So I witnessed a girl sit on a guys lap for about 10 minutes while her boyfriend of 5 years sat directly across from them. Can someone please put this in context for me.

TheReformist94 · 2016-12-30T05:47:34+00:00

It's called a shit test. Directed at the boyfriend.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-12-30T06:55:06+00:00

This just in: Attention whore likes attention. Film at 11.

cobalt1728 · 2016-12-30T11:26:30+00:00

What would be the best way to handle this??

ingenjor · 2016-12-30T10:42:10+00:00

I saw my friend's girlfriend do this with her guy friend. Although it was even worse, she was kinda sitting on his lap on a couch at the bar and leaning into him with her head on his chest all cuddle-like. I thought it seemed quite awkward but my friend didn't seem to mind.

Now my friend is married to this girl, expecting a kid and seems like the relationship is going well by all accounts (sex-wise too). I don't know what to think. Shrug.

onmyownpath · 2016-12-30T17:52:52+00:00

As the man in the chair, I would have immediately established the boyfriend as a beta in one of two ways depending on my mood:

"Hey man get your bitch off my lap" with an insulting tone.
Reach up and put hands around her waist, hands in crotch, on legs, stomach, and ass. If you are going to violate my space, I am going to assume you are open for touching. Also shift in my chair to put my dick exactly in the right spot while looking at bitch boyfriend. It would be fun to see how far I could push it. She either gets up, or its getting sexual.

I might actually do both options at the same time. Fuck that guy. And fuck her too.

RPFlame · 2016-12-30T12:07:19+00:00

I once saw a girl on Facebook posting a pic of her sitting on the lap of someone else - other than her boyfriend. As a bluepiller I promptly reminded her that this behavior is silly because she's an adult and she has a boyfriend.

Guess what happened. She never talked to me again.

This is the shit you gotta put up with when you deal with women. Calling them outright indecent or suggesting they act indecently makes you look like you're harassing her. She feels uncomfortable when you point the truth out.

blackedoutfast · 2016-12-30T18:53:51+00:00

forget about the boyfriend, he is just some tool. i want to focus on the other guy in this situation. i feel like he is more relevant to the guys reading TRP because this can be a very common situation to find yourself in when you are following the sidebar. and it is possible to use it for your own personal gain.

just to be clear, the other guy shouldn't see this as a real IOI. he is merely a prop for the jealousy shit test the girl is throwing at her boyfriend. it's a mock IOI. girls in this situation will flirt hard, but it's just for show. she is really saying to her boyfriend "you're doing something i don't like and i want you to know that i could easily leave you and start fucking someone new if you don't get your shit together"

when a girl tries to use you as a jealousy prop (and you understand what is going on), it can feel annoying and disrespectful, but you can also use it to your advantage. the boyfriend will see her very obvious IOIs, but so will anyone else in the room. this dumb jealousy game can give you very strong preselection and social proof if you play it right.

you have a girl blatantly flirting with you and she wants other people to see it, that's very valuable. you know her IOIs aren't real, so it's easy to get into a very alpha mindset. reframe the scene from a jealousy game to you having such high smv that this girl can't resist flirting with you even though her boyfriend is sitting right there. assume attraction really hard. for the next few minutes you can look like Chad Thundercock trying to shut down yet another dumb chick who wants your dick. other girls will see this little scene taking place and think you really are CT.

if you ever are in a situation where a "taken" girl wants to cheat on her boyfriend/husband with you (but doesn't want to let go of the branch yet) , it is completely different. she will be flirty and give IOIs when her bf/husband is NOT around. if her husband is nearby, she will be neutral/cold to you and may give excessive IODs. minimal conversation, no eye contact, almost pretending you aren't there. she is actuvely trying to suppress her natural instinct to show interest in you and will overdo it.

angryguy4444 · 2016-12-30T11:25:18+00:00

Nothing to understand intellectually, listen to your gut feeling.

It tells you this girl is a bitch, disrespecting you...and it tells you a lot of other things.

You simply follow your gut feeling and mentally dump her right away. IDGAF anymore.

The__Tren__Train · 2016-12-30T06:01:15+00:00

maybe he was trying to hold frame and silently demoted her to plate

maybe she was a plate all along and he doesn't really give a shit.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-12-30T07:03:39+00:00

I'm no Chad but I've had this sort of thing happen too. She wanted to hold hands, rest her head on my shoulders, groped my thigh, told me how good I smelled etc - all a few meters away from her boyfriend. I don't think he even noticed. I figured she was just bored in their relationship. They just bought a house together and are thinking about getting married. Go figure :)

seeing_it_in_red · 2016-12-30T07:12:57+00:00

Likely a few ways to handle it. Personally, if she is going to act single. Then mirror her actions and he should of done the same himself. Make passes at every woman he finds attractive.

Another option is just to pull her up. But you need to be careful doing that as the risk of coming off needy or weak.

My final suggestion would be to use embarrasement with agree and amp. Give very detailed responses on things she likes to do on mens laps etc. Turn her red in the face.

meh613 · 2016-12-30T11:37:22+00:00

Lol, she's always like this when she's had a few drinks lol

... also when she's sobre. Gents, women are playthings, get used to it, don't get jealous. Accept them for who they are.

[deleted] · 2016-12-31T00:36:14+00:00

That was a shit test and she got her answer: her boyfriend is a weak cuck and she will cheat on him and it will be his fault.

PantsonFire1234 · 2017-01-03T01:46:49+00:00

Women nowadays have very little consequences for their cunt actions. There are no stonings, beatings, burnings, drownings, social exilings going around. This used to be the way a man could control his wife. And many more, all of them being removed by our current social climate.

This leaves the man with only one options, walking away and never investing to much in a woman. Hence women get what they sow. Women can pull anything they want, they can lie about everything, play multiple men on their phones, cuck their boyfriends. You will never know.

The guy is confused because in a normal dynamic between man and women he wouldn't be trampled on like that. She'd either be with him or not with him. Now he's just in beta hell. The girl mentally scarring him for life, very nice.

Wardenclyffe56 · 2016-12-30T15:19:19+00:00

That's... that's just too sad.

AWALT

stephcurrythrowaway · 2016-12-30T09:29:42+00:00

What if he's fucking other girls on the side lol

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