On point. Let's stop romanticizing toxicity, thinking that it's passion. (PS: They can be toxic AND suck in the sac. Ask my ex!)

eveninghope · 2020-09-10T19:53:57+00:00

The toxic guy's I've fucked have been super selfish and want the weirdest shit. I think this is only considered "good in bed" bc we live in a pornsick society.

ExEpheris · 2020-09-10T20:29:54+00:00

No. No one says broken MEN give great sex. Let’s be honest about what this statement is used to mean in real life. They’re saying that broken, abused and damaged WOMEN give the best sex. The reason they say this is such women are willing to degrade themselves in any way a man can demand out of desperation to have someone love her and notice her. They will fuck like demons just to feel something other than pain, and it’s the ultimate proof that men don’t care about our suffering, because they honestly don’t want us healthy enough to be able to say no.

“Daddy issues” and “fuck a fat/ugly chick, they’ll be so grateful they’ll let you do anything” are extensions of this

iamaninsect · 2020-09-10T21:22:43+00:00

One of the most toxic men I’ve ever met, was also absolutely awful in bed. No shocker. The type who hypes it up, seems like it’s gonna go pretty well, but he’s just done and out in under 2 minutes. Doesn’t do a damn thing for you before or after. And moves from girl to girl. Couldn’t stay in a relationship if his life depended on it... serial cheater. It was easy for me to steer clear of that but I mean, you’d lose count watching all these girls get their hearts broken. And some of them he would keep on a long string. When they’d finally leave and be with someone else, the vitriol that came out of his mouth was horrendous. Girls would stay with him for years on and off, only coming over at night. No ones gonna stay with someone like that, especially not when they’re terrible and not attentive whatsoever intimately. I would try to talk to some of them after to tell them who he really is and try to help them feel better. Some would come to me because they knew we used to be close. You know it’s bad when girls are coming to you asking wtf is his deal.

NoisyBubbles · 2020-09-10T20:02:20+00:00

Yup!! Why did I used to like being slapped and choked? Because it was the only time my fwb would show any sort of passion or intimacy towards me. Any other given moment I might as well have been replaced by a fleshlight.

suspended_animation_ · 2020-09-10T23:21:45+00:00

Not true for me. It made "sex" worse. Probably because the majority of it wasn't consensual.

lanaisg0d · 2020-09-11T02:15:30+00:00

This hit me really hard...

2020-09-11T08:41:15+00:00

*mic drops*

I'm speechless because it makes sense? and yet no one has ever thought about it. I am only 22 but I actually grew tired of men who are just full of drama. It's not exciting or romantic it's highly irritating and harmful. Most toxic people tend to be verbally abusive and selfish. I realize I rather die alone than to ever sacrifice my happiness again I'm a compromiser I compromise MOST of my life and I refuse to do it anymore.

I'm sick of having to compromise to make others happy yet no one can do the same for me. New me is done with this shit, new me wants a kind generous man who has personality without being a dipshit. There big difference with being an asshole sometimes but still tries to be a good person VS. just an asshole.

galian84 · 2020-09-11T18:44:29+00:00

Damnnnn...this triggered me. My friends and family used to always ask me why I was still with my last ex, even though he prioritized everything else over me, was broke and an avoidant. I used to be like "I'm not happy with him but the sex is so good!" Just cause he was well-endowed. But he thought that was the only bedroom and personality "skill" he needed.

Hindsight is 20/20, but I can count on one hand the number of times he's gone down on me (pretty much the only way I can climax) in a year. I saw him 2-3x/week and he always wanted rough jackhammer sex. And always asked for anal, bondage, etc. I always said no. Now that I'm with a guy who actually cares about me and my pleasure...makes me wonder wtf was wrong with me back then.

Title	On point. Let's stop romanticizing toxicity, thinking that it's passion. (PS: They can be toxic AND suck in the sac. Ask my ex!)
Author	feast_or_famine1
Upvotes	1249
Comments	21
Date	September 10, 2020 7:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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