Men that beg women for a blowjob and then lose respect for the woman after she gives him one

UnstrirringCoffee · 2020-12-31T11:22:32+00:00

If men lose respect after certain sex acts, then they never had that respect to begin with. They just faked it to get what they wanted.

Saitschik · 2020-12-31T09:46:43+00:00

Don't be afraid of men losing respect. Most of them have an unhealthy sexuality, an unhealthy and twisted view on women and not much else going on for them.

The rule is to only do what you really want. If it turns you on do it, if not then not. No begging.

If a guy loses respect he and his pornsick limp dick can hit the road. You should not be afraid but laugh about these prudish and stuck-up scrotes. Men hate being laughed about, it's a very powerful sign of YOU losing respect.

understatedalways · 2020-12-31T12:52:02+00:00

I’ve learned to never have sex or do anything sexual with a man if he is begging or whining and I do not want to do it.

GoldandGlowing · 2020-12-31T12:36:41+00:00

My unironic hot take: Men don’t actually deserve to get their dicks sucked. I honestly don’t even think a HVM deserves it unless he truly went above and beyond, not just the bare minimum high value stuff. The idea that blowjobs should be a default form of foreplay and women should believe that and act accordingly is just the dumbest shit ever because most (if not all) women know that that sex act is inherently degrading... and the men know this too. Like “suck my dick, bro” is an insult for a reason! It’s gross. At the very least, receiving oral sex has a mutually beneficial result without the stigma attached or a man losing respect for a woman for participating. Blowjobs just aren’t really it imo.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2020-12-31T13:19:14+00:00

Begging is a gigantic red flag. You gotta arm yourself with the tools to shut down.

I don't know why you would continue a conversation with a guy who started begging but if you do, just say this, "either change the topic or I will never speak to you again". And the follow through on that threat.

kalina95 · 2020-12-31T13:32:46+00:00

Yeah. Seen this and I find it quite astounding. The other day me and my sis were arguing about how a lot of men ask women to perform derogatory sex acts, simply because they see it as a sign of establishing dominance. I should've made the argument that when women ask for non-vanilla sex acts (e.g. pegging), we usually do it due to our own/our partner's preference, not because we want to establish some weird sexual/real life parallel on dominance.

This argument also holds for your point. Most women don't lose repsect for a man when a sexual act that is not common for a given gender, is performed by that gender.

Further to this, A redditor once commented that he wanted to break off with his "girlfriend" since she was asking him to go down on her, when initially the understanding was that this would be a deal breaker in their relationship. She gave him an ultimatum that if he didn't go down on her, she wouldn't give him a blowjob.

Previously, she would give him blowjobs and he would not go down on her. The girl was unfortunately way too in love with this guy but somehow woke up and realized she'd like reciprocation on the oral sex part. I think he mentioned something like her friends told her.

Get this - when asked why he doesn't go down on her, he said "I don't do it because I tried it once, and it was really smelly/sour. Also, that's the place where my dick goes in, and I won't lick the hole I fuck"

Maybe he doesn't kiss her, considering that last sentence. Fucking clown.

The cherry on the pie? He was angry at her friends for giving her "ideas", thereby causing complications. 🤡

pinkcloudzzz · 2020-12-31T10:58:14+00:00

Men who do this had a very superficial, fragile respect for you and any woman before the act happened. They view women as sex objects. I just don’t do this outside of a relationship and it weeds out those losers. It also protects you from getting an STI.

Davina33 · 2020-12-31T12:54:17+00:00

Fuck them, actually don't. I don't fancy getting throat cancer or something. I don't do blow jobs, full stop. The thing about most men is, it's their goal to use us for sex. Another thing I am a small woman with a small mouth, so I have to see endodontist for a root canal. I physically cannot give a bj.

Don't let them do it, there is nothing in it for women when it comes to casual sex anyway. They think they are studs for having sex with as many women as possible but if you give it up too quickly? You are a slut and not girlfriend/wife material. Also never underestimate the lengths they'll go to to convince you either. Sure there are men who will marry you or have a relationship with you irrespective of this but they are outliers. Some women like having casual sex but it's a no from me. Sex is for a man I love and am in a long term relationship with. He won't get it until I'm sure he isn't a fuckboi.

Papaverinum · 2020-12-31T10:56:57+00:00

Look at this:

The madonna/whore complex in men

goatismycopilot · 2020-12-31T12:38:31+00:00

Those sort of men never respected women to begin with.

keep_my_stuff · 2020-12-31T13:29:53+00:00

Yes, happened to me. He was whining a lot. After I did it, he started pointing out ways to improve my technique or just mentioning it all the time. Like we would be watching a film where it was implied that two gay guys were doing that and he was like 'here, be like this guy!'.

So in hindsight the fact that I did it emboldened him to push me more, instead of being happy he got the thing he was whining about. After the movie I told him it is gross and I will never do it again and he dumped me. I have never done this since, even when I was in an LTR. My LTR was, big surprise, pushing for anal which he never got 😈. I just can't with all these pornsick losers.

MonicaLSolis · 2020-12-31T18:52:46+00:00

The Madonna/whore complex. Men see women in two categories

The Madonna:

*never initiates sex *never enjoys sex and only has it for the purpose of procreation *never masturbates *is sexually pure and only is intimate with her husband in the missionary position

The whore is self-explanatory. On one hand, they want their wife to give them anal sex, blowjobs, etc. But the second she obliges, he loses respect for her and is now tainted in his eyes.

Never date a man who has warped view of sex

NottodayScrote · 2020-12-31T12:00:15+00:00

These dudes have issues with self hatred. They are probably the same ones who will call any woman who has sex with them a slut or hoe. She could be a virgin for all they know. Its not that she slept around but that she slept with him. He views himself with such disgust that anybody who would be with him that way must be just as bad in his mind.

Then of course there's the religious nut that perceives any sexual act out side of missionary piv to be a sin.

2020-12-31T12:35:15+00:00

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meanemad · 2020-12-31T19:11:45+00:00

who cares about the opinion of those idiots🤯😂 if you dont like bj, dont do them, never do anything with a begging-coercitive scrote, he doesnt respect boundaries. anyway you live, you learn. dont mortify you more with the subject, you know better now. just take care about your life and more interesant things that you have for you❤❤❤❤❤

Title	Men that beg women for a blowjob and then lose respect for the woman after she gives him one
Author	miss_peach94
Upvotes	231
Comments	31
Date	December 31, 2020 9:32 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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