How do you deal with anger?

redwall92 · 2019-05-13T19:02:44+00:00

Have you read "The Way of the Superior Man" by Dieda? It's on the sidebar for a reason. If you interact with your woman as if she's a man, then you will remove polarization from the relationship, and attraction will disappear, and your resentment will grow.

If you learn to see and appreciate reality (you are a man, your woman is a woman), then you will appreciate your woman for being a woman instead of getting annoyed at her when she woman's.

LongRoad_518 · 2019-05-13T18:47:01+00:00

STFU
Lift
Try to see amusement in what she's doing

I get angry as well, but with self-reflection she's just being a woman... it can be amusing if you let yourself be amused. I think the key is to really STFU, don't let her get any whiff that you're annoyed or angry because she wins. Swallow it down and use the anger for something productive like lifting.

Daddy_ThunderCock · 2019-05-13T20:29:34+00:00

For overall relief:

I deal with meditation, exercise, hanging with friends...any stress relief. If she's annoying , then do something else. If you're angry...then she's REALLY annoying and you need to do something else.

Granted, understanding the meta or overall doesn't always help IN THE MOMENT.

So some stupid shit I've come up with is to try to have some go to mental states (which even bleed into A.A. A.M....and if you fake the A.A. A.M. convincingly and for long enough...you start to own it and it helps you see things as a joke anyway).

So anyway...a dipshit go to if I catch myself (and it isn't JUSTIFIED AND PARENTAL IN NATURE) is :

Either for external A.M. or internally for self control : Twirl my finger in the air (or imagine I'm doing it) like a old school director and go "AHHH... MARRIAGE THEATER!"

Because it is.

It really is.

One big giant cosmic biological joke on humans to make us dance like monkeys trying to interact with each other...and it's for effect. So ... theater, a performance. Helps kick me into observer mode. Like waking up from a dream where you felt a severe emotion. AH...it's fake, it wasn't real. It isn't.

And , most of the time, it's because you forgot she was a woman and in some way started to expect rational behavior from a primarily emotional being. Stop forgetting.... like we always say, you don't get mad at a dog for barking or a woman for shit testing. It's just what they do.

But if you forget...and you can't recover...just O.I.

It's better not to say it out loud, but if you need a little pressure relief or to drown out the noise chasing your back

"You have fun with that"

"OK, we'll pick this up later and by that I mean never"

"Blah de blah".

"Yadda yadda"

"Bye Felicia" or "Ok, Karen"

Even if your button was pushed, if you O.I. on a less-caring note it's a small recovery.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-05-13T19:52:11+00:00

I'm having some challenges with anger right now but the root cause is you.

1.STFU

LIFT
Call out and Shoot down bitchy behaviour if valid... followed by 1 and 2. (Only do this if your frame is titanium alloy with thermite tipped nukes)

Formatting is gay

NMMNG_1 · 2019-05-14T00:07:47+00:00

How do you deal with anger?

Do you get angry at the sky when it rains? Do you lose your composure yell at the wind when you leave a book open outside and the breeze flips the pages?

When you get angry, you don’t make a scene. You STFU and go take it out on the iron. Iron doesn’t talk back, she never lies. Iron is your best friend. Iron gives you back as much as you give her.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-05-13T19:54:52+00:00

That “annoyance” you get is from looking in the mirror (your woman) and seeing how much of a pussy you are.

Have you read the sidebar?

FereallyRed · 2019-05-13T22:15:11+00:00

Anger is your emotion.

Not her fault.

Process why you're angry at her. Realize that it's your frame that needs work.

In other words it's not about what she's done, it's about your reaction to what she's done.

AccidentallyShackled · 2019-05-14T00:24:30+00:00

Tell her to grow the fuck up

Bud, women stop maturing around 18 (but around a 28 yo man’s level). Men mature into their 40s. Stop expecting her to have your level of maturity.

redwall92 · 2019-05-13T18:55:37+00:00

MrTrizzles · 2019-05-13T21:07:44+00:00

First, make a list and determine if your anger is justified in each scenario. As is repeated often here, some of women's poor behavior is due to a lack of leadership by the man.

Then there's AWALT, can't get mad over shit on that list.

And so on. Then apply stoicism and STFU and avoid DEERing.

You'll probably reduce your flashpoints significantly after using these filters.

SkimTheDross · 2019-05-14T00:20:36+00:00

The key is to learn to not get angry in the first place.

tap0988534 · 2019-05-15T19:50:38+00:00

There are multiple levels of possibility here. The first problem is why are you angry? Anger usually derives from a feeling of frustration over a lack of power or control over a situation.

However, understanding what is pissing you off can help too. Depending on your level of OCD, you might feel helpless when forks aren't perfectly aligned in the drawer, or you may not care if there's cat shit on the bed.

Is she deliberately goading you to get a reaction? Is she passive aggressively retaliating against you for some perceived slight?

The first step is assertiveness training (WISNIFG). You are probably upset because you are judging something she is doing as being wrong. If you can stop judging her behavior as wrong, you can stop feeling butthurt about it. What she's doing isn't wrong, its just female. Are you going to feel tears of anger when a cat licks it's paws. Unless you want to be married to a dude, you need to accept her femininity. She needs to shit test you because she's wired to, and it's the only way she'll feel safe. Everytime, you feel butthurt or injured over her behavior you fail the shit test, whether you talk it through or not.

So when you feel annoyed about something, unless she's doing something truly evil like murdering orphans, understand that there is no moral framework that stands judge over your interpersonal dynamics, there is just male and female. If she does something you don't like, its not a cause to feel injured helpless anger, it's just something you don't like. And it's a useful masculine thing to tell her what you like and want and don't like or want.

"I want you to make the bed with a military fold." "I want you to do the dishes every night before bed, and perfectly align the forks in the drawer." "I want you to be naked and waiting for me in bed when I get home."

Because it isn't right or wrong for her to do what you want. She may not. And you won't feel hurt, helpless, frustrated, or angry if she doesn't. You won't bully or pressure her into promising something or doing something she doesn't wish to do, but simply calmly broken record what you want, without animosity or helpless frustration. But as you establish your masculinity by not feeling hurt, and becoming more attractive, her femininity will respond with wanting to do more pleasing things.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-05-16T10:27:32+00:00

I got angry this week... It didn't end well. I called out bitchy behaviour and didn't have the frame to cope when the hamster throat punched me. (Yeah I'm a bitch too)

It's far far better to shut the fuck up, if she wants a fight dont engage just fog it (wisnifg). Leave and lift... Repeat.

Also when you get angry and don't deal with it... She will get angry... Because she is a mirror of you. Her hampster will come for you. Be ready to not engage. (Just my opinion, others are available)

Title	How do you deal with anger?
Author	MrNoFapzToday
Upvotes	16
Comments	29
Date	May 13, 2019 6:39 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/bo7cmc/how_do_you_deal_with_anger/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askMRP/how-do-you-deal-with-anger.238631 https://theredarchive.com/post/238631

Comments