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Caught oneitis for a plate that's NOT relationship material. Despite my logic of knowing she'd never be a halfway decent LTR I can't get the idea out if my head. Any suggestions?

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May 22, 2020

Update: I spent the night at her place last night and she started being super sweet again and we had a great time. I'm just going to enjoy this one while it lasts

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Title Caught oneitis for a plate that's NOT relationship material. Despite my logic of knowing she'd never be a halfway decent LTR I can't get the idea out if my head. Any suggestions?
Author ohyesimthatguy
Upvotes 90
Comments 70
Date 22 May 2020 10:28 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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[–]GiraffeOnWheels68 points69 points  (2 children) | Copy

You just tricked me into meditating.

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

That SOB!

[–]MrSlommy70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]mega_kook11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's dangerous to have thoughts about thots.

[–]izzyinjurious2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uff that was powerful something I needed thank you

[–]AstroBolt1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you meditate or listen to Sam Harris by any chance?

[–]MikeAlphaGolf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Replace thought with shit, and you have great advice for a constipated person.

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[–]GiraffeOnWheels6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Time changes everything.

[–]alphakari39 points40 points  (7 children) | Copy

You don't believe you're worth a better bitch.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 17 points18 points  (6 children) | Copy

Ouch. This is fucking true and it hurts. Plastic surgery it is.

[–]GiraffeOnWheels1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

For you or her?

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I don't feel like I deserve someone better than her despite knowing she ain't shit.

[–]WizardSenpai19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

then you ain't shit

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Im aware

[–]Rolfenstien13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then get doing some shit that's worth a shit. Do you get what I'm trying to say?


[–]GiraffeOnWheels2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who gives a shit what you think you “deserve”? Or what you actually do deserve. Life doesn’t give you what you’ve deserved unless you’ve earned it. You can get a lot more or a lot less.

I’m a rp guy that actually likes LTRs. I’ve dated enough r girls to get way better than I “deserve”

[–]drsherbert24 points25 points  (4 children) | Copy

Think of yourself as the sun ☀️You shine the light.The women in your life are your planets. Keep your planets in orbit. Sometimes you gotta move mercury out to Pluto or maybe just to Mars. Depends how bad your oneitis is. You have to balance your solar system.

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[–]AlpacaStrap61 points62 points  (11 children) | Copy

You need to fuck other girls and get on your purpose. A plate is a god damn plate.

You should never be looking for an LTR. You let it come to you. You should never need a woman’s companionship.

You have a void from a lack of purpose and you’re looking to fill it with a woman.

Get on your god damn purpose. Make that bread

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 7 points8 points  (10 children) | Copy

Spot on about the void. Trying to identify my purpose has been very difficult

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your purpose is just like the rest of us.

Compete to be better than you were yesterday, and do it for you.

[–]AlpacaStrap1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Find what you love to do and work on it until you can make money from it

[–]xnesteax2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I often hear "The fastest way to kill your passion is to turn it into a business" or something like that

[–]send_it_for_the_boys1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re in complete control of that happening or not. It’s like famous musicians and race car drivers and athletes, they love to do the thing they do some get caught up in the business, or the fame and fortune aspect and as you can see there’s a high drug/alcohol abuse, suicide rate with those, but the others are just guys doing what they love to do and the money and women is just a bonus.

[–]AlpacaStrap3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

The fastest way to amplify your passion is to make money from it.

That shit you heard probably came from someone broke

[–]xnesteax0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No the meaning is more like when you turn it into a business you will grow tired of it

[–]AlpacaStrap0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have 100% control over that.

[–]MrSlommy70 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

What was said here? Been deleted

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[–]W_O_M_B_A_T10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oneitis has everything to do with self-sabotage and learned-helplessness.

This is the same type of impulse as a child who pulls all the pots and pans out of the bottom cupboard, bangs around, then sits and sobs in the mess he made all over the kitchen, to try to get the attention of his mother figure. Because you're afraid of being left out in the cold.

"if I can just get Mamma's attention some more it'll be alright.

Stop sabotaging yourself. Stop acting helpless. You're a grow-ass man and your mother figure is gone. You left home for good a long time ago. Your plate is little more than a dramatic self-destructive child herself.

[–]lolomotif126 points7 points  (13 children) | Copy

Why isn't she LTR material, give more details?

Just find more plates to spin, you probably don't have any hence why you dont have abundance. You are developing oneitis for her because you have no other options and you're pussy whipped because you have nothing better to compare with.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 18 points19 points  (12 children) | Copy

I have other plates they just don't do it for me.

I don't trust her - she was dating this guy a while back and they got into an argument so she invited me over that same night. She talks about her exes too much. Too many tats including a tramp stamp. Alpha widow. Nipples pierced. Disrespectful/ignores my texts occasionally.

[–]lolomotif1215 points16 points  (6 children) | Copy

Damn and all those red flags aren't enough?

What doesn't do it for you exactly? What does she do differently to make her above the rest?

Sounds like it's your ego and not your rationality that's doing the thinking. You need to remind yourself of these red flags everytime you think of her. Us men like a challenge and seems like she isnt giving you her full attention and it's messing with your head.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yes 100%. I notice I want her more when she plays hard to get and it drives me crazy wanting to fuck her "just one more time". When she gets needy it kills so much of the attractiveness I have for it. It's interesting to see the same emotions in myself that trp preaches from a girls perspective.

[–]lolomotif127 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Its human nature, we all want things that are hard to obtain. Sounds like she is plating you instead thou so be aware.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Interesting, thanks for that. She's a fucking pro at playing the game and she might actually be plating me.

[–]PartyPoncho4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is 100%

[–]RPAlabama3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's refreshing to see that you have enough self awareness to realize that the emotions that you are feeling is what TRP preaches. It's human nature to want what we can't have. However, when a plate or even an LTR tries to "play hard to get," you let them. If you turn into the pursuer you enter the world of living in her frame. If you're living in her frame and she's calling the shots and attraction fizzles, respect fizzles and the prize she latched onto is all of a sudden available and is no longer desirable.

Even though this plate has undeniable red flags, soft next her next time she says something disrespectful or ignores your texts. You gotta work on your inner game if you want this plate to ultimately chase afte ryou.

[–]bluefingerblue3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah dude. Once you get to a point of a abundance, like all girls have, you realize just how off putting it is when chicks are desperate for your sack.

It’s like relax bitch I got other shit to do. Maybe if you just chilled out I’d see you again, but this desperation is so off putting.

Then you realize that’s how they feel when you’re on the other side of it. Really puts it into perspective how much being needy kills your chances.

[–]Hypnot0ad2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sounds hot lol, you sound like me.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

She's so fucking slutty I love it. First girl to give me head in a crowded restaurant.

[–]RedderNow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

LOL from her description you don't need to worry even if you get into an LTR. She would cheat/frustrate you within months and it would end if you don't act like a moron. Keep it simple. Fuck her but remember she is just a fuck toy.

[–]zephenrage2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not gonna lie. She sounds fun. But...once you’ve been with a woman who rocks your world the same way as this one they’ll have less power over you. For me when a pretty girl gets out of hand I just sit back and remember “I’ve been with chicks who have way better bodies. I ain’t afraid to kick you out to the curb with the rest of the trash.”

[–]jaznex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you just described all females lol

[–]BIitheFooI5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Spend less time with her. If she’s already on the way out, begin to do fun things on your own or with buds, or other chicks.

If you still have her, just enjoy it but make sure you make memories and spend time with other women or friends. She’ll fuck it up and make herself unattractive eventually. They always do. It’s just a matter of time, unfortunately.

It’s okay to want to be more and commit. It’s in our nature. But they’ll eventually disappoint in a way that slams you back down to reality.

[–]Rkingpin8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Keep fucking and inevitably the garbage hoe inside her will reveal itself, opening your eyes to the true depths of her slutiness. This will open your eyes whereas ghosting will always make you wonder "what if"

[–]AA73 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might even help fully digest the red pill about female nature

[–]Snowboard182 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If its fucking badly with your head, you could always just ghost her even though its a hard thing to do.

[–]IlluminatiHunter6662 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

holy water

[–]IXseed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to your logic. Ain't no room for feelings in the pimp game. Oneitis is from feelings.

[–]NobodyP17 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been their done that got the t-shirt for it. Don’t ever talk to her again, don’t listen to Music that reminds you of her, work on yourself, alone with everything red pill talks about.

[–]longjeep20051 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck other girls.

[–]spartan_samurai1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are addicted to her presence in your life.

Keep yourself busy with other plates and as time passes the thoughts of her will fade out.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s not yours its just your turn

[–]kclanton802 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

A plate is only a plate of you are spinning multiples. Feelings usually develop when you don't have other women, and you start spending a little too much time with one....spending the night, seeing her multiple times a week etc..

Now that you have feels for her, there is no easy way out. I would advise watching some red pill content to make her flaws even more obvious, and to keep you in a Correct mindset. Aside from that, look to meet other women. I know it's hard these days.

The feelings probably won't leave until a while after she sucks...I have been there. We all have. If you really know she ain't worth shit at all, sometimes it's better to cut her rather than have her cut you, or do some ho type shit that really ends up hurting you.

[–]ohyesimthatguy[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, I have other plates but I don't enjoy spending time with them like I do with the oneitis

[–]kclanton802 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then the others aren't quality plates most likely....keep the same standards for you plates if possible....if you have An 8 and a 6, of course your going with 8 more often.

Your oneitis stems somewhat from her probably being one of the most attractive women you have had. You start to think that you can't get another like her...but you can, and even better.

No easy way out of those feelings but you we make it work.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Block. No contact.

[–]SteveSan820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read The Rational Male.

[–]Queasy-Track0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

aghh, youth; enjoy the feeling, it happens not often in a lifetime.

[–]ImBiButClaimImStr80 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn I'm in the same situation and don't know what to do as well

Why she isn't LTR material? What are her red flags?

[–]tenrag38990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sure we've literally all been there. We've all also more than likely made the mistake of ignoring the red flags. I know I have before. Save yourself the trouble. It ends bad and you know it already, cut contact and work on yourself.

[–]legitniga-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just date her for a while for the vibe. It’ll probably help u learn ur lesson.

[–]Gtrplyr3838-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You probably have to walk away. The ones that give you mind-blowing sex can be hard to leave. Been there and done that. I found that I could only dump them after I was completely fucked out. If I was the least bit horny, I would go right back there.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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