Women like men who like women.

So many men have shitty, sexist attitudes toward women, even today. Most women are VERY good at picking up on this. That's why a guy who genuinely likes and respects women, and treats us as equals, does not need to lift weights, act cocky, obsess over his appearance, learn pickup techniques, etc. etc. Women will be attracted to him like moths to a light.

This vibe is invisible to men. When they encounter a guy like this, they always wonder 'why does this ordinary dude do so well with women?'

Now, redpill guys WANT women -- very badly. But most of them don't like women very much. Many are on the spectrum, and don't do well with people in general. Some have had terrible relationship experiences and they don't have the resilience to bounce back. Others are teenage boys scared of girls. But in addition to all this, and/or instead of this, a great many redpillers simply don't like women. And everything they're taught on that site makes it worse.

So....they work on the superficial stuff, the things that most women care way less about. They think like men: It becomes all about the six pack abs, and the game playing, and putting in huge effort night after night to find those women insecure and broken enough to fall for their games. They tell themselves that's the best any man can do, and that's all there is. While chubby, balding guys who can't lift 50 lbs always seem to be in great relationships and aren't terrified of being cheated on.

How you fix this I don't know. Probably years of therapy. One thing is for sure you can't pretend to like women. It has to be real to work.