What do you speak about with your plates?

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May 2, 2019

What do you and your plates chat about when you're hanging out and not fucking?

I feel like I talk so much shit, boring and cringey topics when I'm with some girls and they don't like it but just tolerate. Normally with the ones who I fuck well and feel comfortable with I feel okay speaking my mind yet I get the impression I'm boring them or they don't care.

[Eg. We were talking about movies cos she brought up she saw that Avenger's Movie recently and I told my plate how I showed Pan's Labyrinth to my little sister to traumatize her a little bit as an intro to "deeper" movies as it has a taste of everything good in psychological horrors but wrapped up in a fairtytale plot. I also mentioned how I liked the pacing and the casting of the characters and that film pacing is very good and I went on to give examples of badly paced films and films were the narrative was well timed.]

I get passionate about mildly-complex topics like this and start talking about them at length obliviously but then I saw her eyes glaze over like "wtf is he talking about" and realized I needed to stop. This has happened other times with other girls, even if I have a lot in common with them, I feel the need to carry the conversation but I'm into nerdy/"lame" stuff in their eyes so idk.

Sometimes we talk about relationships and stuff but I've learnt from Tomassi not to give away too much information and to keep it all a bit mysterious on that end. Besides this idk what the hell other people discuss.

I don't want to bore my plates to death. I know I fuck them well cos they orgasm a lot and they're eager for sex, and I do tease and play with them like kids often, but during these gaps idk what the fuck we're supposed to discuss without scaring her away. I like deep topics and even the smartest girls get bored after 10 minutes of discussing these.

But I also don't know what to do if I'm not saying anything, we can't just sit in silence can we? What do "normies" talk about with each other all day, and what should I keep the topics of conversation with?

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Title What do you speak about with your plates?
Author BorosPauper
Upvotes 88
Comments 41
Date 02 May 2019 10:28 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/236895
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bjtcpr/what_do_you_speak_about_with_your_plates/
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[–]Vouch33r102 points103 points  (6 children) | Copy

As Vandaleen said. Let them do 85% of the talking. Check out How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, a good and timeless book. If you want to talk about topics like you menioned - intraparameters of movies like pacing etc - I think you need to show true enthusiasm doing this.

So to summarize, either : a) Let them talk vastly more than you b) Be passionate about you're talking about

Challenge for you: talk to somebody about cooking pasta and make it the most fucking entertaining monologue ever

[–]Aidsagain11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

They come packaged so hard and stiff but brittle at once.

Then you are left with a soggy limp noodle.

[–]UmiForgetWho7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's really all a metaphor for my sex life, you see.

But got dam does it slide down your throat like a.. well like a wet noodle should.

[–]2319Skew11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Kind of reminds me of this one time when I was doing this tour in Afghanistan. One of my mates, Jim, great guy, young kid, maybe in his 20s, he wasn't paying attention to his surroundings and set off an IED.

This springs the insurgent's trap and we've got hostilities in our 12 and 6. I rush into the M1127 APC. Bullets are whizzing past me. One almost grazes my right ear.

I've got Mike providing me covering fire with his M21A 50 cal. His screams are being muffled by his gun sending a torrent of fire and I'm on the com trying to reach our CO.

Our CO is this grizzled vet from Texas and he gets on the line and is relaying our position for our armored support. It's serious when I hear his calm collected voice tremble with concern.

I hear Mike take a hit and fall down. I bolt to him and start pulling him back. There's dust and dirt going everywhere. He's hit bad. I mean he's already lost a quart.

I try to get him to stay with us and grab a box of Barilla pasta and get him to read it.

"Bring 4 - 6 quarts of water to a rolling boil, add salt to taste."

I can hear the bastard yell to advance.

"Add contents of package to boiling water. Stir gently."

Mike's struggling to stay awake. My clothes are stained red now and I'm covered in mud.

I'm screaming for a sit Rep while taking pot shot and fanatic insurgents with my M007. My first shot goes wide but I manage to clip him with my second but I'm not sure as I can hear the sound of Thunder and death approaching.

"Return to a boil. For authentic "al dente" pasta, boil uncovered, stirring occasionally for 9 minutes."

I eject my clip and grab my last mag. Mike's barely awake now but I can't focus on him as I gun two more hostile down before I await for the inevitable.

" Remove from heat... "

I take out my KA-BAR and bury it so deep into the first enemy combatant that he doesn't even realize that he's punched a one way ticket to meet his God.

The sound is a so loud it sounds like the earth itself is shaking in fury and I close my eyes to wait for the moment where it all ends.

I think about my grandpa and my mom back home. They'll be looked after. I can rest.

When the end comes, it leaves me waiting as I see the beautiful sight of twin armored Leopard 2 in the horizon. Two Canucks firing streams of 7.62 mm MG3A1 rounds.

I cry tears of joy and look down to see that Mike's not moving. I check his pulse and sigh deeply.

"Serve immediately with your favorite Barilla sauce, " I whisper into ear. "You're making pasta with Christ, my friend."

[–]randomTATRP5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

what the actual fuck hahahaha

[–]Vouch33r2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am not from US but if you served in military I deeply respect and admire you. If that is real I hope for you to find the peace you might be longing for. Good luck bro

[–]PythonInterp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go read books and talk about what you read. Ideally encourager your lovers to do the same.

[–]bluefingerblue14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude talking about the pacing of movies is totally fine as long as you seem passionate about it. If Quentin Tarantino was talking to some chick about the pacing of movies, she’d be eating it up.

My guess is you think it’s boring them, so it comes off as boring to them. I’m guessing you have to adjust your mentality. Who gives a fuck if it interests them. If it interests you, go for it and be passionate about it.

Also, you don’t have to carry conversations. Next time you’re with a girl just try to sit in silence and let her carry the conversation. It might get awkward, but let her fill the void instead of feeling like you need to. Then just sit there and listen and play off what she’s saying.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen88 points89 points  (10 children) | Copy

Plates: schedule, meet, fuck, leave within twenty minutes, repeat next week

How much can you talk in 20 minutes?

Other than that, just let them do the talk. They enjoy their voice much more than yours.

[–]yettymonkey13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]GIFtoGasm22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm a big fan of letting them talk and I just act accordingly pretending I'm paying attention. Hit that with the 'oh that's crazy' after every break. I never expose too much about myself. Keep the mystery or the calm very noticeable.

[–]boolDozer7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get good at asking follow-up questions and they will talk forever.

However: you also have to get good at changing the topic (with more questions, usually). A girl will talk forever, but she will also get bored with what she's saying and start thinking that you're boring for listening to it. I like to change the topic abruptly if they've been talking for a few minutes.

[–]RPDBF1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Wow that’s really interesting I never thought of it that way”

[–]Pieisgood1868 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

in 20 minutes

I'm usually out within 10...

[–]BorosPauper 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

I enjoy time with my plates and I don't like to kick them out immediately after. Like we can fuck and lay in bed for a while then cook or watch a show then fuck again then sleep. It's GFE really.

But what conversation do we use to fill in the gaps?

[–]c4toyourdoornobeef12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

that's not a plate then.

[–]-Frank11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

If not then I have multiple girlfriends?

[–]c4toyourdoornobeef16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]-Frank2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ah I guess

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

Man ignore half the bullshit you're hearing here

If you've already fucked her, talk away about whatever interests you as if you're talking to yourself

Obviously don't start yammering about your childhood issues or current problems, but if you start yapping away about your opinions about movies and current issues and whatever who gives a fuck if it causes "the plate to break"

RP is supposed to be about being uncompromising and yet here we see people saying you should just be quiet and shut up to keep the girl, implying the value of keeping the girl around is greater than expressing yourself and doing what you want to do

What a joke this place has become

[–]fender187812 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agree 100% and glad someone called it out. I’ve got a couple plates spinning, all pretty cool girls. I think you reach the pinnacle of abundance when you’re not sure which plate to hang onto with on a given night because they’re all pretty cool.

Last night I got drinks with a plate, spent a few hours at the bar having really good conversation, shared some appetizers and then went back to smash. Honestly, it’s way more fun that way for me at least because it just becomes a really enjoyable night.

This sub tends to avoid any kind of meaningful human interaction.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

A lot of the girls I have around I watch Netflix and chill with, I don’t mind them sticking around.., if the relationship is NSA there’s a fairly clear cut understanding that the chat is gonna be easy going... the younger ladies I tend to prefer to just quieten them down with my cock in their mouth. The girls in their early 20’s tend to want to talk about relationships, sex or show off their Instagram pics and ask me if I think her or her friends pics are ‘hawt’...

I had a 23 yo Vietnamese/Australian girl come over tonight just to play PlayStation, I said you’re welcome to, but I have a no pants or top allowed policy... I massaged her while she played cod black ops in her gstring and bra... we pretty much chatted about our sex lives for an hour... comparing who had the best sexcapade stories before I lifted her to the bedroom and pulled that gstring to the side... soon as we were done she Ubered home. Low stress, high pleasure

[–]TheDero2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Orfeu_da_Conceicao4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

1) Her

2) Teasing. Her.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's only 2 reasons for you to be doing what you are doing. One is that you know they most likely don't understand what you are saying so it makes you feel smarter than them which shows your lack of self esteem, second you are trying to turn them into conversation buddies when they just want sex because... I dunno. Why don't you have that kind of conversations with male friends?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

this is solid. agreed

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

How she might pleasure me better.

Upon occasion I give advice, but I make clear that if they just want to bitch abt things, that’s what their girlfriends are for and thennin I pack their mouths with cock.

Actually I prefer dating introverts, so there isn’t a lot of talking.

[–]Psychological_Radish8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

The idea that you should get a girl who wants to have deep, meaningful conversations is a Blue Pill delusion. The only deepness that should concern you is how deep your cock is going into her pussy. Save the philosophical shit for your friends. Smart girls want to get plowed by the hot dumb trainer from the gym, not the skinny guy with the dorky glasses in her calculus class.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're spending significant social time with them outside the seduction process, they are FWBs, not plates.

[–]ghosts_of_me5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dont talk, do. Create activities, be a leader. Put on a movie you want to watch, draw an alien city together, invent a new cocktail, make a sculpture out of tree bark, go for a walk to the river and spot a duck, play a card game, you can do anything.

[–]ghosts_of_me2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Inb4 someone says whats the point of doing stuff like that if shes not your gf.

[–]beachbbqlover1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I mostly talk with people from the internet. The locals are all coal miners, and have the intellectual capacity of coal miners. I mean some run the mine, some run a business, some clean shovels, but nobody here is about to change the world, and while I'm not either I do find people who are to be more engaging.

So the people immediately around me get conversations about work, cars, making a house, weather, fitness, and perspective choices.

[–]Aesthetik_10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I found that, provided they’re into you, you can talk about pretty much anything and they will try to assert themselves / impress you with what they know about something you talk about / keep the conversation alive and try to mirror your interests which is hardy ever genuine, but fun nonetheless

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I was bored reading your post, so I can only imagine how your plates feel. Stop fucking talking. They don’t care about your movie theories. I’m a filmmaker and I don’t even talk about that shite. The only thing coming out of your mouth should be penetrating questions.

[–]mikayla_rivera0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If they are just fuck buddies then they are not going to be your best friends. That’s what a non sexual friend is for or a girlfriend, I would recommend either leaving shortly after hooking up or asking them more questions to get them involved in the conversation if you really want to talk to them. People like to talk about themselves and very few will actually give a shit about what you have to say besides close friends, family, and your gf which are all still maybes.

[–]tefllifestyle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Everybody loves to talk about themselves, just let them do the talking...its funny its the lazy approach, but they will like you more in the end

[–]jollycompanion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tomassi not to give away too much information and to keep it all a bit mysterious on that end. Besides this idk what the hell other people discuss.

Ah I see you're a man of culture as well.

[–]Elihad150 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Find male friends to talk to about these things. I also have a hard time not getting to deep (mentally) and it ends the same way. You can’t talk about things with women the way you do with males. And avengers is for twelve years is my go to response when people mention those movies.

[–]BumblingBeta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most people here have probably never had "plates". You've got to remember that 1 in 3 men below 30 aren't having sex at all, according to statistics published this year. No sex in the last year. That statistic is probably under-stated, because it was self-reported and men always over-state the amount of sex they're getting. That number is probably closer to 1 in 2. This isn't even counting the men who pay for sex. So already you're asking a bunch of people who have probably never been in the situation of having plates in the first place (although they constantly fantasise about it no doubt).

As for advice on your particular issue, talk about whatever you want. If she loses attraction, so be it. Abundance mentality, you've got plenty of other options.

To be honest, it sounds like you want to turn plates into meaningful girlfriends. I suggest if you want deep and meaningful conversations, find some male friends instead. Nothing stopping you talking with plates, but why bother? Talking is a very "female" trait. Real men either fall asleep or get up and leave after sex. Sounds like you're very feminised in your thinking.

[–]ChadTheWaiter100-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should be able to calibrate, generally speaking, whether someone is understanding and or interested in your conversation or not. I’m 28 years old and I’ve NEVER heard someone talk about the pacing of films. I can fully understand talking about the acting or the writing or the casting but pacing?

[–]tossoutjack3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


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