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Confidence Above All

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Confidence Above All

So I’ve seen a couple “OMG! I just met the perfect girl! I don’t wanna fuck this up! Plz HALP!” type posts, of late, and it’s time for a gut check.

There Are No Unicorns.

Yes, I know, your new girl’s special-specialness is way specialer than all the other girls who have ever-lived.

Except she’s not, or it isn’t or whatever. Now go punch yourself in the dick ten times.

Why? Because if you play it like “Yes, pookiekins, you are the sweetest girl ever! I iz in LURVE!” then you won’t see the anvil falling out of the sky, and then you’ll get flattened. Betafag behavior dries pussies right out. Like the Sahara Desert. Or the Gobi Desert. Whichever one is drier.

What then to do?

How Betas Fuck Up

This shit is important: write it down.

Guys fuck up by getting married or getting into an LTR and thinking that it’s over, and they’ve “won.” They anesthetize themselves with SportsBall and beer, quit lifting/exercising, chub out, and settle into their lives of unknowing desperation, being bitched out at home, and working in a 9 to 5 coffin. Then, one day, they wake up to find that they’re getting divorced because “You’ve changed” or “I’ve changed” or “I’m not happy anymore” or some shit. So much for “winning”. They get kicked out of the house, have their assets strip mined away and get to see their kids whenever the ex feels like it. And she sits around bitching to her friends about what a loser he was while she’s living in a house that he’s still paying for, wondering when she’s going to get her groove back1 or when she gets to EatPraySlut her way into the bed of some sexy foreign man.2 He's still trying to figure out "what he did wrong" when really just got the realities of life shoved up his ass, 'wif no lube, 'bruv. The BEST CASE scenario is that you stay married, don’t hate each other, but wind up dying anyway. Of cancer or some other nasty shit.

How To Not Fuck Up

You “don’t’ fuck up” by doing what got you there in the first place. Amused Mastery. Abundance Mentality. Being kind of an asshole, but not like a REAL asshole.3 Like a 'funny' asshole. Be mildly subversive. If she says “No guy has ever talked to me the way that you do!” then you’re doing it right.

Ex. One of my girls has like 7 orbiters – one actually gets tongue-tied around her, but stalks her on insta and ‘likes’ all her posts and photos. I told her to tell him that she has an owner, which she did – which I was pretty surprised but hey, good for her – and he just about shat himself at the thought. She enjoys teasing him – women love teasing betas – but there is zero chance he gets anywhere near her quim. Another guy writes poetry for her.4 PUUUUUKE! He is intellectualizing his desire for her pussy. Me? I just told her I was going to tie her up and fuck her. Guess which one of us is Nailing That Tail? Hint: Not Percy Shelley. When she mentions him, I ask if he’s written her a sonnet or something. If you are going to write fucking poetry, at least be Lord Byron, or Dylan Thomas, only without the syphilis and alcoholism. “The waste remains and kills” indeed.

Confidence slays. Keep her off-balance, like she’s balancing a chair on its back legs, almost tips over, but catches herself. Be cocky – if I am ever at loss for words, I usually go with the most sexist thing I can think of, and it’s like catnip for them, because the landscape is such a desert when it comes to masculine men. Oh, and if anyone mentions “toxic masculinity” near me, I correct them with either “traditional masculinity” or “heroic masculinity”, as appropriate. Don’t let the enemy use your own virtues against you.

What To Do About It

First, remember that women are never the end goal in and of themselves, but rather a pleasant accompaniment to a man’s life, which he pursues how he chooses.5

How do you gain confidence? Become the Prize.

How do you learn to approach women? You go out and do it. By the 25th approach, you won’t be afraid anymore. By the 50th, you won’t care how hot she is, by the 75th, you will be thinking, “What is the most fucked up thing I can say to her and still pull?” Approach Anxiety: Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady.

Stop thinking whatever girl you are obsessing over is the Last Girl You Will Ever Talk To. Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You.

Stop being afraid of shit. Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAF.

And never forget: You Never Stop Competing.

Now go forth and SLAY!

1 The male lead in “How Stella Got Her Grove Back” was an obviously gay man using “Stella” for a visa to the US.

2 The story of that story is pretty sordid.
3 Never go full asshole, unless it’s in a “Total War” scenario.
4 In fairness, I did this once, also, but it was limerick about the pulchritude of her ass.

5 “Men are here to DO shit. Women are here to make more men.” - Napoleon Bonaparte, only he said it in French.


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Title Confidence Above All
Author VasiliyZaitzev
Upvotes 718
Comments 79
Date 23 September 2019 08:04 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/266257
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[–]pete_1488183 points184 points  (3 children) | Copy

I wish this guy had been my dad/mentor.

Thank god for this sub.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 143 points144 points  (1 child) | Copy

"All the young men are my sons."

-From, The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev

[–]DownyGall57 points58 points  (15 children) | Copy

Napoleon was fucking based on all accounts if you look up his other quotes, but especially on women.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]DownyGall14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Appears he had a blindspot. Actually kind of comforting that even the leader and conqueror of an entire continent could still be blue-pilled.

[–]I_Dont_Type29 points30 points  (6 children) | Copy

Pretty sure he had a big oneitus for a girl that didn’t even really like him but married him anyway because he was essentially king of the world.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy

He wifed up a 32 y.o. single mom when he was 26. Do not ever do this. Anyway, he divorced her to marry a 19 y.o. when he was 41, in order to produce an heir. No TRP for him back in the day, but he did pretty well there for a while.

[–]GisforJumping26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

Josephine, do not shower or bathe for the next 3 months. Campaign is over and I'm coming home to smell your effervescent quim -Napoleon

[–]xKalista 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Not true. He literally only married her because she was fertile and he needed an heir ASAP. Divorced his previous wife and then had a kid one year later.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

The 19 y.o. was like the "Archduchess of SomewhereInAustriaStein" so it was a Dynastic Marriage, Emperor of France + Some Doe-Eyed Fräulein to make little babies that would be connected to the German Royals and, presumably the eldest of whom would become Emperor after Napoleon. Except there was one kid and he died of smallpox or consumption or some shit when he was 21 and his dad had already made a career limiting move so bad that the name of it is synonymous with irredeemable defeat. So yeah, there was that.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

He also had a Polish mistress.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't blame him; I dig Slavic women, too.

[–]TBtgoat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I knew there was a fucking reason he kept showing up as an example in all of the books I've been reading

[–]Ramp_Up_Then_Dump-5 points-4 points  (4 children) | Copy

He was cucked. He is a bitter short man with a lot of power.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fun Fact: Napoleon is only short by modern standards; he was average-ish height+ for his time.

[–]p3n1x5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah, you say that like a person can't learn from a mistake.

What is ironic, is how many men are being cucked at this moment and are making fun of other men for being cucked.

[–]DownyGall3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

He was above average height, you dolt.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K1899 points100 points  (2 children) | Copy

Never EVER drop the pill. Like...ever.

Always be dominant, leading, challenge her, assert boundaries, PASS SHIT TESTS.

Always have an air of indifference, prize.

No matter how long it's been, if you get complacent, you're fucked.

If you ever find you've dropped the pill...pick it up, dust that fucker off and shove it down her throat. Literally.

[–]BILLIONAIREMAX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I had dropped it and just got it back after realizing I'm fucking up and shit tests are coming my way like bullets.

[–]Smuggler-Tuek27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

Needed this today. Thanks dude.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happy to help.

[–]LuckyRedPill19 points20 points  (14 children) | Copy

That's awesome. You need a podcast, would be a great thing for all men.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 28 points29 points  (13 children) | Copy

/u/itiswr1tten and I sometimes talk about doing one.

That said, I did one about 2,5 years ago, with {Name Redacted}. It was supposed to go 30 minutes and went for 2 hours. Sorry about the voice thing; it was his idea.

Anyway, here it is: Enjoy

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten22 points23 points  (9 children) | Copy

Me you and /u/fereallyred

His bitch ass just needs to get a proper mic.

I will arrange it with a date and a platform TOMORROW if you and him reply with consent

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 19 points20 points  (7 children) | Copy

I think we need to discuss format more, but sure.

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

Me: moderate. You two: pontificate.

I'll send an agenda sketch once red replies. We can record at convenient time or go live. Former is easier. Latter we would schedule in advance to hype.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm in. I'll pick up some equipment today.

[–]Snowaey12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Finally a proper red pill podcast!

[–]CartelMP75 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hell yea it's gonna be a good fuckin podcast

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

We can discuss offline.

[–]AvengerSentinel7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It'd be fuckin' incredible if you guys did a podcast, I'd 1000% listen to it the day it comes out. Make it happen man!!

[–]MrAnderzon3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just listened to the whole thing. Well worth the 2 hours. Only thing audio can be better.

[–]ahackercalled4chan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

same. really good content in that interview.

[–]LuckyRedPill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Will listen, thanks brother

[–]Pdubzilla19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

Guys fuck up by getting married or getting into an LTR and thinking that it’s over, and they’ve “won.”

This is why I hate when guys talk about "settling down". It is fucking stupid to think you can "settle down" with anyone. And why would you want to ever stop improving?

[–]awakenedspirit114 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Heroic masculinity. Fantastic.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

I enjoy that sort of thing. I saw a woman coming off a NYC flight (I was headed back) this past week who had a "Women Don't Owe You Shit" t-shirt on. Had I engaged her for some reason, I'd have said, "That's convenient because I don't take shit from women," and then watch her come uncunted.

[–]Stargazex916 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is really a wake up call, thanks

[–]1User-31f64a4e6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

they anesthetize themselves with SportsBall and beer, quit lifting/exercising, chub out, and settle into their lives of unknowing desperation, being bitched out at home, and working in a 9 to 5 coffin.

That's part of it for sure, and these things will have bad consequences.
Instead, I am willing to bet that the main issue is failing to maintain frame.

-==-

You are right on the mark with:

and thinking that it’s over, and they’ve “won.”

Being task and outcome focused, men naturally tend to think that what is done is done. Happily forever after, until death do us part, once and forever, etc.

Women lack such static, task orientation. Women are status and relationship oriented. That never ends; there is no winning, there is no losing, there is only the eternal struggle.

If, as a man, you want to 'relax' in your relationship and not bother holding frame - then poof, it will all be gone.

tl'dr: The number one killer of 'relationships' is taking your foot off the gas, because it's too much bother.

[–]p3n1x7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

"We treat women too well, and in this way have spoiled everything. We have done every wrong by raising them to our level. . . . Nothing is more imperious than weakness when it knows it is backed by strength; look at women." - NB

This is not only true for women but most of western society at the moment.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very true. Consider:

Hard Times make Tough Men.

Tough Men make Easy Times.

Easy Times make Soft Men.

Soft Men make Hard Times.

[–]Hamlet_Prime5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

That chair analogy, fucking gold.

My actions should make a girl feel like she’s balancing on two legs of a four legged chair, that’s the feeling I want to inspire around me.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am never sure what will resonate with people. I used 'buy signals' once and a finance guy was like "OMG, I fucking GET IT now!" So I try to say things in 2 or 3 ways.

[–]FaP_rothschild5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is rock solid content. As red as Sheffield.

[–]idontmiind3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Regarding the napoleon quote: one thing that I realized is that "misogyny" is the ritual pathway to being their object of worship. Any man who puts women higher up than himself or men will never be that. Its like a deep cultural shit test for betas.

[–]SlySoothSayer4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is hilarious, very good read

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Greatest guy to take advice from

[–]Final_Pantasy3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I needed this. Two month plate I was gushing over started feeling bad for fucking multiple guys and started going monogamous with the one she felt the strongest emotional connection with that she knew for over a year. She called me up crying saying that she’d miss me and likes me a lot, and yeah, i really liked her, too. I probably pushed her even further away by being gushy back at her when i should have just said okay good luck and hung up. She admitted the sex isnt even nearly as good, but I have a hard time finding things to talk about, so the mental connection wasnt up to snuff. Something I need to work on.

Probably the most attractive girl I’ve been with in America which is why oneitus hit, even though I typically sleep with multiple new women a month.

[–]BigRedChewingChum3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

'limerick about the pulchritude of her ass' now that's fucking poetry

[–]andyturbo2000 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Why am reading this in the voice of Rex Kwon Do from Neopolian Dynamite...it's like boot camp for betas baby!

For those not familiar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzh9koy7b1E

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

IRL, I generally get either Rick Sanchez or Gregory House a lot, depending on the other person's cultural reference points.

[–]TimelessNY2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Posting so I do not forget to go through that gold mine "What To DO About It" section tonight. Thank you Vasya.

[–]Shadows14554 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is huge, really gave me the confidence I needed. Fuck it tommorow I'm gonna approach a woman for the first time in my life, I won't let my brain stop me this time.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're really nervous, approach a fat and/or ugly chick first. Talk to her and build your confidence, keep approaching women, and work your way up to hotter chicks. The part about being nervous, then not caring, then seeing what you can get away with saying is 100% true. Also, don't just talk to women, but talk to men too and up your social game in the process. The confidence you build while learning to talk to everyone is what will help you bed the chicks you want to bed.

[–]redditor67tny1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love reading this shit, because it just proves more to myself that I'm doing it right.

[–]Pandufresh1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man I really like that Napoleon quote

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where was this when I was 18🤦🏾‍♂️

[–]TBtgoat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

EatPraySlut that's a good one. Jokes aside, this is a quality ass fucking post! What is the most fucked up thing I can say and still pull. I like that. I'm gonna try and use that

[–]Ginger_destroyer0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm in an LTR, what do you guys think of writing her poetry? I've been doing it for a long time now.

Usually it's pretty sexual, humorous, and hint at inside jokes between us. Seems to work for me.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, but you are getting PiV and, so long as you are maintaining Frame and keeping the vibe mildly subversive then ok. But you gotta stay on top of things.

[–]5Imperator_Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

but stalks her on insta and ‘likes’ all her posts and photos

I hate these faggots so much. Lowest form of life on earth after violent criminals.

[–]amoxicillin20200 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Looking forward to your podcasts!

zaitsev on other hand I often feel shy saying stuff to girls. How can i get less attached saying stuff to girls?

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

You simply have to go make approaches until you burn your shyness out of you. After 25 approaches, you won’t be nervous anymore. After 50 approaches, you will no longer care how she is. By 100 approaches, you’ll be thinking ”what is the most fucked up thing I can say to her and still pull?”

Also, you should go register onto TRp.red. Read is going to shut down the TRP subreddit

[–]amoxicillin20200 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I approached 4 chicks in two days since I last wrote and reading your comment. I have approached before but I’m getting slowly used to it. Rejection hurts tbh, and this is daygame so no nightgame.

Got rejected by a girl today, we held eye contact like it felt deep but when I asked for number, she said shes not in the mood rn(like she doesnt want to date). So slow small progress bit by bit.

Wbu how many times did you get rejected?

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Rejection hurts tbh

And will until it no longer does. You are too invested in what some half-nekkid, 120# primate thinks of you.

Wbu how many times did you get rejected?

So let me let you in on a statistical fact. You wanna know what guys get laid the most? The guys who get rejected the most, because they don't sit around moping about how Suzie Sugartits rejected them, they move on and chat up Tammy Tendertwat, and maybe nail her instead.

In my life I've been rejected a lot of times, but now it's rare because I am good at chatting girls up, building a narrative, and reading the tea leaves. Make Yourself Into The Prize and good things will happen.

[–]amoxicillin20200 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Vasily thanks! I have approached on the weekend two girls, and talked to 6 girls today. (Two were crushes in uni, and approached a set(two girls), got cockblocked by her friend and then talked to a not a hot girl, but forced myself because they are human and wished them well, and talked for a solid 5 minutes about mundane stuff.

Not bad, for a rookie, but I do see I want to push more, and push the buttons around instead of giving every answer like a vending machine.

Ps I did miss some good approaches because i was in my head. (3 good ones, oh well, will not miss any approach one day!)

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Outstanding! Keep doing what you're doing. It will all come together with time.

[–]Casd120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She enjoys teasing him – women love teasing betas

Hold up, I'm not trying to nitpick and tell me if you think I'm wrong, but doesn't girls tease regardless if you're beta or alpha? I mean they do it to test your frame. Obviously its much more enjoyable when the other party gets triggered; I'm assuming this is the point you're trying to make.

[–]mrspicytits0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

No matter how many times I see this kind of message I don't seem to be able to keep that red pill down.. I keep returning to my blue pill behaviours /beliefs, and fucking up with girls, making the same mistakes. How many times do I have to be ultimately rejected by a girl I'm dating, her being disgusted by my needy behaviour and never wanting to see or speak to me again.. While I'm sending her a goodbye text like 'I had fun with you, you meant something to me x'... God I make myself sick

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're whining man, which is doing fuck all for you. You're searching for pity. Don't.

Treat your emotions like this: you feel something shitty? Take action to relieve that shitty feeling. Except when you can't do anything about it (let's say a family member died), then you have to work on acceptance.

You're feeling sorry for yourself which honestly is disgusting. Take action and make yourself proud.

[–]slackw1zard-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop talking about women you beta fucks and get your shirt together.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Can you clarify traditional/heroic masculinity for me?

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Think about the guy who shows up every day keeps the lights on and the heat on, makes sure his family is taken care of, etc. that’s traditional masculinity.

Heroic masculinity is the guy who ran into a burning building in Philly a couple of days ago to save other people’s kids. The kids got dropped out the window to other men, waiting below to catch them and, as a result, were saved. He became a meme because, in one of the most Philly things that has ever been Phillied, he talked about the guys below “catching them, unlike Agholar” - so in the middle of talking about saving kids, he took time out to roast an Eagles WR who dropped passed on Sunday against Detroit. But yeah, the part where he ran into a burning building is the Heroic Masculinity bit.

[–]Fulp_Piction-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think that most betas in asktrp asking stupid fuckin FAQs have no idea about anything game, so telling them to do what got them there doesn't help. They've just gotten lucky that she's not figured out why she won't fuck him yet.

[–]masculinetruth999-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You guys starting to become blue pilled or something? Confidence is only gained from being capable. You can't fraud it. That's why anytime a beta male acts confident, everyone fucking laughs, even if he's unphased people still laugh. I fucking laugh at any guy with a sweet trimmed beard who isn't 6'0+ or a model.

You guys are fooling yourselves if you think some weird 6'2 guy didn't fuck a chick while not even being confident.

[–]gg_0_lane_prio-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Kind of sad that you weren't able to define confidence in a 5000+? character long post

[–]MLGdegzz-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So much work just to get women, jesus christ



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