Heartbreaking tale from Relationships. Just a reminder, some women will turn on you in a heartbeat the second you cease to be useful.

rkg-pua · 2013-08-14T23:45:26+00:00

Obligatory Briffaults Law Link: http://www.stickmanweekly.com/ReadersSubmissions2009/reader5546.htm

fuk_offe · 2013-08-15T03:39:10+00:00

I got tired of commenting these kind of situations really. After a while, you notice that it's pretty much the "norm", shout-out to Briffaults Law. It's so incredibly sad, I felt so bad for that guy. Sigh.

"Honor is a male abstraction."

I don't know the author of this quote (either a RedPiller or a manosphere author), but it stuck with me to this day.

2013-08-15T01:17:39+00:00

The only thing worse than reading that would be some of the comments people are providing.

garblegarble12 · 2013-08-15T02:04:00+00:00

I saw this and was about to post myself. Absolutely heartbreaking. Of the genders were reversed the outrage would be immeasurable.

I really hope he has a opportune family and that I err ind myself in a similar position.

2013-08-15T03:26:49+00:00

What a piece of shit this woman is but hey...

Forget it. I'm not even gonna try to justify that.

SuperNinKenDo · 2013-08-15T04:01:32+00:00

That was depressing and rage inducing in itself.

Some of the comments though. My God, some of those comment induced such a fire in my mind...

dropit_sphere · 2013-08-15T04:13:04+00:00

The comments make me want to claw my eyes out.

The best they can do is to tell him he needs some babying. That is the closest the hivemind can get to "This woman has no idea what marriage means."

"Richer or poorer, in sickness and health..."

redpilldude · 2013-08-15T02:39:23+00:00

This was the most thoughtful comment in that thread:

Basically her MIL is dripping poison in her ear, and she is probably going to divorce you.

His wife just sees him as a man who should be financially providing for her. As soon as he was diagnosed with cancer, the wife realized that he might not be able to continue financially providing for her, and the wife became extremely worried. I would be very surprised if they are still married after 6 months.

Moral of the story: do not marry an American woman.

ss_camaro · 2013-08-15T05:29:04+00:00

In case deleted:

I (32M), diagnosed with aggressive testicular cancer. Wife (31F) says she won't live in the same place as me during chemo

My wife and I have a 2 year old. We've been together for over four years. Everything was great until she got pregnant. Afterwards she suffered from post natal depression. We have been in counseling. Things had improved immeasurably, there was still more ground to cover though. Her mother lived on the same property in a self contained flat. She had been a very dominating and controlling influence in her life. I did not understand its extent until after I invited her to live with us. She had been ignoring both us and our child for months and also stopped paying rent. She would run away from me when I tried to talk to her. It became impossible. I was shocked and very sad at this.

I was diagnosed with a testicular tumour that may be cancerous (it was) right as the conflict with my wife's mother peaked. The day I needed my testicle removed, her mother said something terrible to her, so bad that she still hasn't told me. I stayed as strong as I could that day but late that evening she began to cry about her mother. It was past our child's bedtime and I didn't have the ability to support her, I was in too much pain. She got more upset and began to shout that I was kicking her out. I told her I just needed rest. The nurses came in after she left and comforted me. That night I texted her mother, as she doesn't answer my calls. I told her she had to leave.

She moved out and locked the doors and took the keys. It took a while to get in, but when we did we saw she had left all of my wife's childhood mementos that her mother had collected over the years. She wrote a very bitter letter to my wife. She didn't let me read it. I helped my wife as much as I could during this time. I held her, I listened to her, I gave her all the love I could. My mind was on cancer admittedly, but I know I was there for her.

Since then, although she agreed that she had to go, my wife had been struggling. She didn't ever want to talk to me about it, what was said. Since then, my cancer has been discovered to have spread to my lymph nodes. I am to start a 4 round course of chemo, starting with a 6 night stay.

Since my testicle was removed, I have become more tired, I can't think properly. Sometimes I get upset. When my wife gets upset or shouts at me, I get angry. I know my hormones are unbalanced and my wife knows this too. The stress of all of this is hard on us, but she occasionally takes things out on me. I get upset, then I get angry.

When I get angry, I try and move away from her I tell her I need space, I need to be alone. At these times she will follow me through the house, sometimes shouting. She will carry our child. He watches us fight.I beg her to stop, to go away. She will stand and shout or bang on the door I'm on the other side of. It's too much for me to bear.

Recently, we fought again. This time, our child was asleep. She told me she couldn't let our child witness my anger, my rage. She thought I would be better off moving closer to the hospital and hire a carer. When I was finished chemo, in three months, and had time to heal, we could be together again. She would bring our child to visit.

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I need my family, I love my wife, I love my child.I know it's hard on her to have her mother move out, but I never imagined that she would not be by my side during chemo.

I was so upset. I started shouting, so did she. I broke down on the floor, she stood and watched. She said I would never beat cancer like this. I was horrified. She had become so cold. I tried to hold her hand, I told her my body is dying. I can feel the tumour in my lower back, I can feel it grow. I need you, I need my family. I can't do this without you.

She pulled her hand away and I carried on pleading. She yelled that I was hurting her. I didn't know what she meant and realised she was really pulling on her hand and I was clutching desperately onto it. She said I was being violent and it was proof she can't let our child around me. I ran into a room and slammed the door, she swung it open and carried on shouting. I pushed her out and slammed the door shut. I could hear her rant about domestic abuse and I completely broke down.

I can't do this without her. I am fighting choriocarcinoma which doesn't have the usual stellar 5 year survival rate expected from testicular cancer. I know my anger is caused by hormones and triggered by shouting. There's so much stress in my life and it's really peaking. I have support from my friends but without my wife and child in the same home as me, I think I'm lost.

I do not want to leave her, I don't want her to leave me. I want to keep my family together. How do I convince her to stay with me and see this through with me?

tl;dr: Wife and I have been together four years, have one 2 year old. MIL lives with us. My wife is very dependent on her. She treats my family like crap, then stops paying rent, gets evicted by me. Wife accepts this, but finds it hard. I then get diagnosed with aggressive testicular cancer, need one ball removed and then four rounds of intense chemo. My hormones are imbalanced, I become less patient and more prone to anger, but only when anger is directed to me. Wife wants me to move out for my entire course of chemotherapy, three months. I can't do this without her support. I need to know how I can convince her to stay.

"MILs" should not exist, because "marriage" should not "legally" exist. FB mothers are usually possessive, alpha-maRe psychos that negatively influence everyone around them: Toxic, utterly useless instigators and shit-stirrers. Learn from this man's mistake. Never let them into your world. AWALT.

Lungri · 2013-08-15T01:41:21+00:00

The overwhelming majority of women in today's West have no concept of honor or loyalty—life is just one giant hamster wheel for them.

pro_skub · 2013-08-15T01:06:29+00:00

Reminds me of my crazy, cold-hearted ex. Luckily I opened my eyes soon enough.

Offensive_Brute · 2013-08-15T11:26:09+00:00

Does anyone else think that this is not going to end well for the OP? As in she's probably going to divorce him, take all his money and he won't have much left to continue treatment. Or perhaps he will have enough and complete his last rounds of chemo but end up being broke in the end. Even better, she uses his anger as an excuse to get him arrested.

jakethesnake76 · 2013-08-15T15:41:21+00:00

Wow, that guy must be so lucky, I wish I were him at the moment :) maybe one day I'll date someone too and my life will change :)

This loner was the top commenter , as long as there are sheep to shear out there, women can live this crazy life and then CHANGE when they hit the wall (until she drives him nuts) and he winds up on TRP.

thewrightstuff88 · 2013-08-15T01:00:51+00:00

Not to mention having one testicle removed, physically, literally taking away the source of hormones (such as testosterone), that can influence the (masculine, alpha like) decisions you make. Even with supplements, I can't imagine it having the exact same effect as natural test production

fragglemook · 2013-08-15T08:55:03+00:00

That situation does not warrant red pill analysis. That is a couple facing death. The child may have a genetic disposition to cancer too. The wife probably knows the odds of his survival and now she knows she's going to have a hard time bringing up her child on her own.

Women after all do look to the man for survival value.

2013-08-15T12:32:54+00:00

The real question we should be asking is: why, after getting his cancer diagnosis, didn't he go cook crystal meth?

Very tragic story, though. I wish him the best.

slippery_people · 2013-08-15T06:31:10+00:00

Just sickening. Marriage isn't welfare for women, the benefits/burdens flow both ways.

Title	Heartbreaking tale from Relationships. Just a reminder, some women will turn on you in a heartbeat the second you cease to be useful.
Author	Clauderoughly
Upvotes	61
Comments	141
Date	August 14, 2013 11:27 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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