What is the best way to get a good looking young man's commitment?

dragoness_leclerq · 2015-04-28T00:29:58+00:00

If there were a surefire or "best" way, believe me, a lot more of us would be in relationships by now. The truth is, there isn't one. You can do everything "right" and still wind up in a situation where the guy only wants to go as far as FWB. However, I suppose, there are things a woman can do to improve ones chances. In my experience, these are the things that did just that. (note, I'm certain not everyone will agree).

Be feminine. Always look presentable and attractive whenever you plan to see this guy. Opt for feminine clothing, like dresses and skirts, floral patterns, etc and tastefully applied makeup. Whether conscious of it or not, guys like being seen with a woman who is 'well put together' and not just physically attractive.
Be charming and engaging during conversation. Whatever he's talking about, be interested. Ask him questions that show you're listening and are into what he's saying.
Compliment him (both directly and indirectly). Yes. It took me a long time to realize that guys like compliments too. I don't mean suck up or be a sycophant, but if he's funny (or trying to be), laugh at his jokes. If it looks like he put some effort into his appearance, tell him he looks nice (or say you love his shirt/tie/shoes/etc).
Take an interest in his interests. If you know he likes nature or science, maybe take a few minutes out of your day to see what's happening in those communities that day. You don't have to report back to him or anything, but just staying abreast of certain things he's into might make for even more interesting conversation.
Make being with you a fun and relaxing experience. Don't complain about your annoying best friend or "that bitch at work". If talking about your day, share something good that happened instead of the things that went wrong or pissed you off. Be easygoing and share amusing anecdotes from your day/week (which should encourage him to do likewise).
DON'T mention other guys. Don't go on and on about some creep in your class or at work. Don't "complain" about the asshole who hit on you that day. And for fucks sake, don't talk about your exes.
Know how to fucking cook and do so for him. You don't have to be Holly Homemaker but at least know how to make 10 or so basic meals. It's not foolproof but this is something I've learned to use in order to change the tone for an evening if I've invited a guy over to my place. Instead of being a girl who just invited a guy over for sex on the pretext of Netflix, prepping and eating an elaborate meal shows you A) having domestic skills and B) intend for it to be a real date. (Ha! Plus some guys are less inclined to fuck on a full stomach. if you satisfy one need, they may be alright with forfeiting others for the night).

yasee · 2015-04-28T00:19:42+00:00

Pregnancy, obvs

[deleted] · 2015-04-27T22:10:27+00:00

Ehh, it depends on the man . Being good looking , feminine and interesting certainly helps. Oh and it's probably better if you don't sleep with him right away.

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[deleted] · 2015-04-27T23:56:20+00:00

Don't fuck on the first couple of dates and act cute and girly. That's all there is to it really.

gopher_glitz · 2015-04-27T22:58:12+00:00

Make a commitment to you more valuable than being free to do what he pleases.

ReddishBlack · 2015-04-28T01:09:10+00:00

Bare minimum she has to show a long term interest in taking care of her body and isn't a sour cunt

A bit of sass, some wit, and can't be PC are the delux options

Stay the fuck off your smartphone as well

wazzup987 · 2015-04-28T02:11:23+00:00

Be a kind caring person, hold off a little then give it away, and be willing to experiment also fuck often. but most of all be there for him, he will have a hard time replacing that. let him be weak around you, it will make you all but irreplaceable.

cxj · 2015-04-27T22:50:08+00:00

RPW: do yer stuff!

sumant28 · 2015-04-27T23:58:25+00:00

Make it clear from the outset you're looking for someone to marry and offer your sex after its clear that he will follow through with marrying you.

Most true high value men would much rather bang sluts first though.

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MissPearl · 2015-04-28T02:35:53+00:00

How did you meet this guy? Male friend? Aggressively pursue, but make it about your feelings not his obligations. Bang on the first "date". Make your overall goals clear without being rigid.

Be fun to spend time with and useful to have around. Fucking like a minx can't hurt, but male libidoes are not always garuntees.

Make him feel safe by demonstrating your sincere interest in his happiness. Being "feminine" is way too abstract to be useful advice.

It worked for me, but being aggressive is one of the key parts.

haircombsnightmare · 2015-04-28T05:16:48+00:00

Love.

exit_sandman · 2015-04-28T07:33:05+00:00

Depends on what you consider "good-looking". If your "good-looking" means "good-looking" in general, it should be doable.

If what you consider "good-looking (enough)" is "ridiculously attractive" for other people, expect that it won't be easy. Maybe even impossible for you.

TheGreasyPole · 2015-04-28T08:49:27+00:00

Why ask us ?

Why not go and see what the experts have to say ?

That'd be the women figuring out the underlying dynamics of the female mating market and analysing/improving female strategy.

In an RP sense thats...

/r/RedPillWomen who take a a good line, most suitable for marriage but who have a lot of good posts about dating in the singles market.

or

/r/fPUA when you want to skip all the touchy/feely/submissive shit and go for the women using sexual marketplace knowledge to go at men like a buzzsaw. Generally gaming for commitment, rather than gaming for sex, but that too.

Why would you ignore millions of hours of accumulated, analysed, ordered and compiled experience to chat to us yahoo's ?

Kenee24 · 2015-04-29T08:37:54+00:00

It seems so dull and frustrating to chase after somebody while changing yourself to fit them. Sounds like a recipe for a lot of worry and stress over one person. You can't secure anything in the world, never mind people. Everything is better if it happens naturally. If you are meant to be with him you won't have to figure out ways to do it like solving a rubik's cube.

Aspiring_Hobo · 2015-04-27T23:27:37+00:00

That's the question women have been trying to answer for centuries, and they still don't know. And the truth is, it's going to be a challenge because you're asking a guy to go against his nature to want to fuck a bunch of other women, just for you.

But to answer your question, we aren't hard to please. You just have to stick around and deal with our bullshit. You need to sell what he's buying. You may think you're a great person and everything, but it has to be about what he wants. Because ultimately, it's up to him whether or not you two are together.

Aspiring_Hobo · 2015-04-27T22:09:59+00:00

Don't have sex with him on the first date. Or first few actually.

OfSpock · 2015-04-27T23:26:34+00:00

Be good looking and develop likable feminine traits like charm, being well dressed, and so on.
Recognize shitty behaviors such as undermining him, shit testing him, and so on.
Go out on a date. Keep it classy. If you fuck him before he shows promise then he'll never see the point in showing any.
Nonsexual favors.
Sex comes somewhere between when he shows promise and offers commitment. Before he shows promise and he won't see the point in doing so. Waiting until after he commits is too long; he'll get bored and leave.
Go for commitment. Honestly I'm not sure specifically how to do it since I've never gotten a guy's commitment but however you do it, this is the time.
Keep him around with nonsexual favors, not developing the aforementioned shitty behaviors, and with regular sex. Things like encouragement and building him up work too.

Title	What is the best way to get a good looking young man's commitment?
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Date	April 27, 2015 10:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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