The Five Triggers for Sexual Attraction

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March 15, 2017

How often do you hear women tell you the following?

“I haven’t felt butterflies like that in years.”

“We shouldn’t be left in a room alone together.”

“Wow, how do you do that to me?”

Master the triggers for sexual attraction outlined in this article, and beautiful women you’ve just met will make the above statements regularly.

There are five elements to creating an irresistible sexual attraction: 1. Intent 2. Tension 3. Eye Contact 4. Mystery 5. Sexual conversation. Fortunately, there are simple, practical tricks you can learn that will allow you to master each of these elements with ease.


Intent can be such a murky concept. Although it might seem like you’ll have to fine-tune your chakras or meditate in a cave to master intent, it’s actually a concept grounded in human psychology. Put simply, intent is your expectation of what is going to happen in an interaction with a woman.

Intent is mostly expressed in feelings. Humans evolved mirror neurons that allow us to feel what people we interact with are feeling. This allowed people to avoid dangerous situations, if someone had a bad intent, they could feel that something was off, and so they would exercise caution in that interaction. Similarly, if you are nervous, a woman will be able to feel that, and she will assume that you must be nervous for a reason, your intent will make her lose interest in you. Conversely, if you feel confidently attracted to her, she’s much more likely to feel the same for you.

So, if you expect a girl to like you, she’s more likely to become attracted to you. How do you learn to project a strong intent? No, you don’t need to align your chakras or meditate in a cave. You can build your intent through a technique that psychologists use to treat anxiety, conscious reinterpretation.

Harvard scientists ran a study in which they caused participants to feel socially anxious by making them give a speech in front of an audience. The first group wasn’t given any special instructions, and unsurprisingly their levels of social anxiety were high and their performances suffered as a result. The second group was given a very simple exercise to practice. Whenever they felt nervous, they were to tell themselves, “I feel excited.” They were instructed to reinterpret anxiety as excitement. The audience scored the second group as performing significantly better, and participants in the second group also self-reported feeling more calm and confident.

How do you use this to change your intent? If you are nervous talking to a girl, you can do exactly what participants in the study were instructed to do, tell yourself, “I am excited.” Over time, as you practice this, your anxiety will turn into excitement, and she will feel this excitement off of you, and therefore feel more positively towards you.

But you can take this even further, when a girl makes you feel anxious, you could interpret that as nerves, but you could also interpret that as sexual attraction. In fact, the feelings people feel when they are nervous and when they are attracted to someone are almost identical: butterflies in the stomach, fast heartbeat, and even sweaty palms. If you feel that these symptoms are a bad thing, they will make you feel uncomfortable, if you feel that they are your body’s way of telling you that you should talk to someone, they will be positive. When you see a girl you like, and you feel the symptoms of attraction, tell yourself, “Damn, she’s attractive, I need to talk to her.”

One of the largest psychology studies of all time found that the most powerful trigger for attraction is the feeling of being genuinely liked by someone else. When you learn to accurately reinterpret anxiety towards a girl as attraction for her, you will allow yourself to feel more attracted to her, and as a result, she will feel more attracted to you. This is the power of a strong intent.

                           Sexual Tension 

Negs, pushes, emotional spikes, are all techniques used to build sexual tension. Unfortunately, they are also the most misused techniques in the pickup community. I’ve floundered with these techniques many times myself, I would walk up to a girl I thought was particularly attractive, and I would start berating her with negs. I was overtly teasing her to raise my ‘perceived value’, and to make her feel a lack of validation. Suffice it to say, this didn’t build attraction, it just led to uncomfortable, and short, interactions.

Why? For any teasing technique to work, there’s an important nuance that must be understood. Before you tease, you and a woman must be in rapport for it to have a positive effect. If you and her aren’t on the same wavelength, aren’t vibing, than these techniques are meaningless.

However, if a girl is connecting with you, and then you strip her of validation, it will build a powerful sexual tension. To get her validation back, she will start to chase you. There are many lines you can use to make a girl chase you, for example, if she says she’s from California, you can say, “I hate California.” If you were already in rapport with her, this will feel invalidating, it will make her wonder if you really like her. This creates a psychological vacuum effect, to ease her discomfort, she will start to chase you and earn your validation back.

There are numerous effective techniques, the key is to only use these techniques after you’ve already built rapport with a girl. The power of this simple strategy will shock you.

                             Eye Contact 

Eye contact can trigger attraction on its own. Famed evolutionary psychologist David Buss writes in his book, Why Women Have Sex, “In one study, forty-eight women and men came to a lab and were asked to stare into each other’s eyes while talking. The effect of mutual gaze proved powerful. Many reported that deep eye contact with an opposite-sex stranger created feelings of intense love. Another study had strangers first reveal intimate details of their lives to each other for half an hour, and then asked them to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes— without breaking eye contact or making any conversation. Participants again reported deep attraction to their study partners. Two of these total strangers even ended up getting married!”

Eye contact is powerful, but how do you improve it? Whenever you are in a location with women, improve your eye contact with this simple game. Whenever you see a woman, look at her eyes, if she doesn’t look at you, avert your gaze after 3 seconds, if she does look at you, hold eye contact until she looks away from you.

Over time, this simple technique will lead you to make powerful eye contact effortlessly in all of your interactions with women. Your ability to create attraction will be significantly magnified.


Like intent, mystery can be a vague, hard-to-understand concept. In high school I learned that it was attractive to be mysterious, and I heard that to be mysterious meant not to talk much. So, to become mysterious, I just didn’t talk to girls. Maybe this did cause me to create an aura of mystery, but I was missing the point.

To be mysterious, you simply have to make a woman curious about you, you have to leave her with unanswered questions. Mystery is attractive because it shows that you have depth, and women get bored of the constant barrage of uninteresting, simple, guys that try to get in their pants. Show that you are different, offer her some mystery, and you will trigger attraction.

How can you do this without learning complicated routines? Say one line that she won’t be able to get out of her head. Tell her something she doesn’t usually hear, something provocative, something that will make her wonder about you.

My personal favorite line to accomplish this?

“I bet you don’t meet a guy like me every day.”

This line has an insidious effect. It proves itself true, very few men would say something so cocky, and simply saying this line proves that you are different from other guys, because other guys don’t talk like that.

This line creates mystery, because she will wonder exactly what it is that makes you different? She will want to know why you would say something like that, she will want to know why you have so much self-confidence. She’s going to want to solve this mystery, and the only way to do so, is to spend more time with you.

                       Sexual Conversation 

What happens when you think about sex? Assuming you don’t have some kind of dysfunction, you get aroused. If you talk about sex, you will make a woman more attracted to you because of a strange phenomenon called the misattribution of arousal. In the famous bridge study, participants crossed a nerve-wracking swaying bridge with a 230 foot drop to the river below. On the other side, they were approached by an attractive female lab assistant and given a short survey. Afterwards, she gave them her phone number so they could call if they had any further questions. Half of the participants called the lab assistant after crossing the rickety bridge, and several even asked her on a date.

This is in contrast to the participants who crossed a safer, more stable bridge, none of whom asked the assistant on a date.

This is because, like I mentioned earlier, the symptoms of anxiety and attraction are very similar. Participants who crossed a dangerous, rickety bridge were brought into a state of heightened emotional arousal. They were still in this state when talking to the attractive lab assistant, and afterwards they decided to ask her on a date because they thought their anxiety from crossing the bridge was attraction to the lab assistant.

Similarly, if you bring sexuality into a conversation, it won’t make a woman attracted to you directly, but thinking about sex will turn her on, and she will naturally associate her feelings of sexual arousal with the person she is interacting with, you.

How can you bring sex into a conversation without it being uncomfortable or awkward? Play the question game. The rules are simple, you each ask questions of each other, the more personal the better. Questions can’t be repeated, and if either of you are uncomfortable with a question, you can ask to have it replaced with another question.

Tell her you want to play the game, explain the rules, and to start you can ask moderately sexual questions like, “What was your first kiss?” As the game progresses, ask progressively more sexual questions. Because it’s a game, nothing is off limits, and if you go too far, she can just pass to the next question.

The question game will allow you to comfortably bring sex into your conversation, and as she thinks about sex, she will naturally associate those thoughts with the person she is talking to, namely, you.


Integrate these five triggers for sexual attraction into your interactions with women and most women you meet will desire you. Women want to meet men who turn them on, but so few guys get it, so few men understand what really make a girl feel sexual attraction. These guys try to prove themselves with impressive jobs, nice cars, and big muscles. But women don’t want any of these things as much as they want a man who makes them feel good, use the techniques outlined in this article, and you can be confident in the fact that you will give women what they really want.

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Title The Five Triggers for Sexual Attraction
Author Transformationalpsyc
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Date 15 March 2017 06:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]MrAnderzon212 points213 points  (7 children) | Copy

This should go on the sidebar

[–]rigbed65 points66 points  (5 children) | Copy

The first point about anxiety is gold, I heard it before but only recently, surprised pook didn't mention it

[–]1htbf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never knew about it but it's amazing.

[–]hax341230 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Where can I find the book of pook?

[–]whistleclick0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm still a new reader and I concur

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[–]5kevin72 points73 points  (5 children) | Copy

Long time lurker. One of the most helpful, clarifying and straight-to-the-point posts I have seen concerning sexual attraction which is hands down the most important topic that is discussed in this sub. Bravo , sidebar material.

[–]Obwalden4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

"Long time lurker", Your comment history says otherwise

i agree with you tho

[–]stylesm114 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe he made an account to start commenting

[–]Obwalden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

His first comment was in this sub a year ago

[–]imn0tg00d49 points50 points  (6 children) | Copy

I always hear "Do you say that to all your girls?" or "Do you always bring home random girls you met the same night?"

[–]5kevin98 points99 points  (2 children) | Copy

"Only the pretty ones "

"Sometimes they bring me to theirs" Or "Depends how good their first impression is"

[–]feelhuman8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Sometimes they bring me to theirs"

That's brilliant.

[–]imn0tg00d5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good response. I just turn around and ask them the same question. I never answer it though.

[–]Nogaz12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

When they say that I know for a fact I will smash. Treat it as a sign that she sees you as high value

[–]imn0tg00d7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well yeah. I know that they will smash. They usually say that as I am kissing them or after we have already had sex.

[–]Shaman66245 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't you read shit test theory this one always comes up as the most basic shit test

[–]twatbutters73 points74 points  (16 children) | Copy

Good post; eye contact is generally a good sign of how confident an individual is. If you pay close attention, most overweight or scrawny weak men can't maintain eye contact in social situations. Instead they go to their phone or look around the room like idiots. To add to this, their lack of confidence seeps into how they talk as well-- they often stutter, include unnecessary words like "umm," into their sentences, etc. Eye contact (as long as you're not using it awkwardly) conveys confidence and power. If you lack the ability to use it well, practice it by just letting go of your hamster that tells you that it's awkward or rude.

[–]LymanRP37 points38 points  (4 children) | Copy

Good post; eye contact is generally a good sign of how confident an individual is.

Spot on. I don't think a lot of people don't realize that simply making direct eye contact in conversation greatly boosts your perceived confidence and SMV. One of the things that I've found surprising is how often people, notably women, will look down when I make eye contact.

[–]caP1taL1sm11 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

Looking down while breaking eye contact is a sign of submission. Women do this on purpose because they're submitting to you, who is maintaining strong eye contact.

The takeaway is to NOT look down while breaking eye contact. Look to the side, or up, but never down. I know women like me when the tension builds between us and she keeps fluttering her eyes up and down because she can't withstand my gaze.

And this is within the framework that for me, eye contact was a huge problem and one that was causing me difficulties in a variety of social situations. I'd say about a solid 25% of my "gains" socially and sexually have come directly from being more comfortable with eye contact and using it to my advantage.

[–]LymanRP8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

That definitely makes sense. When you say looking down is a sign of submission, could that be interpreted as attraction? Say I walk by a girl, make direct eye contact and she looks down... does that mean she potentially sees me as attractive and dominant and would be open for an approach?

[–]Oz70NYC34 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

About 2 weeks ago I'm in a meeting with a potential client. 2 females, an art auditor and her assistant. Boss lady is well over the wall, early mid 40s. Decent looking, but you can tell she must spend money to maintain the looks she still has. Assistant is about early 30s I'd say. A bit more attractive then her boss, but clearly not as intense. Both are about an HB6-7, with the younger one having 8 potential in a more "formal" setting.

So boss lady is explaining her needs of my firm to my partner and I. Like I said, she intense. First generation feminist intense. It's clear to me she's used to getting her demands met from the tone of her speech. So I decide to play a game. As she's speaking I stare into her eyes with unwavering intent. After a few minutes she notices and gives a quick glance before looking away nervously. Every so often she'd look back to see if I had stopped, but I didn't. So she'd try to maintain focus on my associate, a female.

I decided the assistant should get the same treatment. I divert my gaze from boss lady to her, and unlike boss lady, she can't look away. She grins that shy girl grin, twiddles her hair...about every non verbal tell a woman can do to say "I want your cock"...she did. So I switch between both of them over the course of the next 15 or so minutes, and I notice now boss lady is gazing with longing eyes at me as well, but when I look at her, she looks down, fiddles with her paper work, checks her phone or so on.

The meeting comes to an end, and we agree to terms. I customarily seal the deal with drinks or dinner later in the night to go over things more formally with new clients. Here's where it gets interesting. First off, boss lady decides where we'll meet, a quiant little bar in Chelsea not far from her office. I show up and they're both waiting, boss lady looking fit as fuck, and the assistant confirming my HB8 theory. I immediately surmise talking business wasn't in the cards. Not tonight.

Long story short, they both mention how beautiful my eyes are, and how my gaze is "intoxicating" as boss lady said. I don't usually mix business and pleasure...but here I had 2 pretty women starving for dick it woukd seem. Who am I not to help the needy? Turns out this wasn't the first time they "shared". I leave the details to your own imaginations. So yes...I can vouch for the power of eye contact. It's been in my tool box since my early 20s.

[–]StudntRdyTeachrApear2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awesome post. It's about being bold enough to do what is uncomfortable to most. To be audacious enough to blatantly assert dominance can seem unnatural to those who associate it with a lack of civility, when really the most powerful and attractive men in the world do this to the dismay of male onlookers, and to the approval of female recipients.

[–]JJCXV points points [recovered] | Copy

"Turns out this wasn't the first time they "shared"."

I believed you till this.

[–]Oz70NYC11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Believe what you want, fella. I don't share stories for imaginary internet cool points. I share to give examples of my results putting RP principles into practice. It only seems unreal because in your mind you're still not bold enough to push limits. That's your problem, not mine.

[–]RomanEgyptian11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm from a a culture where it is rude to maintain eye contact. As soon as I got over it results increased :)

[–]twatbutters4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Context is important-- if you're in business settings or social settings where these people are not there, use eye contact. If you're in the type of cultural setting where it's considered rude (e.g. South or East Asian cultures), then by all means, don't do it.

[–]RomanEgyptian4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely, took some time to get used to but like you said context is key

[–]theONE8436633 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bruh... do u know how long it took for me to stop using 'uhmmm' and 'uhhhh' in conversations? Replacing that with silence was so difficult to get used to.

[–]kelvin_condensate6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, you don't need to pay that much attention. Their behavior is that of a beaten animal.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I realized the anxiety argument when I was like 18. Whenever I felt anxious it meant that I needed to do something, and put my mind into figuring out what it was, and then tried to do it.

[–]blasted_biscuits7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good post. Well formatted with stellar examples of each point. The sexual tension section is gold. I've seen it time and time again. Don't fight female nature, learn to use it to your advantage.

[–]funinsun107 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

5 real triggers... 1. Have a good job 2. Have resources 3. Have SMV 4. Be giving 5. Be top 10% in looks and personality

[–]Andy1Dandy points points [recovered] | Copy

Another point: the very act of confident, DIRECT, cold-approach also generates some attraction, I think.

Suggestion for your books: can you please cover (with detailed example conversation transcripts): how to really convey "mystery" and how to effectively build "sexual tension". Let me explain this scenario:

  • Step 1: Cold-approach -> phone # close.
  • Step 2: Date (drinks or coffee) a week after the initial number close. So, attraction has fizzled out a bit as it has been week+ usually. But most girls still come out.
  • Step 3: Pull to your apartment (which is conveniently close to date-venue)

Now, I'm struggling with "Step 2". At times, I go from step 2 to step 3 with no problems. But at times I don't. And I think here is the difference: dates I successfully pull to my apartment are the ones where they are subtly starting to chase me. The dates I don't, I think give away too much validation and don't get them to chase me.

So, how do you handle this "conversationally" ? I'm usually a very direct person. My approach is direct. My text asking them for date is direct (Melissa. Nice meeting you. Let's do 7pm, tomorrow, XYZ bar). And it usually gets the girl to come out to hang (very few flakes). But this directness creates problems in (most of my) dates. Girl already knows I think she is beautiful and I want to bang her.

Can you please add couple of chapters on first and second dates. Let's say, you are having a drink. Now, how to remain (somewhat direct) and yet get them to chase you. Can you include some sample/example conversations between girl-guy so I can try to model some of my interactions like that.

Other things like: intent, sexual topics, eye contact are taken care of. I struggle with "mystery" and getting them to chase me everytime When I do get them to chase me, it is unconscious (I'm usually in state) and seldom remember what I said/did. It's hard to even stealthily audio-record myself because the venue usually has some music playing.

So, I want to consciously understand what is the (generally accepted to be the) right thing to say in order to trigger sexual attraction. I want to model my conversation/interaction in a way that it generates attraction.

I struggle with "mysteriousness" because even after giving some funny non-answers (What do you do? As little as possible), I still have to eventually give right answers in the date and that takes away mystery.

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks for the suggestions. The simplest way you can get girls to chase you more, especially on dates, is to send mixed signals (I.e. disqualify).

  1. You can tell her she reminds you of the sister you never had and that you're really comfortable talking to her.

  2. You can tell her that it's so rare for you to meet a girl who you feel like you can be friends with and have a nice platonic conversation with.

  3. You can point out a guy in the area and say he seems like your date's type and ask if she wants you to talk to him for her.

These all will make her doubt if you're really interested in her sexually and that doubt is intriguing while also getting her ego involved, now she will want to prove that she's sexually attractive to you.

You can also do takeaways, act like something she said was really dumb and say that after she said that you have to leave. Then actually start walking away, you want to make her think you might actually be leaving, this will make her feel she has to chase you.

[–]Andy1Dandy points points [recovered] | Copy


*1 This helps. In your book, perhaps you can elaborate on it a lot more. Like post some typical conversation/banter that can go on for 5 minutes. Lot of it mundane but highlight the disqualify/tease bits sprinkled in the 5 minute banter. Because not the whole 5 minutes can be full of disqualification/teases. Only a few sprinkled in between normal conversations.

I'm imagining a steady rhythm of conversation with few spikes (disqualifies) sprinkled in.

*2 Can you also share examples of being mysterious? I can be mysterious for only so long (what do you do? As little as possible. No, really, what do you do? well, it's embarrassing, I was smuggled into the United States I can't talk about what I do much. Haha. no, be serious, what do you do? Fine. Fine. I'm an Engineer. But not the kinds you think. What kinds then? Oh.. I get paid to engineer escapes of aliens from Area 51. Oh..shut the fuck up. What do you do? Fine. I'm a Software Engineer. Geek. Nerd. Cool?)

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It's unlikely that kind of thing will make it into a book (at least of that scope), however I'm working on a video product that will cover what you're asking for here with infield footage.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Subscribed, I gotta read more.

[–]theoneandonly13214 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Harvard scientists ran a study in which they caused participants to feel socially anxious by making them give a speech in front of an audience

Wasn't able to find this...could you post a link?

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear22212 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid post. Too often I get caught up in the notion of not looking in the eyes of women I find attractive to separate myself from those oogling at her all the time. But there is a balance there. A deep stare and smirk into her eyes every so often probably works wonder. Will try it at the gym this evening and get back with you all.

EDIT: well they are definitely intimidated by me despite being 5'9. Im jacked though. I'd say its hit or miss, some smiled some seemed offput. I'll keep trying it.

[–]merryhexmas2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is fantastic and spot on. I really have only been utilizing eye contact and had to consciously force myself into habit to do it over the past couple years. I didn't even know it had any effect but then I read about primal triggers and wouldn't you know it it worked like a charm. Seriously if all you can take away from this is one thing learn to master seductive eye contact.

At first since you're not used to holding eye contact the very idea of holding it is really hard because instincts train you to look away. You have to physically battle to get over this one. Once you do you don't forcefully stare at her because that intensity gives off the wrong vibe. You can start with your eyes a little wider when she catches your eyes and then gradually soften them until they're in a relaxed state but still penetrating. Do this a couple times and she is yours. It works so well because you are conveying intent with your gaze, you are showing her confidence by not flinching away, it creates tension because she will be the first to look away, it establishes dominance when she does, and it sets the frame of the date to being sexually charged.

[–]monadyne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When training yourself to be able to sustain direct eye contact, here's a trick: focus your gaze at the bridge of the person's nose. To them, it appears that you're looking into their eyes.

[–]jjk356 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy moly this is hilarious.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

5 triggers for sexual attraction:

  1. You are physically attractive.

  2. You don't care about her.

  3. You don't care about her.

  4. You don't care about her.

  5. You don't care about her.

[–]aherne180 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Pretty much. It's easy to appear valuable when she holds not value to you, but you have to be physically attractive to make any impression.

IF you are attractive, the more beautiful she is, the more she falls for you in direct relation of how little you fall for her.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

the more beautiful she is, the more she falls for you in direct relation of how little you fall for her.

Bingo. It's so important, when gaming 8s and up, to ignore her beauty and appear only slightly interested.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honest this line

to become mysterious, I just didn’t talk to girls. Maybe this did cause me to create an aura of mystery

is so true , I just realize my mistake.

[–]truthseeker2011 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can vouch for the eye contact thing, especially if you have nice looking eyes, it can be a deadly combo.

[–]ecosci1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

All you need is confidence and options which will help with anxiety towards women and social situations practice eye contact everyday until it becomes natural and learn more about female nature because these strategies wont work half the time women are fickle creatures.

[–]MrAnderzon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's why they say for dates to do some type of activity instead of the usual dinner and a movie.

[–]Terdmuffin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is one of the best and most easily applicable posts I've seen in a long time. The part about nervousness vs excitement really resonates with me and to be honest I should should considered trp Canon.

[–]1sezamus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pure, meritorical gold. A one in a month post.

I really liked the intent part and I confirm that. E.g. military P.F. tests (difficult ones) cause a lot of stress and anxiety that can drain you off your energy or give you a double boost dependently on your mindset.

[–]Legionnaire900 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Great post, thank you.

Can you link names/ url of experiments?

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Mutual gaze and attraction: attraction: Huston, T. L., and Levinger, G. (1978). “Interpersonal Attraction and Relationships,” Annual Review of Psychology 29:115–56.

Reframing anxiety as excitement:

Bridge study/misattribution of arousal:

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

absence of fear + physical fitness = (sexual) attractiveness imo

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The TL;DR for the entire TRP.

[–]newName5434560 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You forgot kino: perhaps the biggest trigger of them all.

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It does build a lot of attraction. But if you kino and a girl doesn't like you there's a solid risk of making her uncomfortable, therefore having the opposite effect. That's why I don't label it as a trigger, unless you're very skilled at calibrating it's better to save it for when you're confident that a girl already likes you.

[–]Waltthizzney7070 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Question: doesnt playing the question game remove all mystery from you?

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a bit of a misconception. Mystery might seem like it means playing your cards to the chest, but what makes someone mysterious (in my opinion) isn't that at all. Mystery is when someone stands out as different from other people, that difference is intriguing and makes you want to know more.

[–]AveVictoria0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

These are the sort of posts I come to TRP for. Well done OP.

The "I feel excited" study you mentioned stood out particularly for me. I remember being anxious/nervous before and during an exam. Then something clicked; I thought about how good it would feel to finish this exam. Those feelings of anxiety were replaced with euphoria, I'd never felt anything quite like it in my life, it was almost like being drunk.

Anyways I passed the exam and got the highest grade possible (Australian) on that subject.

[–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_77910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“I bet you don’t meet a guy like me every day.”

When she asks what's so special about you what do you say?

[–]Adustar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Probably the best post in here ,that I ever came across.Big ups to the OP.

[–]yayaja670 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is an awesome post, with a lot of actionable advice. Thanks!

[–]falecf40 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Great post, bookmarked. Subbed to your site!

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it. Curious, are there any topics in particular you'd like to see an article about?

[–]falecf40 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Out of the 5, mystery would be my weakest point. I'm so open about everything I don't always leave a lot to the imagination. Beyond that, I'm just working on building my life.

[–]pevans120 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This post stands on its in feet. It needs no help. A lot of shit around here is vague or grossly overly explained. I read this three times

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it. Are there any other subjects you'd like to see an article about?

[–]DarkRenaissance0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Amazing post. Well written and straight to the point.

[–]Transformationalpsyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks! Will post more in the future, is there anything in particular you'd like to see an article about?

[–]Elfclan30-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice. Gonna finish reading this later

[–]LOST_TALE-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why Women Have Sex

have you read that book?

What else have you learned from it?

[–]Atuli-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Brilliant post. Understanding just these concepts alone will sky-rocket your success with women.

[–]stormyge-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love how you proved you your points with scientific studies! Great post!

[–]Eastuss-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

TIL I am natural at it and why GF hates when I talk to other women.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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