Q4M: How long would you stay with your wife/if if all of the sudden by her choice she refused to have sex with you?

Doogie76 · 2019-12-09T16:19:04+00:00

I'm assuming you mean for life and not a one off. Next day

007_pp7 · 2019-12-09T16:44:30+00:00

Like today if she said this im out. I have been in a dead bedroom relationship and stayed for the kids. It was so bad for my mental health

Nothing is keeping me in a relationship like that. Not even children

Edit: i had the biggest urges of my life to cheat, could have multiple times but couldnt go through with it. Took the moral high road and planned my way out

xXxINCELFAGGOTxXx · 2019-12-09T16:32:03+00:00

I'd drop her the very same day. Ain't nobody got time for such bullshit.

Eastuss · 2019-12-09T16:27:37+00:00

If there is a kid in the equation, I would consider just "cheating", otherwise, no sex = no relationship.

2019-12-09T16:26:50+00:00

Who has more money?

762Rifleman · 2019-12-09T16:27:05+00:00

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Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-12-09T16:40:42+00:00

Short of a medical condition, the relationship is over. I would pretty much immediately look for my way out. I've seen couples who seem happy, and compensate in other ways filling their time with stuff and activities (my gf's marriage) but none of that replaces or competes with passion. Unless you're both too old to care, anyway.

DREADC0RSAIR · 2019-12-09T17:21:45+00:00

Why would we have to be exclusive to each other then? We could very well still be friends and hang out occasionally without labels

2019-12-09T17:45:51+00:00

If there was some reason she stopped and it's solvable I would work towards getting back on track. However I'm not going to stay in a relationship where we don't have sex ever again.

Workaholiconew · 2019-12-09T19:02:27+00:00

Depends on my feelings for her and how much time we are together.

Somewhere between a week to a year. If she wants to have exclusivity for my sexual behavior, she is responsible for it. But She has some grace period, after all, she may be passing by something like a loss of a parent.

If, however it was because of some stupid reason, I would leave her way earlier.

GingerRazz · 2019-12-10T09:10:45+00:00

Sex isn't my driving force in my relationships. I typically have the lower sex drive. If she just didn't want sex, I'd be very apathetic to it. I'd still be happy to spend the rest of my life taking care of her and treating her as my best friend as long as she was willing to do the same for me. On the other hand, no matter how good and common the sex is, I'd leaver her if she was unwilling to reciprocate taking care of me and showing emotional intimacy.

2019-12-09T18:28:54+00:00

my first marriage was to the love of my life, with whom we had a great and healthy and wild sex life.

The sex decreased in quality and quantity the day of the wedding, literally the day of the wedding; and then slowly it disappeared so within 2-3 years I found myself in a sexless marriage.

I filed for divorce after 7 years of marriage so 4-5 years of dead bedroom.

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2019-12-09T16:24:13+00:00

Does she earn more money than I do?

SkookumTree · 2019-12-09T16:55:22+00:00

Are there children involved? I might stay with her till the kids were grown. I definitely would do that if there was a medical reason she couldn’t have sex. If she stopped wanting sex altogether and we hadn’t had children I might or might not divorce her.

adool666 · 2019-12-09T19:18:27+00:00

2 weeks

couldbemage · 2019-12-10T07:27:25+00:00

I'd keep a good partner regardless. But I don't do monogamy, so I'd still be having sex.

I had this going on a year or so back, the most girlfriendy partner I had wasn't fucking me, the least girlfriendy was. Weird, but each girl filled some needs.

Barely-moral · 2019-12-09T17:31:32+00:00

I am not married but lets say for the sake of argument that miss moral says that to me. She gave me 7+ years of a nice and stable relationship, she has that on her favor. On the other hand, she is breaking our deal.

She would have 1 year. In that year we will find a solution or the relationship is over.

762Rifleman · 2019-12-09T23:25:19+00:00

Well, if I first were to get married, and secondly monogamous, not very long. A year of bad or minimal sex and I'd be making a serious ultimatum to either improve it or I'm out. If we get along in everything but the sex, I would ask if it would be alright for me to pursue other partners for physical needs. If she said no to that to trap me in a marriage with no sex life, there's really nothing to be done but leave. I need sex and I'm not going without.

wekacuck · 2019-12-09T16:30:53+00:00

What do you mean "by her choice"? The "why?" is important here.

churnthrowaway123456 · 2019-12-09T16:43:44+00:00

If I'm under 40, I'm out immediately. If I'm older (50+), I'll stick it out and just sleep around.

DisastrousMeaning1 · 2019-12-09T16:53:47+00:00

Not married and don't have a GF now. But if I did, I would break up with her right away.

I had a GF that did this, more or less implicitly. I broke up with her.

Godot96 · 2019-12-09T17:12:51+00:00

"Until death do us appart"

But just to flex, the 2k$ I would have spent on her, I'm gonna spend on one of these, which would also include clothing, wheelchair etc.

And if it goes further, I'll cut further and further untill my needs are met again

Title	Q4M: How long would you stay with your wife/if if all of the sudden by her choice she refused to have sex with you?
Author	singlemommakecrime8
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Comments	60
Date	December 9, 2019 4:17 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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