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The sub /r/niceguys often likes to make fun of guys for being nice, even though it's supposed to call out fake nice guys. Which subreddit can I go to if I feel like the reason I can't find a date is because I'm too nice?

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Title The sub /r/niceguys often likes to make fun of guys for being nice, even though it's supposed to call out fake nice guys. Which subreddit can I go to if I feel like the reason I can't find a date is because I'm too nice?
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Date May 9, 2016 12:42 AM UTC
(10 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/4ih7dm/the_sub_rniceguys_often_likes_to_make_fun_of_guys/
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[–]Fireflite13 points14 points15 points 10 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

/r/OkCupid is surprisingly helpful if your skin is thick enough to actually accept blunt advice. Hint: your problem almost certainly isn't that you're "too nice".

[–]TheSandbergPrincipleMuh Soggy Knees1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link

hint: your problem almost certainly isn't that you're "too nice".

If he says it, i believe it to be 100% true

Tupac was a total gentleman (aka a pussy whipped blue pill bitch) when he was young and he couldn't get pussy. Then he realized that treating women nicely was what prevented him from attracting women. Guess which version of Tupac got all the pussy?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AHH0bdNKyM

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

I like how you left out the part where he had money and fame. But I guess treat girls badly gets you laid, let me know how that works out.

[–]TheSandbergPrincipleMuh Soggy Knees1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Do you honestly believe he would have gotten to where he was if he stayed a pussy?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you honestly think one can only be a pussy or a total ass to everyone?

[–]despisedlove2Reality Pill Tradcon RP0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

One could always be a dick.

[–]stats135-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And of course doing people favors and being nice to people is the most efficient way to get rich, right?

[–][deleted] 0 points0 points0 points 10 years ago | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

So treat them like shit?

[–][deleted] 1 points1 points1 points 10 years ago | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Because treating people like shit won't ever have the chance of coming back to bite you.

[–]BluePiller17764 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Correlation doesn't imply causation.

[–]TheSandbergPrincipleMuh Soggy Knees0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Who gives a fuck. The badboy gets all the girls.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂-2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I dunno, women at the time seemed to prefer sensitive Tupac. Exhibit A: Salt n Peppa: What a Man (1994), starring Tupac as female eye-candy.

Featuring women singing about things TRP claims women would never say:

I want to take a minute or two, and give much respect

To the man that's made a difference in my world

And although most men are ho's, he flows on the down low

'Cause I never heard about him with another girl

Doesn't seem like she's interested in Chad. Isn't turned on by his past conquests, doesn't consider him a prize because other women want him. Would prepare he doesn't sleep around.

The whole song is documented proof that women are genuinely attracted to "beta" traits that they supposedly are disgusted by. The last verse is my favorite:

My man gives real loving that's why I call him Killer

He's not a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am, he's a thriller

He takes his time and does everything right

Knocks me out with one shot for the rest of the night

He's a real smooth brother, never in a rush

And he gives me goose pimples with every single touch

Spends quality time with his kids when he can

Secure in his manhood 'cause he's a real man

A lover and a fighter and he'll knock a nucca out

Don't take him for a sucker 'cause that's what he's about

Every time I need him, he always got my back

Never disrespectful 'cause his mama taught him that

[–]TheSandbergPrincipleMuh Soggy Knees1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And yet it's the thugs and players who are getting pussy. Watch what women do, not what they say.

[–]tallwheelManosphere Unificationist2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

There is a "No More Mr. Nice Guy" subreddit, but it doesn't look very active.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NMMNG/

[–]darkmoon097 points8 points9 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

r/TheRedPill will point you in the right direction of where you need to go.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Go to Redpill even for the benefit of counteracting nice guy, altruistic tendencies. From my experience, they don't really go away no matter how much "misogyny" I consume, but they do emerge in a more dilated form.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I doubt it's because you are too nice. It's more probable that (given my own experiences with men like this) that you are too passive and don't project much confidence.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Can you give some specific examples of how being 'too nice' has kept you from getting a date?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop listening to SJW leaning neckbeards who think they gonna get social status if they shit on marginally awkwarder than them.

Also, you seem to be a mediocre troll or taking too much drugs seeing your post history. So I recommand less weed and more MDMA.

[–]BluePiller17763 points4 points5 points 10 years ago* (12 children) | Copy Link

/r/niceguys calls out guys who are being nice to the point of being creepy. A lot of the nice guys there are only "being nice" to get sex out of girls.

There is no such thing as being "too nice" to find a date. "Niceness" is a trait that everyone looks for in a partner, if they don't then chances are they are not a person you want to date. You could be doing things in the name of niceness that creep girls out, but thats something different to handle.

It could be a lot of different reasons for why you arent getting a date and its hard to tell without knowing your situation, but "being an asshole" is not going to help and neither is blaming women. Not saying you do these things but you post on PPD so TRP is about to blow you up with info about doing that.

If you want honest dating advice go to /r/OKCupid or idk message me. Dont go to /r/TheRedPill/ or /r/MGTOW that shit is toxic

[–]PurplepillBrored pill leaning man4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

There most certainly is such a thing as being too nice. It is when you act nice to the point where it gets in the way of acting powerfully

[–]BluePiller1776-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

It is when you act nice to the point where it gets in the way of acting powerfully

acting powerfully? no

I would agree that you be nice to the point of creepiness. If he thinks that there is the guys at /r/niceguys are really guys being nice then he clearly is having problems understanding social cues and is probably just being creepy.

[–]PurplepillBrored pill leaning man1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I read it as "I see guys come to /r/niceguys looking for advice, it's obviously the wrong subreddit, where should they go."

Powerful might've been the wrong word. Maybe... "It's when you act nice to the point where you're completely unable to be aggressive or assertive."

[–]Entropy-7Old Goat0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

AKA "The Doormat Effect". I have two sisters and watched that happen. They would pick fights with their boyfriend just to see if he would stand up for himself. The guys didn't and got dumped.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

/r/niceguys calls out guys who are being nice to the point of being creepy.

There is no such thing as being "too nice" to find a date.

Dude pick one.

"being an asshole" is not going to help

As much as women and that BP men say this, ya it does to a degree. Being a full blown one won't help, but be touch of a one can make a difference.

Dont go to /r/TheRedPill/ or /r/MGTOW that shit is toxic

I agree they are toxic, tho kudo's for not mention feminist subs they are even worse than those subs.

[–]BluePiller1776-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

feminist subs

The point of those subs arent for men to get dating help. That would make no sense to go to.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I was more talking about subs like /r/AskWomen or TwoX, subs where men do and have asked for such advice.

[–]dakruNeither0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

There is no such thing as being "too nice" to find a date.

Yes there is, it's when you take niceness so far that it hurts other traits. For example, if you're nice to the point that you can't stand up for yourself.

[–]BluePiller17762 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

For example, if you're nice to the point that you can't stand up for yourself.

I wouldnt consider not standing up for yourself "being too nice." I would say that you have a problem with letting people walk all over you if that happened.

[–]dakruNeither3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

An excessive desire for niceness isn't the only reason that some people can't stand up for themselves, but it's certainly one of the reasons that often comes up.

I'm actually surprised that this would be controversial. I've seen countless people who were unable to say no because they want to be nice and not rude. It's very common, in fact. Have you really never seen this?

Yes, they have a problem letting people walk all over them, but that can be because of excessive desire to be/seem nice.

[–]BluePiller17760 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Have you really never seen this?

I have seen this but I honestly had the reason you gave for it. Most of the time they dont have the confidence to speak up about it. They feel if they do speak up the person will just laugh at them or whatever.

[–]TheSandbergPrincipleMuh Soggy Knees-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/4ih7dm/the_sub_rniceguys_often_likes_to_make_fun_of_guys/d2y3w46

You are wrong

[–]OfSpock0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

No one has trouble dating because they are too nice. That's a lie they tell themselves to avoid self reflection.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

They do, but it's just a symptom of the underlying problem. The question that must be answered is... why are they too nice?

[–]OfSpock1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

They might have problems, but the problem is not being 'too nice', it's being co-dependent or weak willed or having low self esteem.

[–]BiggerDthanYouBluetopia0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Instead of doing the hard work (going out of their comfort zone, working out, dressing up, learning how to flirt, showing their intentions, approaching women) they go the easy way of simply being nice and waiting for her to do all the moves.

[–]kick6Red Pill Man0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You know the answer, you just don't like it.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

lol, you should hit on women. Being too nice to women will only be a problem if they start to see you like a servant(For some women this can start after only doing 1 favor for them).

It is perfectly fine to be completely neutral and replace all that time you would of wasted being nice with fun/flirting.

Your millage will vary depending how many other things are wrong with you that you haven't explained here.

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