For women who are confident and sexual enough for sex on the first/second date... If you wound up in a situationship, how long would it be before you nexted him?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-12-13T18:56:25+00:00

This never happened to me. If I slept with somebody repeatedly it always became a boyfriend girlfriend situation after several weeks at the most. Usually what would happen would be a one night stand that lead to a very intense love affair involving seeing each other as often as possible and being crazy about each other and turning into an LTR

FlavFal · 2019-12-13T19:05:20+00:00

Wtf is a "situationship"?

pngmafia97 · 2019-12-13T19:17:31+00:00

Most women who decide to have sex early don’t perceive a man who only wants casual or doesn’t develop feelings as a problem. Even if she does develop feelings she will deal with them appropriately and not perceive it as a “situationship” because she was aware of the circumstances going into it.

PlainSlim · 2019-12-13T19:51:32+00:00

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2019-12-13T20:32:38+00:00

idk probably like a month or two? i can't recall if its ever played out like that (like a messy situation where there was intentional ambiguity). it honestly could have easily gone that way with my current boy since i hopped on that dick expecting ZERO interest for more on my part then fell for him retardedly within two weeks. if it wasn't mutual idk what i would have done lol probably still let him fuck on me tbh

fancy_leftovers · 2019-12-13T19:06:18+00:00

I would push the matter with the guy. I've pushed for a relationship from a FWB, and it didnt work out, and after about 4 months I explained that if I cant have more than the benefits are off. The friendship died with it sadly.

My current relationship, going on 6 years now, started out as a FWB situation and I just kept dropping hints like "you're going to want to say you love me at some point" and silly stuff like that and after about 3 months they asked to be official. I would have waited for him for probably much longer because the friendship was amazing.

Physiologist21 · 2019-12-13T19:40:56+00:00

It took me awhile and it wasn’t fun! I gave him plenty of outs and he kept saying “no, I really like you I’m just busy”. Yeah, I was stupid

_nephila · 2019-12-14T18:41:26+00:00

The only time I've had this happen was when I caught feels for a casual partner. It was unexpected and i gave it six weeks, I think.

I cried for a couple hours, mostly from embarrassment because I felt had, then moved on without looking back. To be fair, it was easy with that person because I honestly didn't find him attractive. He caught me at a low point. C'est la vie.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-12-13T19:33:49+00:00

I am incapable of any type of commitment & sex isn't emotional for me so I never find myself in these dilemmas

SunflowerBurst · 2019-12-13T20:07:58+00:00

I’ve never been in that situation but if I were I would next him. It isn’t that hard to lose a guy’s number. It helps that I’m the kind of person who is turned off if a guy isn’t into me. And if he changed his mind in the infamous words of the Beatles, “You know my name, look up the number”

Orange_Paisley · 2019-12-13T21:08:49+00:00

For our first date Mr. Paisley and I took a walk in a city park. A few days later he took me on a real dinner date and we consummated our new friendship before we even made it to the restaurant. We’ve been together 7 years.

findingfemininity · 2019-12-14T00:41:09+00:00

Never happened to me either.

When I bang a man and there's mutual romantic interest we end up in a relationship.

If the interest is one sided I next him.

If there is no interest from either side but we like the sex and each other's company it ends up with a short term FWB situation.

Women who end up in "situationships" aren't suited for casual sex. If you're going to have sex quickly you also need strong boundaries and the assertiveness to next men who aren't giving you what you want. People like your friend are better suited to following FDS "wait for commitment" rules.

Bright_Itempas · 2019-12-13T19:10:44+00:00

I wouldn't end up in a situationship. I'd have continued dating/meeting people the whole time. I'd drop the person the moment they stopped meeting the needs I wanted them to meet.

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Bone_Coat · 2019-12-13T20:29:07+00:00

women are confident and sexual only for the right guy (chad), just my opinion.

there is no girl giving sex from left to right to every guy she likes.

toniliene · 2019-12-13T21:56:39+00:00

Literally whenever you feel like. Take ownership of your feelings. Why do you have a schedule for when to send texts.

goatismycopilot · 2019-12-13T19:12:32+00:00

Nah I am not dumb to end up in a scenario like your friend.

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