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Walked Out On Her!

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TBronze
December 11, 2019
90 upvotes
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Met with a former work colleague and later went back with her to her room. She had been giving me all the IoIs however when we got to the room she went cold, started to reject my advances and distanced herself a bit. When ever I'd get close she'd get up and move away then eventually going to have a shower.

At this stage I got bored of the games and left. I got back to my room put my phone on charge as it was dead and went to sleep only to wake up this morning with messages from her to go back to her room, that it was unlocked, excuses that she was hoping I'd get in the shower with her and etc.

Have I done the right thing to walk out? Or have I failed this massive shit test thrown my way?

Update: Just because I'm getting a lot of replies to the post. Ran into her later on in the afternoon because dumb ass me locked there key in their room. Ran into her on the way back with a spare set and before you know it was balls deep into her. So I guess I got the answer to my own question.


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Title Walked Out On Her!
Author TBronze
Upvotes 90
Comments 58
Date 11 December 2019 01:39 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/298749
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/e908wp/walked_out_on_her/
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[–]ceilingsky95153 points154 points  (9 children) | Copy

You showed abundance by leaving, you showed strength by not being desperate and you earned my respect for not being emotional about it.

If you can do this, you can fuck an "easier" chick. Go get them.

[–][deleted]  (8 children) | Copy

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[–]serynada22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy

no. this is red pill to a T. it’s about frame. OP made an effort. she decided to play too many games. he did his part. her job was to get fucked. when you have options you don’t have time for extended teasing. OP demonstrated his abundance and the chick realized he deserved the pussy.

i really don’t see what’s not red pill about this unless you’re autistic and think every similar situation requires the exact same response.

[–]2redhawkes38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy

It depends on the contex. It's not 1/0.

[–]athrowaway-900121 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Advice varies from person to person. TRP serves as a guideline that you can apply to your own life. Doesn't necessarily mean that we will all have the same opinions on different things.

[–]legend5035 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. Depends on what it is. This is a clearly going over the lines of the flirting game. She thinks she has all the power on him. And him pursuing that could easily have led to a me too thing.. Small resistance yes. She left him. Her games are not good

[–]oooKenshiooo5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a great example for the exception from the rule. In any other case I would have advised for pushing against lmr, but hers was crazy strong. Leaving flipped the script.

I did a similar thing on a date once. worked like a charm.

[–]BajaGhia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uh, isnt that what he did?

[–]ceilingsky950 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Women who play games can also play victim. We do not want OP to get a lawsuit.

[–]smirk_addict48 points49 points  (1 child) | Copy

She only did that because you flipped the power dynamic by leaving. She was teasing you because she didn’t know what she wanted until you left. I guarantee if you stayed in that room and tried to follow her into the shower she would’ve gave you shit. You should’ve been well beyond this BS by the time you guys got back to her room. She took the whole thing for granted and changed her tune when you ejected. I think you made the right call. I’m annoyed just from reading that. I wouldn’t even respond to the text.

[–]smartfunction3014 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

She only did that because you flipped the power dynamic by leaving. She was teasing you because she didn’t know what she wanted until you left. I guarantee if you stayed in that room and tried to follow her into the shower she would’ve gave you shit.

Correct.

[–]66pisstrooperorder6625 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

You handled it well bro

[–]orishasinc245 points46 points  (3 children) | Copy

Stop dealing with that little child of a woman. She was obviously unsure of what she wanted and the whole thing could have led to a hard knock on your door and handcuffs. If a woman is playing game, you fucking walk away! This is 2019, you either know what you want or I am done. You had obviously shown to that clown what you were all about, she did not perceive you as attractive as she might have for someone else. Let her go. A woman should 'jump' at the opportunity of sucking your dick the same way an hyena runs after a meaty carcass. If she hesitate, you hesitate too. It ain't worth it.

Good move by you not to push it.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I tend to agree with this. in this era you have to handle last minute resistance with kid gloves. which means walking away sooner than probably necessary.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hyena on a carcass. Lmao perfect!

[–]Sweetdreams18-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This, OP, start sucking dicks instead like orishasinc2 does

[–]athrowaway-900113 points14 points  (8 children) | Copy

You held your convictions and held frame. A lot better than most people can admit.

One thing you could've done is try to act uninterested in her and let her work for your attention back instead of full out leaving.

[–]TBronze[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

That being said the entire night I was aware that her and a couple of other female work colleagues were orbitting and following me around the venue, they never spoke to me but were always near.

I stick by the age old rule of you don't shit where you eat so I dont pay a lot of attention to my female counter-parts at work. For context purposes this female in particular left the company about 6 months ago and came as a plus one.

I made a comment to her as I was leaving the pisser and she folded easier than a camp chair. I've only started applying TRP principles in the last month and I wanted to see what SHE would do and everything else was just a bonus to that.

[–]boredathome193 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

I tried that once, but after getting rejected to go further than sucking her tits me pulling out my phone and being indifferent to her presence just seemed like I was butthurt. How do you not give off a butthurt vibe with that?

[–]athrowaway-90012 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Abundance mentality

[–]boredathome191 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I wasn't butthurt, but she still thought so, that's my point. But pulling back, going through my phone and not really giving her any attention just after she resisted getting fucked seems like a general butthurt reaction in general.

"You don't fuck me, so I don't care about you any more!"

[–]athrowaway-90010 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'm not saying that you are butt hurt. The problem is that she perceives you as butt hurt.

If she knows you are high value and knows that you have better things to do or other lays, it will not come across like that.

[–]boredathome190 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This girl kept repeating how I must do this every weekend with a new girl. My game was on point, I fucked up the lmr tho

[–]athrowaway-90010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well looks like in the end you smashed so good on you, but yes just some improvement to get past LMR.

[–]MisfitPL929 points30 points  (3 children) | Copy

You didnt push past her LMR

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

^ This. But still recoverable.

[–]GeuseyBetel6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I thought LMR was more along the lines of making out naked when she pulls back.

This feels more shit testy. LMR is not a shit test.

[–]mrbill12346 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

In the meetoo era, any form of rejection pretty much means 'no'. You did the right thing by walking away. You could have just as well been another statistic. Be sure to save all the messages she sent you.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

and before you know it was balls deep into her

NICE.

Lesson learned: at some point you have to pull away to put a stop to the bullshit.

[–]naroadi5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Too much work and she clearly wasn't that hot to deserve it. I feel like you taught her a lesson, dont play hard to get bullshit games. You could've pushed more and actually fuck her but was she really worth the effort?

[–]TigerXtrm5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

she was hoping I'd get in the shower with her

Following her to the shower in that situation is like sexual Russian roulette, except with all but one chamber loaded.

[–]psychotropy6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

My man lol

[–]smirk_addict4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

I just read your update. I really think this all worked in your favor because you were man enough to walk out the first time. She now sees you as high value because you didn’t just jump through her hoops or play into her frame. Sort of reminds me of those girls that don’t want you until they see you can get other girls.

I’m curious though. Did she apologize, hamster some BS, or just pretend it didn’t happen and simply invited you back?

[–]TBronze[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

She asked why I bailed and I told her I got bored and went to bed. Went on about how she was upset I had left and she walked around trying to find my room, even calling my best work mate asking what my room was. I just turned around and replied with "Well if you come with me I can make it up to you." and she did as I told.

[–]theeverydayhustle2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well played

[–]PhaedrusHunt4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Another way of defining frame is saying it's sort of like who's game you're playing at the time.

She was trying to assert that if the game is going to be played it would be played her way..

He walked, showing her that he'd rather not play at all than to play in her game. basically exactly what she was doing to him except whenever he did it to her he was serious.

This is a great example on maintenance of frame

[–]smartfunction305 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing here was ASD. She wasn't into you. Following her into the shower would have been an erroneous move.

But your honor, I thought she wanted me to get in the shower with her, I thought it was ASD!

Beside that, everything here sounds like game playing. Leaving was how you should have proceeded, and you did. Her reason for wanting you was because you left.

[–]30dirtyfingers2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good shit. Thanx for the great example.

[–]strongsovereign2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If I were in your position, I would have done the same move.

If she was merely teasing out of seeking validation, you have counteracted that situation in the most optimal way as possible from my experience.

You know what to do when her behaviour becomes intolerable and furthermore ingenuine, the medium is the message. Walk away. Done.

[–]unnatural_by_nature8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

She was totally baiting you into the shower, dude.

No stress, though. This shit can be hard to pick up on if you don’t know what to look for and it can be reeeeeally risky. Some chicks just like to get you worked up so you can “take it”.

Others are fucking crazy: they will bait you and then flip on the victim switch afterwards when they wake up feeling like a regretful slut.

I’m not saying to never take the bait. It’s a blast when it’s done properly. What I AM saying is never take the bait during the first encounter. The juice is not worth the squeeze.

[–]clickherebaby5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

No she fucking wasnt man. You don't go from -5 to 100. PSA: stop talking out of your ass.

You would know the second, the nanosecond you walked into that room. Youre alone with her shes giving you nothing but resistance. "Oh follow her into the shower, the rest will just happen." Ffs. Morons. "Its a blast!" Give me a damn break

[–]clickherebaby1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sign youre reading a virgin teenagers comment: they say "its a blast "

[–]YouWannaPutMoneyOnIt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is hilarious

[–]casemodz1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not sure if this is related - it sounds like it might be.

Anyways, I met this girl on tinder and changed her brake pads and she gave me $20... and I bought some liquor with that. We are in my room and start to kiss a bit. It gets to the point where she says she has to go, etc. I decided to be alpha and picked her up by her arm pits threw her on my bed and fucked her. Normally I would "respect" a woman's decision but I decided to change and be a "douche" and it worked. I think some girls like to be manhandled, told what to do, forced, dominated. I felt a little bad when I did this with my ex once. She was doing exactly what you described. So I said fuck it and just told her what to do. You just need to stop if they really dont like it... (Crying, genuine scared look, mad, etc)

Women are so used to nice guys that they want a guy who takes what he wants. Many women are submissive and don't be fooled by an innocent judgment. Odds are she's a closet freak.

[–]Pushyamitra444-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

That’s rape, you need to go to prison

[–]casemodz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Incorrect. Rape is when they tell you to stop but you keep going. Being a little dominant is a huge turn-on for many women.

[–]praguetologist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Atta boy

[–]prince0verit3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't shit where you eat

[–]TBronze[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there, done that....learnt from my mistakes.

That being said this was a former work colleague.

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[–]Backthatpassup4511 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why would he do that when she’s been resisting him the whole night?

[–]Sweetdreams18-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

She‘s going to fuck somebody else and make it sure that you know it, and you are going to feel big big burn feels

[–]TBronze[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she fucks someone else then so be it. As its regularly said around here "She's not yours, it's just your turn."

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your pride got in the way of you getting laid when you couldn't get past her anti slut defense. I draw that up as a loss.



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