This is a repost: I was surprised and delighted by the outrage this received when I first put it up here and we clearly need some better content for more mature users, so here you go.
Requirement for a successful relationship: You need to be able to make her feel BAD
The way that is formulated is so outrageous, bizarre, and counterintuitive, but I just realized this is one of the main factors in my successful relationships with women. It's also a lot less work than making her feel GOOD.
Use this as a test of whether to continue a relationship of any length (actually, if you're having doubts, you should probably get out anyway). If you can't make her feel bad, she doesn't care enough about what you think.
Who cares about how much you make her feel good? If that was the metric of a good relationship, just think how much work you have to put in, CONSTANTLY trying to make her feel good. It would never end, and it would require constant elevation.
Making her feel bad isn't constant work, it's just something you need to be able to do on occasion, hopefully rarely.
Let me just say right now, this, like 99.99% of things in relationships between men and women, is not a two-way street. If she has the power to make you feel bad, that is a shit relationship you need to get out of.
Readers with half a brain will have figured out I am basically talking about being able to discipline your woman when needed. I use the vivid language to make the point more clear, and the lesson longer lasting.
But I am not exaggerating. I actually do this. It actually works.
I didn't set out to be a jerk and an asshole; this is just my natural modus. But as I look back on my life through a Red lens, I can see the things that worked, things that I didn't even realize I was doing. And now I'm passing it on to you.
Also I want to emphasize that making her feel bad should be an easy thing to do. As in, not a lot of work.
While on the subject, NOTHING in a relationship with a woman should be a lot of work. Relationships are hard work is some BLUE PILL BULLSHIT. You don't work on the relationship, you work on yourself. She follows, or she walks.
How do you make her feel bad? you're asking. It should involve no more effort than level 1: a dirty look, and level 2: the absence of your attention and good graces. Any more work than that is not worth it. I don't even think any more than that actually works; I've never experienced it, so I don't know.
You certainly do not talk about it. Women do not take responsibility, and talking is asking her to be accountable, which she is not.
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Three of the most important things in a relationship with a woman are sex, fidelity, and boundaries. Being able to make her feel bad can greatly increase success in these areas.
1). Sex.
Beyond the honeymoon phase, make her feel good, and she's going to . . . feel good. And relaxed. And satisfied. And not thinking about you. She's thinking about herself, because she is a fundamentally lazy and selfish woman.
If she is meeting your needs, then by all means continue to make her feel good. It's basic behaviorism. But few women in long term relationships can keep that up throughout the month; their hormones get in the way, and again, they are lazy and selfish. So if you have to, you need to let her know she is an unsatisfactory lover.
Do you tell her she's not meeting your needs? LOL. Go ahead and try that. No woman who is worth fucking (ie, high level of sexy and so higher confidence) is going to admit to being an unsatisfactory lover. Women don't take responsibility like that. In her mind the problem is YOU: If you were worth fucking, she'd be fucking you.
No, you look at her and express your disdain through your eyes. Or as the bluesman says, you give her a whole lot of leavin' alone. She will figure it out through her lizard brain. Subconsciously, women know their only value is in their sexuality. She will offer it, if she cares.
2). Fidelity.
There is no guaranteed way to keep a woman from cheating, but if you have the power to make her feel bad, it is less likely. Cheating will make her feel bad if she cares about what you think.
This is for all you young guys: think about the relationship you might find yourself in. If you don't have the power to make her feel bad, just by withdrawing your attention, she doesn't care enough about what you think. That means she won't care about cheating on you. End it.
3). Boundaries.
Boundary enforcement should be as easy as a dirty look, or the withdrawal of your attention. You don't tell her not to do things; that just plants the seed of temptation to do those things in her mind. Telling her she is encroaching on boundaries is also telling her you are a man who can't maintain boundaries.
I've been maintaining boundaries for decades, and I can tell you, it is that simple.
tldr: If you don't have the power to make her feel bad, your relationship will suck; she will feel free to walk all over you.
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