Are you busy? What is reading this post distracting you from right now?
Is this just another pit stop on the internet for you? Are you just endlessly surfing the internet and playing video games?
I remember the days when I wasn't busy: desperately trying to suck up to an ex to win her back, flailing in the wind to keep women's attention, swiping desperately on the apps. I would come home, stuff my face with food, sit in front of the TV, surf the internet for hours on end, take a shit, ogle women on social media, try to think of the perfect comment to leave on their post, try to figure out the perfect text message to send that one woman whose number I felt so lucky to get, jerk off, go to bed, work, rinse, wash repeat.
Then I got busy. I have a clear vision in my head of the version of myself I want to become and the life I want to live. It's given me a series of ever branching goals that I chase and build upon. As far as I can see it's going to be never ending and it excites me more than anything else out there.
Now I don't have time to figure out what women are thinking, their intentions, who they are with or what they posted online. I don't have time to send you a "Good morning beautiful" text, 10 other guys already gave you your validation for the day on my behalf. I don't have time to text you back just because you texted me. I'm busy working on something and I won't be distracted.
I don't have time for long elaborate dates. The most I have time for is 1.5 drinks, some light snacks at the bar and a short romantic walk back to my place.
I know what I want and if you:
Don't know what you want? Go home, I'm busy.
Having second thoughts? Go home, I'm busy.
Just want to be friends? Not into you like that. Go home, I'm busy.
Want a pen pal? No time to engage in that. I'm busy.
I stopped having to chase women. They hit me up now to ask for few hours of my time.
Why does it work? Others can weigh in but here is my take:
Supply and demand: Demonstrate that time spent with you is valuable, then by being naturally busy demand will go up.
Busy men get shit done: Busy men working towards something tend to have life made. The busy men bring home food for the tribe, win wars, conquer the world. Busy men win. Who doesn't want to be with a winner?
So I'll ask again: Are you busy?