are cutting and running. Not saying you shouldn't, but you should leave because she's dead weight, not because of the above. I'm sure the next girl will be exactly the same, a puddle on the floor, because you're a shitty container

Experienced RP. What book did they talk about secretly stewing about a GF not fucking you after 4 months? Where is the part where you don't enforce boundries or expectations? You've basically picked up a punching bag, one where you can dump all of your problems onto her, and play the part of the victim. It's weak bitchy bullshit, and I wouldn't be surprised if you loved your ego more than anything.

After reading all your shit here, you're most likely going to shit on me, because you're the fucking man! Too mighty to admit he has wants and needs. Too mighty to actually work out, build SMV and deserve them. Just by having a pair of testicles, the world should bow to you.

Fuck off.

This is the part of the post where you shit on me, then in about an hour, if the mods haven't given you a cooling off period, where you delete your account, and maybe come back in a week, hoping that we don't remember your shit post.

I would, however, feel much better if you internalized what you're hearing from others in here, actually work to unfuck yourself, and then see if she was just a reflection of you, or just a shit woman... I doubt it though

BluepillProfessor · 2015-09-29T02:37:31+00:00

On your question: What is a normal amount of sex in a relationship?

If you ask the Blue Pill media or anybody in the Matrix they will say once a week is perfectly fine unless the woman is upset about it. If the man is upset about it then to bad.

For me normal is every single day. Unfortunately my wife objected claiming it is so much better if we wait a day and I had to agree so, every other day is now normal.

Once a week? Not likely.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-09-29T02:55:28+00:00

Sex once a month is probably normal for most couples...

in their 70's.

I'm in my mid 40's. I have a long distance relationship, which suits me fine because I like focusing on my business and blah blah blah. When I do see my GF, we fuck twice a day. So if I see her for three days, we fuck 6 times. That's 6 months worth of sex for you, and you're the Captain? I'm short and fat.

So, TRP talks the truth about many issues. One half has to do with self improvement: lifting, leading, self-discipline.

But the other half is what-makes-women-tick. A woman will only want to have sex with you if certain conditions are met. If you're not getting lots of sex, then the dread game is often recommended. You talking about ending the relationship, and you actually going out where there's a real threat that you WILL end the relationship is often a powerful motivator for women. I would say that she doesn't really recognize your SMV as being higher than hers.

"She seems to think she can find a man who will be happy with this without making it a real point to find a man who will be happy with this." She's found a man who will put up with this: you. The big issue is that she thinks that if you leave, there will be another guy as good as you who will come along and take your place, but she won't have to have sex with him. She believes this because she doesn't perceive that your SMV is higher than hers. She doesn't think that the next guy will be a downgrade for her. So you have to show her your SMV. Show her that other hot women would LOVE to go out with you.

You say you are RP, and that you're the Captain, but I don't see it (and she doesn't either). It seems she does whatever the hell she wants, and thinks it's cute that you think you're running the show.

Redneck001 · 2015-09-29T13:03:21+00:00

telling is beneath me

Son, "telling" (well, actually, showing) a woman your needs is the epitome of RP. Your girl ain't a mind reader. How 'bout throwing out a "suck my dick" the next time you're in need of a bj.

Let's see: you adore her, you don't lift, and holding frame just ain't happening. But you're an experienced RP man.

Think about that. In my opinion, you haven't shown this woman a Man worth fucking, much less blowing.

And your next relationship is destined to end up in the exact same place. Unless you improve yourself.

I'm married, 49 yo, and as mature as I'll allow myself to get.

Sepean · 2015-09-30T07:22:41+00:00

What are your thoughts on the percentage of men who, in their mid to late twenties, consider sex once a month adequate? How much sex have you men needed as a minimum at this age?

0%.

What experiences have you had with relationships where the chemistry is there but the sex is not?

Huh? If there is no sex there is no chemistry. Stop kidding yourself.

I really care a lot for this girl, but I feel like my hand is forced. At this point, I'm just looking for some clarity on what is and is not "normal".

Who gives a fuck about what is normal? I want what I want and I'm going to get it. I'm at 10% body fat, I can do 5 chinups with 90lbs strapped to my waist, and my frame is solid; I'm not going to settle for normal.

She doesn't offer blowjobs. She doesn't offer handjobs. I don't ask her or tell her to give them. Asking/telling is beneath me. I'm trying to get the point across that she needs to come up with some plan in the future or she risks only being kept by a man who will cheat on her. The other option is to find a man who also has a very low sex drive, but she seems to think that she is within the range of normal.

She is entirely normal. She doesn't have a low sex drive. You're just unattractive.

Lead your girl and take what you want. That's attractive. "On your knees. Open your mouth. Look me in the eyes." That's the frame of a dominant man.

What you're doing is trying to negotiate desire. You're trying to make it into a job where she does something she doesn't want to do in order to keep you around. What you need to do instead is turn her on with an impressive physique and a dominant frame that is on clear display in your every interaction with her.

nantucketghost · 2015-09-30T14:01:23+00:00

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Title	LTR has low sex drive. Ending it. Would like to hear from men who have experience with this.
Author	RobertCarraway
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Date	September 29, 2015 12:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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