I need stability but he is ugly

Honest_Solution · 2020-05-12T13:13:31+00:00

Honestly it sounds like he’s the one who “settled” for a used up whore that ran out of options. You cant trust women when they say they “dated model types” because it could be a mother fucker looking like Post Malone for all we know.

Aldabruzzo · 2020-05-12T13:19:22+00:00

The PPD and Blue Pillers will tell you this never ever ever happens, no not ever!! Women don't marry men they're not sexually attracted to! That NEVER happens!

Of course she says to him "I didn't marry you for your looks" and then says "poor judgment on my part". Makes me wonder: was the poor judgment marrying him? Or was the poor judgment telling him she didn't marry him for his looks?

"How can I show him I like him and make him feel handsome just the way he is?"

You can't now. He knows you don't think he's handsome. He knows you don't like the way he looks. Because you told him. And have probably showed him in myriads of little different ways - the way you talk to him, condescend to him, refuse him, talk down to him, denigrate him, ridicule him. So it's too late for that now.

I know this because you said later "I used to date (i.e. get pumped and dumped by) model types, so it's WAY different." Emphasis on that WAY there. I know what that means. It means that though he's barely OK enough for you to fuck him without getting physically ill, he's certainly not up to your "standards". You're all frosty because you couldn't get one of those model types to commit, so you had to settle for your husband who does all those husband things: kind, smart, funny, and "stable".

"Strong"? Yeah, ok, maybe he's got that. That just means he's the guy who's been with you the longest and put up with your bullshit the longest. That just means emotionally strong enough to put up with your borderline personality volatility and ragebitch sessions. That just means he's strong enough to tolerate you without leaving you faster than a roadrunner.

So. Yeah. Way to go, bitch. You just fucked up your marriage/relationship. Because he will never forget what you told him. He will never forget you told him you didn't marry him for his looks. He now knows the truth about you and his relationship to you, and it will cloud and hinder your relationship as long as that relationship lasts.

And it was poor judgment on your part, on both counts: for marrying him, and for telling him you didn't marry him for his looks. He now knows, beyond all doubt, that you aren't sexually attracted to him. He now knows you don't want to fuck him. You've utterly destroyed him.

Do him a favor. Leave him. Walk away with the shirt and bra on your back, take what you took into the marriage, and leave the kids with him. Release him to find someone who really does want to fuck him. That is the kindest, most loving, most considerate thing you can do for him now.

Overkillengine · 2020-05-12T13:07:54+00:00

Never give a Chad junky access to your finances unless paying to get cuckolded is your fetish.

Because that is what will happen. You fuck up and wife her up, and once she has you on the hook financially, she will spread her legs for a "model type guy" the moment she thinks she can get away with it.

mustangfrank · 2020-05-12T14:19:56+00:00

She was a cum dumpster for male models busting a slump and thinks she used to date them.

Classic.

PlainTundra · 2020-05-12T13:27:53+00:00

This guy will need a paternity test.

drewc99 · 2020-05-12T15:13:46+00:00

Notice how she unironically used both the words "ugly" and "cute" to describe him.

Cute = ugly.

That's how women evaluate men.

As a male, if a woman ever politely describes you as "cute" , you should be very, very concerned. It means you need to get your shit together and sort out your masculinity. This is probably the first red pill I ever had to swallow. In my early 20s, I considered myself to be a thoughtful, nonthreatening looking guy with a nice face. It turns out the word for that is "ugly".

askmrcia · 2020-05-12T13:50:33+00:00

love how in relationship advice more and more woke people start to appear, 2 years ago that wasnt the case at all, its almost like the longer u play this crazy game the more people start to wake up. mostly takes getting cheated on these days sadly.

Nestroit · 2020-05-12T13:59:33+00:00

women are a liabilty anyways, avoid them.

DogFashion · 2020-05-12T15:20:39+00:00

What I gather from this is that she's attractive enough to fuck, but not attractive enough that these "model guys" would commit to her. If she was, she wouldn't be in this situation. Maybe be humble and appreciate the man who is committed to you.

VetteVet83 · 2020-05-12T15:09:52+00:00

You’re going to be ugly on the outside some day too, honey. You’re already ugly on the inside.

And chances are, you judge your own looks based on how many men are willing to fuck you. Newsflash, most men will fuck anything that is not obese and is remotely willing. Even of those men with very low standards, anyone of them that is relatively decent looking will typically not date about 80% of the women that they would willingly fuck.

I’ve got a mid-100’s N count. 15 of those ever got the “girlfriend” title. The rest weren’t good enough.

Be happy you have a husband. Most of your friends are probably jealous and would happily take him off your hands.

frikabg · 2020-05-12T19:44:56+00:00

'Sure he is no greek god...'

Lol... just LOL! Greek GOD? She thinks she deserves to be married to a greek god! Fucking christ end me! A used up whore with no moral values states that her husband is not attractive than jumps to 'he is not a god' and proceeds with 'how do i show i like him' honey... the problem is you DON'T like him? O_O What she means to ask is 'how the fuck do I manipulate my ugly husband to believe i didn't marry him for his money and resources ?'

Gentlemen I present to you the female gender. Fucking scum sucking misery feeding beings who would lie to you use you and decieve you on every step and the moment they slip and truth comes out they will do EVERYTHING in their power to get back on track because the truth will set the man they are in a relationship with free.

Greek godesses were not good enough to keep their husbands loyal but this whore thinks she is so perfect such a good girl that she actually deserves that. Just look at her values and you tell me how is this woman or any other worthy of you the average guy? They are not! They deserve the worst of the worst that men can offer and even then it will be too much for them.

Stay safe and stay free!

2020-05-12T15:00:17+00:00

I realize that (most) men and (most) women value their personal vanity differently as males and females, but can you even imagine telling your wife of 5 or 10 years, "Hey honey, I didn't exactly marry you for your looks."? She would be absolutely soul-crushed! According to her he didn't take it a fraction as hard as a woman would have, although I am sure he is masking a lot of it. At least she didn't try to say to him "I didn't really mean that", as that is usually just a poor cover for not having the self-control to keep from speaking aloud the thoughts that are in your mind. That marriage is over.

PlainTundra · 2020-05-12T14:49:07+00:00

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Demiansky · 2020-05-12T16:55:58+00:00

The tragic thing is that this guy is probably above average in the looks department, yet this woman is judging him against what she could get during short term daliances.

BluepillProfessor · 2020-05-12T15:51:20+00:00

But...sleeping around while young doesn't have any consequences. Really!

asdf333aza · 2020-05-12T16:39:08+00:00

Just another ramifications of a girls slutty phase. She gets pumped and dumped by 10s and the side effects of it carry on into later relationships. "I used to date model types", when she herself is probably a 5 at best.

2020-05-12T17:06:46+00:00

How can I gaslight and manipulate my husband and keep the gravy train flowing while I have a cock train run on me by all my side boys?

NickTesla2018 · 2020-05-12T14:16:35+00:00

Poor ugly bastard.

CrossroadsinCtown · 2020-05-12T14:36:03+00:00

this is 90% of all women

Im_a_Mime · 2020-05-12T18:05:00+00:00

She Deliberately left out the word “rich” because that would make her a gold digger. This bitch wants it all, and the one thing the guy doesn’t have is looks. She married an ugly guy for his money and probably told him she’s been with much better looking guys (who used her).

2020-05-12T18:19:39+00:00

This is why I keep telling men that you're just a paycheck to her, because you are.

brok3nlamp · 2020-05-12T16:46:12+00:00

slut.

zetaconvex · 2020-05-12T17:06:42+00:00

"You're all over the place."

Amen to that! The true purpose of her question is, presumably, disguised.

I'm going to take a complete flyer at what is really going on: she's pregnant, he's not the father, the relationship is at breaking point, and she wants to know how she can cover her tracks.

Admittedly, that's total speculation on my part, and I'm probably wrong, but she's such a confused mass of contradictions that I'm going to assume that the question is for nefarious purposes.

2020-05-12T13:08:35+00:00

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Wrathful_Buddha · 2020-05-12T15:30:44+00:00

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RedPillTruth10 · 2020-05-12T17:28:36+00:00

She cheating or gonna cheat, facts

Broncoli · 2020-05-12T17:46:32+00:00

This does show more introspection than many women are capable of, so points to her for that.

To answer her question, assuming she's honest in her intentions... he may not look like a greek god, but if you want him to believe he's "good enough," you should treat him like one.

kyledontcare · 2020-05-12T22:05:43+00:00

Major Alpha Widow. Poor dude never knew he'd never be good enough in her eyes no matter what he did. "He's just not Jay Gatsby."

imlastin · 2020-05-12T20:16:39+00:00

Lmao she goes nuts in the replies. But judging just off her nudes at her age she can’t be good looking. Pretty disgusting honestly. Wonder where her delusional ego came from.

imlastin · 2020-05-12T20:22:04+00:00

Who wants to bet he’s actually better looking than her?

0pipis · 2020-05-12T21:40:51+00:00

Jesus fucking Christ, her post history is an absolute mess.. Poor guy..

Thetrvler · 2020-05-12T17:46:34+00:00

In other words, she’s a thot who realized chad or Tyrone would offer her shelter/protection she wanted so she prostituted herself for the ugly guy because she thinks she’s better than him and can hold this against him as her value in the relationship.

mimiczx · 2020-05-12T18:05:33+00:00

I didn't marry him for his looks.

Slip level: Freudian

BenGasEmGarrison · 2020-05-12T20:13:52+00:00

I went and read the original post and that woman is legitimately mental in the replies. Delusional wall banger.

hardlifeman · 2020-05-12T21:01:43+00:00

The mistake that too many men make is expecting women to be consistent... About anything.

2020-05-12T16:28:37+00:00

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yuvrajsama · 2020-05-12T18:19:58+00:00

the comments OR REPLY has given up the answers . hAHA

chalulin · 2020-05-12T19:02:10+00:00

Solution: get a divorce and don't financially ruin him when you do. Then he can find a real quality woman (or date around) while the ex can keep getting pumped and dumped by models.

RRFdev · 2020-05-13T07:47:54+00:00

The last answer is super savage. I love it.

GiantOfTheSouthSky · 2020-05-12T22:50:58+00:00

Even the person responding is sick of their shit lmaoo

ronoda12 · 2020-05-13T08:28:30+00:00

Planet is full of garbage human beings like this women.

domoronnoc1 · 2020-05-13T16:41:50+00:00

I'm pretty sure that the "poor judgement" is referring to her telling the husband that she didnt marry him for his looks because it put doubts in his head. I don't think she's saying marrying him was a bad choice.

BlackChickenxx · 2020-05-13T00:10:44+00:00

Well that's depressing. Thanks!

justagoff · 2020-05-13T03:38:02+00:00

Didn't think the suits would have me back perhaps. Thought they'd have my derriere replaced by one of those cookie cutter store mannequins. Well maybe I'm not "the norm". I'm not "camera friendly." I don't "wear clothes that fit me." I'm not a "heartbreaker." I haven't "had sex with a woman." I don't know "how that works." I guess I don't "fall in line." I'm not "hygienic." I don't "wipe properly." I don't "own a toothbrush" or "let my scabs heal." I can't "reach all the parts of my body." When I sleep I "sweat profusely." But I guess the "powers that be" will keep signing my paycheck at least until John and Jane Q. Viewer start to go for the remote so they can go back to watching commentators who don't "frighten children" and don't "eat their own dandruff" and don't "pop their whiteheads with a compass they used in high school."

Thank you.

scaredbanana1 · 2020-05-17T00:59:02+00:00

Id tell her to say I married you for the sex lol. I’m a female and I feel like she’s trying to put things that make a woman valuable on him

loneliness-inc · 2020-05-13T00:29:24+00:00

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Title	I need stability but he is ugly
Author	_alt_acc0unt_
Upvotes	1251
Comments	133
Date	May 12, 2020 1:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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